Venting a little

[Guest Mystic_MermaidSam]

I'm new to this lifestyle. It's been frustrating but I'm learning. I know I'll learn from this.

Found a Daddy but he hardly communicates with me. I'm thinking of just ending things due to how I'm being treated. I told him how I felt and how I need communication. I know he may get busy and work, but he rarely communicates with me. I seem to make all the effort on my end. I'm pretty hurt about this but I know I deserve better than this. It's been going on like this for a week now. Rarely no communication, and when he speaks to me he just tells me how he's busy with work but he'll try to talk with me. 

It's still going on and I'm becoming so upset. So I just need to move on. Just needed to vent. I'm tired of being taken advantage of. Just want to find a Daddy who will actually make effort and communicate with me. He said the same excuse so many times. Now I plan to be cautious when I do end up chatting with a new Daddy because how I'm being treated. This situation didn't ruin things for me, but I am really down about it. When he contacts me again, I plan on ending it. 😞

[MissNMTX]

1st rule, Not everyone who calls themselves daddy actually is. You are just talking to a normal man until YOU decide to honor them with the title and position of Daddy.

[Guest Mystic_MermaidSam]

22 minutes ago, MissNMTX said:

1st rule, Not everyone who calls themselves daddy actually is. You are just talking to a normal man until YOU decide to honor them with the title and position of Daddy.

Thank you. I'm new to this lifestyle but thank you for your advice on everything. I will keep this in mind. 😊

[Vampiress]

I am sorry to hear you are going through this. I think you are right about your situation. If someone cares about you they can make time. There's 24 hours in a day, it isn't hard to send a few message of affirmation throughout the day and set aside a little time for a real conversation.

[Guest Forevermore]

It's always a sad sight when I see posts like this, truth be told. Many people take advantage of the dynamic purely for sexual reasons, rather then for the litany of reasons that come with the connection. There is a really big divide between what constitutes a "real" daddy vs. a "fake" one. A big red flag is both lack of communication and an overt obsession with selfish intentions. 

If you ever wanna talk about stuff or the whole dynamic in general, I would be more then happy to chill and talk with you about it sometime! If not though? I really hope you start seeing some real results and finding your way in this whole little world of ours.

[Guest Mystic_MermaidSam]

3 hours ago, Forevermore said:

It's always a sad sight when I see posts like this, truth be told. Many people take advantage of the dynamic purely for sexual reasons, rather then for the litany of reasons that come with the connection. There is a really big divide between what constitutes a "real" daddy vs. a "fake" one. A big red flag is both lack of communication and an overt obsession with selfish intentions. 

If you ever wanna talk about stuff or the whole dynamic in general, I would be more then happy to chill and talk with you about it sometime! If not though? I really hope you start seeing some real results and finding your way in this whole little world of ours.

I know what you mean, that's how I kinda feel. I haven't heard from him and I doubt I will. I'm not sending him any more messages, but I do plan on telling him it's over when I hear from him. I just don't like the way he treated me. I deserve better than this. Communication is important. I understand people get busy and have things to do but to ghost or disappear like that is very hurtful and the easy way out. I do believe he was a fake Daddy, believe it or not, I kinda felt it in my gut, to be honest. At first, I thought I was just overthinking it but I was right.

Thanks for offering, I sent you a friend request and I don't mind us chatting and you talking with me about the whole dynamic in general. Thank you again for everyone's responses. I truly appreciate it a lot. 

[Cebakes]

6 hours ago, Mystic_MermaidSam said:

I know what you mean, that's how I kinda feel. I haven't heard from him and I doubt I will. I'm not sending him any more messages, but I do plan on telling him it's over when I hear from him. I just don't like the way he treated me. I deserve better than this. Communication is important. I understand people get busy and have things to do but to ghost or disappear like that is very hurtful and the easy way out. I do believe he was a fake Daddy, believe it or not, I kinda felt it in my gut, to be honest. At first, I thought I was just overthinking it but I was right.

Thanks for offering, I sent you a friend request and I don't mind us chatting and you talking with me about the whole dynamic in general. Thank you again for everyone's responses. I truly appreciate it a lot. 

I would send him a message, wishing him the best, but telling him you are no longer interested in communicating with him, and the two of you are clearly seeking different things.  This would be a great opportunity for you to take charge and let him know you won’t let anyone treat you like that. 

[beanbean]

Sometimes it it be like that . But there. Is nothing worse then waiting for a text that hardly ever comes and you in your mind trying to justify it . Like it was Said above no job lasts a freaking day plus you will mostly always get a break to eat so there are no excuses for not texting even a simple I am busy 

[Will]

If a person isn’t meeting your needs and treating you well, it will never be a  wholesome dynamic I’m

afraid, but good luck next time

[Little Becca]

I have been if your position before, and I am just so sorry because I suspect I truly understand how you feel, and I wouldn’t wish it on either or any of us. Sadly, it sounds like, in your gut, you know something isn’t right here and it feels better to end it. It is sad when that happens, but sometimes, it is simply necessary. Huggies and cuddlies and sharing my favoritest teddy with you!!!! 💕💕💕

Edited April 25, 2023 by Little Becca

[AspiringDaddy]

On 4/13/2023 at 3:07 AM, Vampiress said:

I am sorry to hear you are going through this. I think you are right about your situation. If someone cares about you they can make time. There's 24 hours in a day, it isn't hard to send a few message of affirmation throughout the day and set aside a little time for a real conversation.

This. Come on, people, we're all glued to our phones 24/7. Close that app you're mindlessly scrolling and make a little effort and text your partner.

From my personal experience, this works both ways. If you want to be taken care of, show that, tell what you need, tell what you want, demand attention. Maybe it would come over needy or pushy and he might not like it. But it's worth a try. I'd be delighted if my partner were to communicate much much more.

Communication seems so damn difficult, but it really isn't.

[Snowbaby13]

I’m so sorry you had to experience this, unfortunately I was in a similar situation recently. I told the guy after receiving no messages and being told they are busy I sent one last message saying that I was tried of being ignored and if he wanted to talk to message me. I was blocked a day later, and it was painful but try to stay strong. Take care of yourself and your little self. 🩷