I have 2 questions? Anyone please help me to know...

[Guest Fae ME]

Hello everyone,

I have 2 questions, please help me to discover this issue:

1. If any Daddy breaks any rule then how Little can punish him? For example, this is a general conception that Daddy must explain the reason for punishment before punishing his little one. If he forgets to do that (innocently, not intentionally), then he is in breach of the general DDLG rule. If Little holds her Daddy guilty and she wants to punish him, then what type of punishment she can give?
2. Why there is no journaling system for Daddy? Little will write in her journal and Daddy will get easy access to know her, BUT why the same is not applicable to Daddies?

I have curiosity and so asking. I am not going to punish anyone. So please share your thoughts with me. 

[Cebakes]

Well, you probably want to have written rules established in advance that include punishment.  You need to establish what your daddy likes, then take it away.  TV, watching his favorite sports team on tv, internet, porn, masturbation, take his car or phone away,  quickly come to mind.  Maybe ground him or take sex away. 

Daddy’s having journals isn’t something I’ve heard much of,  but it’s never a bad thing to put your thoughts down on paper.  I’ve done it.  I never knew letting daddies read your journal was a thing? Isn’t a journal private and personal? That never entered my mind with my middles. 

[gemmy]

Regarding your first question, I think that depends on your agreement. Not all CGL relationships have a power balance or at least a traditional one in the sense that a CG is always a D-type. So it's totally within the realm of possibility to set up punishments the same way you would for a traditional little. That said, I'm not sure how it would work in the case where a CG is the dominant one.

The journal idea is so cute. I've had little journals before and the opposite could have so many possibilities. Have you thought about what you'd want a Daddy journal to look like?

[Little kaiya]

For your first question I find myself pausing at the concept of "the general DDlg rule". DDlg is what each couple makes of it in my mind. There isn't some standard rule that magically applies to everyone. Personally I have ZERO interest in holding my Daddy guilty. If there's an issue in our relationship that we need to talk through then we do so as adults not as some form of "I got you so you're being punished". I just have no interest in punishing my partner/Daddy.

For the second question, I don't have a journal, have never had one and don't want one. It's just not anything that has ever interested me. I'm a very communicative person so when I want to know something about my partner I ask and we talk about it. If I did have a journal then it wouldn't be open to my Daddy it would be private.

Not every relationship is the same so just as there is no general DDlg rule, I would also say there is no generally accepted rule thst Caregivers get automatic access to a little's journal if they have one.

[Guest Fae ME]

3 hours ago, Cebakes said:

Well, you probably want to have written rules established in advance that include punishment.  You need to establish what your daddy likes, then take it away.  TV, watching his favorite sports team on tv, internet, porn, masturbation, take his car or phone away,  quickly come to mind.  Maybe ground him or take sex away. 

Daddy’s having journals isn’t something I’ve heard much of,  but it’s never a bad thing to put your thoughts down on paper.  I’ve done it.  I never knew letting daddies read your journal was a thing? Isn’t a journal private and personal? That never entered my mind with my middles. 

Thanks for your reply. Actually, I don't have a Daddy. I am just exploring. 

Your ideas are excellent about my first question and about journal question, I would love to say that I am talking about the DDLG journal where Little write, and only Daddy can read that journal. I read in books. I don't have personal experience. So, I thought that if Little can in a DDLG journal, Daddy can also write for Little to read it? 

[Guest Fae ME]

2 hours ago, Little kaiya said:

For your first question I find myself pausing at the concept of "the general DDlg rule". DDlg is what each couple makes of it in my mind. There isn't some standard rule that magically applies to everyone. Personally I have ZERO interest in holding my Daddy guilty. If there's an issue in our relationship that we need to talk through then we do so as adults not as some form of "I got you so you're being punished". I just have no interest in punishing my partner/Daddy.

For the second question, I don't have a journal, have never had one and don't want one. It's just not anything that has ever interested me. I'm a very communicative person so when I want to know something about my partner I ask and we talk about it. If I did have a journal then it wouldn't be open to my Daddy it would be private.

Not every relationship is the same so just as there is no general DDlg rule, I would also say there is no generally accepted rule thst Caregivers get automatic access to a little's journal if they have one.

I must say that you are a very sweet person. 

[Guest Fae ME]

2 hours ago, gemmy said:

Regarding your first question, I think that depends on your agreement. Not all CGL relationships have a power balance or at least a traditional one in the sense that a CG is always a D-type. So it's totally within the realm of possibility to set up punishments the same way you would for a traditional little. That said, I'm not sure how it would work in the case where a CG is the dominant one.

The journal idea is so cute. I've had little journals before and the opposite could have so many possibilities. Have you thought about what you'd want a Daddy journal to look like?

Thanks for your reply. Have you thought about what you'd want a Daddy journal to look like: No because I don't have any Daddy. Suddenly these questions came in mind and I asked. Just exploring. 

[MissNMTX]

Punishments for a Daddy seems so strange to me. Of course I only want a Daddy who is the D type in our dynamic. I think you should have the equality or " I do this, you do that" should be established from the very beginning. Of course, if your daddy forgets something. Talk to him. Communicate your concerns and observations.  If you can't freely speak with him...at the least you need to work on your commutation within your dynamic.

As for the journal idea, I like that idea...in theory. I'm a very curious person. I'm always trying to learn and grow. I've always wanted to know how the D type mind works! What activates what, etc. However, maybe it's just semantics, the use of the word journal, but the thought of reading someone's journal makes me feel a bit like a creeper. Journals are meant to be private spaces where you work out the things in your mind. Everyone is allowed time and space to work things through... even daddies.

Generally speaking, I think if you have a question, concern, or are just curious the best, more mature thing to do really is just to ask... just talk to the person your meant to be able to freely speak to.

[Guest Fae ME]

@MissNMTX  I can command not only Littles, but I can also command Daddies and hold Daddies guilty for their faults. But the fortunate thing for Daddies is I do not want to have a Daddy anymore because someone hurt me so badly 2 years before that no further I have any courage to have Daddies. I just need friends because I am moving to London. So, I wish to meet my friend in London and can have a relaxing chat once in a month, if possible. But just thinking about these questions that how could a Little punish her Daddy? Believe me, it is fun for Daddies too.

Punishment Idea for Daddies: I think punishing Daddies will be fun. I have some punishment ideas for Daddies like

1) Kiss my forehead until say "love you".

2) Cuddle me for the next 2 hours.

3) Complete my homework on my behalf.

About Daddy Journal:

1) What is going on in your mind about your day?

2) What are you planning inside your mind for your little?

3) What are the reasons behind your planning this for your little?

What do you think about this?

I would love to know @MissNMTX your as well as others' thoughts on these issues, please?

Edited April 22, 2023 by Faerie Tikli

[Sanguine]

Hello Faerie Tikli,

Regarding punishments for DDs, I'm afraid I have no experience on the subject and therefore can't speak much on it. I can say that I do have rules that I must follow as well, but not many. Those rules ensure trust and safety for my little, and within the relationship. If I break one of those rules, my little knows she can approach me as she has done in the past to discuss the matter with me. I would then apologise and correct the error, as I would in any other aspect of our relationship.

Regarding keeping a diary, this is something I do. I have a small black book that I bought from a local Waterstones for about £15. It isn't dated, but is lined so I can write notes on my little. I keep my little's rules in the diary, and she is able to review them on request. Otherwise, she is forbidden from looking through the diary. I format the diary by month, writing comments each separated by a blank line. For example:

~

"April 2023

L broke X rule, she was punished by writing lines.

L was given a new rule, she must make the bed each morning before getting up.

L was well behaved. She informed me of her comings and goings through the whole week, and was rewarded with ice cream."

~

I would recommend to all DDs to keep a diary on their little/s. I found it prevents issues with consistency which is important in maintaining a position of dominance in your relationship. The diary also serves well to keep reminders of how many times a rule is broken. This is especially helpful when figuring out whether a certain rule isn't working for your little for reasons outside of bratting; perhaps they aren't mentally capable or in a stable enough frame of mind to be doing X or Y.

If anybody would like further guidance on keeping or starting a DD diary, please do reach out.

Yours,

Sanguine

[Guest Fae ME]

Your little is a lucky girl. Happy for you and your little. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.