Need advice from a daddy

[Blueybluex]

My daddy keeps letting his actual daughter play with my little space stuff like toys and bath toys and toothpaste etc. It’s upsetting me and I know it shouldn’t as I am an actual adult, but my little brain is irritated by it 

 

what do I do?  I dunno how to talk about it without sounding greedy or something and he also doesn’t like when I’m bratty or sad 

[BurrSir]

Try explaining to him that letting someone else, even if it’s just his daughter, play with your items, it’s like you letting your friend drive his car. 

[Little kaiya]

I'm not a Daddy but I did discuss your question with my Daddy and we both agreed.

Your littlespace stuff is yours and it also is part of a dynamic that is between two consenting adults. Your Daddy allowing his actual daughter to play with those toys or items starts blending your littlespace with his actual daughter which, for us, just doesn't feel right.

In terms of solutions, talk to him. You have every right to your feelings and you have the right to express them to him. This isn't you being greedy, this is you having an adult to adult discussion with your partner and establishing clear boundaries about what you are and aren't ok with. If you haven't said anything then he can't really be expected to do anything about it.

Edited April 14, 2023 by Little kaiya

[beanbean]

I think you need to talk to your daddy let him know it's yours  and you have a connection with it .if that doesn't work keep it up where she can't get it

[Taggy]

What others said here as well. Those are yours and if you don't want to share them that is a valid boundary he has to accept. Stating a boundary is not bratting, never. And stating a boundary is not 'beeing sad'. Just discus is, or better just say that you feel uncomfortable with it and don't want it to happen anymore.

[Cebakes]

I’m sorry that you are still dealing with this. I looked back, and we did chat about this last year. Both privately and here on the forum.  This is the same guy who let his daughter use a fragrance or something to smell like you.  You posted that here, and multiple people raised concerns about this. 

This guy is absolutely crossing boundaries and there is something creepy about what he is doing.   You were also pretty open with me about something else with this guy.  His actions aren’t normal and  his behavior at a minimum, is very unhealthy.

I would urge you to let others here DM you and counsel you.  His actions are certainly impacting your relationship, but more importantly, his daughter. This is why DDLG gets a bad name.

 

 

 

 

 

Edited April 14, 2023 by Cebakes

[Blueybluex]

2 hours ago, Cebakes said:

I’m sorry that you are still dealing with this. I looked back, and we did chat about this last year. Both privately and here on the forum.  This is the same guy who let his daughter use a fragrance or something to smell like you.  You posted that here, and multiple people raised concerns about this. 

This guy is absolutely crossing boundaries and there is something creepy about what he is doing.   You were also pretty open with me about something else with this guy.  His actions aren’t normal and  his behavior at a minimum, is very unhealthy.

I would urge you to let others here DM you and counsel you.  His actions are certainly impacting your relationship, but more importantly, his daughter. This is why DDLG gets a bad name.

 

 

 

 

 

I know  I thought it had gotten better but it just all started back again, I’m wondering if this is becoming a cycle where he listens to what I say for a while and then just goes back to his old ways. I put away some of my bath toys so she doesn’t use them but then ones she’s already played with I don’t even want anymore so I just threw them on her side because now my special connection to them is tainted. 

[Cebakes]

16 minutes ago, Dinorawrx said:

I know  I thought it had gotten better but it just all started back again, I’m wondering if this is becoming a cycle where he listens to what I say for a while and then just goes back to his old ways. I put away some of my bath toys so she doesn’t use them but then ones she’s already played with I don’t even want anymore so I just threw them on her side because now my special connection to them is tainted. 

That’s too bad that this is continuing. Generally, it’s hard for adults to change behavior patterns and actions.  You shared something else with me, does he still do that?  

[beanbean]

It's been happening for a while now time to put your foot down or let it go . Putting your foot down means telling him it not happening again or else

[MissNMTX]

If this is indeed the same that was discussed several months ago. I remember there being huge red flags involved..of course all of this can be discussed privately. Generally speaking however, not having respect for your things or your boundaries boils down to a lack of respect for you and that requires a lot more than a conversation.

[Guest Runa]

This seems like a difficult situation for you, Dino. More so as others have indicated it's happened before and have been other issues.

I believe there has to be a clear divide when it comes to your things, you littlespace, and children.

Also, I totally understand how it would make you feel uncomfy and jealous. Those are your belongings. I'd be annoyed if my kids used my things big or small!

It sounds like you have people to talk to about this but I offer a listening ear if you need it.

[Cebakes]

14 minutes ago, Runagh said:

This seems like a difficult situation for you, Dino. More so as others have indicated it's happened before and have been other issues.

I believe there has to be a clear divide when it comes to your things, you littlespace, and children.

Also, I totally understand how it would make you feel uncomfy and jealous. Those are your belongings. I'd be annoyed if my kids used my things big or small!

It sounds like you have people to talk to about this but I offer a listening ear if you need it.

Yes, it would be nice if she had some Littles from here to discuss things in confidence with via dm. 

[MasterPhotog]

On 4/13/2023 at 9:52 PM, Dinorawrx said:

My daddy keeps letting his actual daughter play with my little space stuff like toys and bath toys and toothpaste etc. It’s upsetting me and I know it shouldn’t as I am an actual adult, but my little brain is irritated by it 

 

what do I do?  I dunno how to talk about it without sounding greedy or something and he also doesn’t like when I’m bratty or sad 

Your Daddy's behavior is not only wrong but also completely unacceptable, being a Daddy, he should know better. It's like someone wearing your clothes or driving your car without your permission.

I would suggest talking to your Daddy and asking him to stop this behavior, as she is his daughter. If he is not willing to talk to her, then consider speaking to your her yourself.

Best of luck!

[Vampiress]

He seems to have a severe lack of understanding boundaries and respect. You are entitled to having your own things seperate of her... but it's also just incredibly creepy the way he handles both you and his daughter. He shouldn't be letting things overlap between his relationship with you and the way he takes care of her.

[Sanguine]

Hello Dinorawrx,

Speaking as an outsider to your relationship, I agree with what most are saying in this thread. If I had children, I would personally do my utmost to avoid my child running into items that are related or belong to my little. To me that feels like common sense, and not just preference.

I would agree specifically with what @Vampiress said:

On 4/15/2023 at 9:20 AM, Vampiress said:

He shouldn't be letting things overlap between his relationship with you and the way he takes care of her.

DDlg is a personal dynamic that wouldn't often be shared with family members or even close friends. What he is doing is actually allowing his daughter into your dynamic by encouraging her to engage with items that directly relate to your little space, in turn, violating your little space.

In my opinion, this should be taken as a red flag.

Yours,

Sanguine

[DaddyDragon88]

On 4/14/2023 at 1:06 PM, Dinorawrx said:

 so I just threw them on her side because now my special connection to them is tainted. 

This alone should be enough of a reason for him to stop doing it. Your feelings are valid and you are not "bratty" for feeling this way. You should talk to him outside of your dynamic as adults

[strait]

the best think is try to get friendship to his daughter, i think he can encourage also her to do that

[MotoDaddy]

Communication is key here. I also agree completely with the "letting a friend drive his car" that was the best way to describe it.  It's your littlespace stuff.  Of course little you will get irritated.  But, that's ok