A Newbie's Thoughts

[Mr. Benji]

Hmm. Please excuse my inexperience in the dynamic.

 

I often feel cold, on the inside. Y'know, that place where the emotions and sense of humanity are kept. Not empty, mind you. I feel feelings and such. They are just distant, numb. I speak of this because since I learned of this Dynamic, and since I have been interacting with the Community, I have been getting a warm and fuzzy feeling on the inside. It is quite distinct from everyday human interaction. It feels more sincere and open. I believe this is partially due to the sincere and open nature of these here forums. More importantly, I believe this is due to the nature of the DDLG Dynamic. The Littles put themselves in such a vulnerable position that it demands, requires those of us who would be Caregivers to set aside the harsher aspects of our personalities. The jokingly rude manner in which I talk to my friends seems jarringly out of place here. Indeed, when I say something here which could be considered rude, I feel an immediate, desperate need to apologize. Not necessarily for fear of offending someone. No, this feeling is more akin to that of being in a solemn, special place. It is like cursing in a holy building, or speaking loudly at a funeral, but without a sense of judgement from those around you. It just plain feels wrong to not be careful with my words when I am here, to not care about the Littles. When I am here, I want nothing more than to be warm, and kind, and anything else I might need to be. It is a good, if intense, feeling.

 

I apologize if this was rambling in nature, or somewhat incoherent. I would very much appreciate your thoughts and responses.

[ANewDragon]

I honestly think you have hit how I feel about this place spot on. I have only learning about this dynamic for less then a month, however I do feel a need to be more careful about what I say and how I say it. I feel more alive, happy and well I have the Warm and Fuzzies, when I am here either in chat or posting on the forums. I guess, this is the only place that I have really been able to open up to how I am inside which is giving me more happiness and alive feeling then I have ever been before. 

[FitPapaBear]

Hello, I've been feeling empty for a long time before I came here. Still do, forever will, it's just in my nature. But it's really fun here and awesome people with who I'm not afraid to be me. I'm never afraid to be me anyway, but here I don't get grief for it. Enjoy your stay.

[Guest buddhagirl]

That's one of the most wonderful things about this dynamic for my Daddy and me. We are married and have kids and careers, etc., This dynamic requires and encourages us to be really kind to each other, careful with our words and actions, adoring of our other half. He is always aware of my deep vulnerability to him and takes care of that. I am always aware of his protection and nurturing and do everything I can to take care of him in return and show him how much his ownership of me means. It helps us stay warm and fuzzy for each other everyday--even on the hard days.

[Guest DaddysLolita]

The forum does have a special feel to it. Being in the presence of others in the dynamic there's a shared likeness that helps to click with people but there's also respect for the dynamic and the other people here. I almost always fall into little space when I'm logged in, especially chat.

 

I hope you continue to get your good feelings here

 

<3

[LolitasDaddy]

Welcome to the forum. This is surely a different atmosphere than most forums I've been a part of.

[Guest Chandelier]

I can relate to this so much, even as a little. In my day to day life, I tend to be very sarcastic and sassy. When I'm at work, I'm a manager, so I'm seen as dominant and in charge! I have had a few close friends tell me that they never knew how sweet/kind or compassionate I was until they became close with me. I think because it takes me awhile to become close to someone, I am also cold and I often feel like I put up a wall of sass to protect myself, but that same wall of sass is what hurts me because then I don't let people in, if that makes sense. Little space is such a vulnerable place for me that it's not something I slip into easily. But being here on the forums, I constantly check myself and tell myself not to be sarcastic to all of these kind and genuine people, and that I can be myself without fear of judgement.

[HoneybeePrincess]

I like that it seems a vast majority of the Daddy/Caregiver membership feels the way you do Benji. It makes this forum a very happy place for me to visit and enjoy the community. The more we have like you the better our community will be.

[Mr. Benji]

Thank you all very much for your responses. It is interesting and inspiring to read them. Oh, and ecouraging. It is a good feeling when others understand what I'm trying to say.

You are all wonderful.