Clingy

[Guest ddlgneko]

This is more so a vent then anything sorry. I feel like I get to clingy and attention seeking. I attach myself to quickly to people. I'm not good a social ques. Most of the time I don't know if when I talk to someone if they generally want to talk with me or leading me on out of boredom. I get attached way to easily and way to quickly. I always have. I try to stay interesting and I just want to not be lonely. But I feel like maybe that's annoying 🥺. There is apart of me that hates my little side because I feel like it is annoying people, maybe I'm too clingy. I don't know. It just sucks right now. Thanks for listening to me vent 😅 sorry about that. 

[Guest Novah]

Hai hai Nemo, 

💜 aweee thank u for sharing n opening up abt a insecurity of urz. I know many of us littles at one point have felt this way but don’t be so down on urself!! Being clingy isn’t a bad thing🎀 as a little, your mental state is to desire love, care, protection, guidance, etc… it’s just part of the love language u express wen little and that’s okay!! Soon you will find someone who accepts, desires, and loves your clinginess!! Maybe ask those u speak with to b honest with u n let u kno wen ur being too much. I too am clingy and I LOVE IT hehe n if I’m too much, you talk, receive guidance on wats acceptable!! hehe jst ask for boundaries n it’ll help 💕🎀 be happy , be you!! 💓💓💓

[Guest ddlgneko]

@Novah thank you that made me feel a little better

[Taggy]

On 4/9/2023 at 12:14 AM, ddlgneko said:

This is more so a vent then anything sorry. I feel like I get to clingy and attention seeking. I attach myself to quickly to people. I'm not good a social ques. Most of the time I don't know if when I talk to someone if they generally want to talk with me or leading me on out of boredom. I get attached way to easily and way to quickly. I always have. I try to stay interesting and I just want to not be lonely. But I feel like maybe that's annoying 🥺. There is apart of me that hates my little side because I feel like it is annoying people, maybe I'm too clingy. I don't know. It just sucks right now. Thanks for listening to me vent 😅 sorry about that. 

Honest answer, as a caregiver I would love, like really love, to meet a clingy little. It makes me feel warm and needed and really care for someone. So for me personally clingyness would be a green flag
I also get attached fast and way to easily. I know how you feel.

[honeybee7]

hi neko :3

i just wanted to say ur not alone in these feelings! it’s so so common to judge that clingy side of ourselves because all we really want is a close human connection in this scary world. i struggled a lot with this and still do— but something that’s helped me a lot is 1) to stay present as much as possible. i know it’s said a lot, but the book that changed my perspective on it is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. it changed my viewpoint on how the emotions i feel effect me, what i can do to regulate, and what is the most important thing to do every day, which is to be the watcher of our experiences we call Life. it helped take away a lot of my existential fears of abandonment, rejection, and being alone.

2) ask yourself this: what is my clinginess trying to tell me? what is it trying to teach me? we can learn a lot from our emotions and oftentimes, emotions are symptoms of something bigger and deep within ourselves. after all, we feel our emotions internally, so the cause is internal. when i asked myself this, i found out that my clinginess is tied to a fear of being alone. so once i figured that out, i asked myself, “what scares me about being alone right now?” and it starts off with a discontent or a denial of my own presence when i’m by myself. id rather be stimulated and distracted from the quiet of my own presence. id rather scroll for hours on social media just so i didn’t have to listen to the noise in my head. being alone is a scary concept, so i thought “why not make my alone time more enjoyable?”

i know this was a vent post and i apologize if my advice is unwanted but i hope this helps you out!! feeling like you’re too much for others is an overwhelming feeling, but just know that when you’re with the right people, you’ll never be too much for them. and if you ever want feel free to message me!

 

glitter n hugs!

- bee

[VSoftDaddyDomV]

If someone isn't clingy I figure they don't really like me that much... Honestly most people are quite the opposite. I think it's very appealing so long as you let them breath. Who wants to be lonely I think that's the glue that sticks us together! Clingy need!

[Erasmeus71]

Personally I like clingy girls it tells me they like me. My problem is I am a Introvert also.

[Kittyara207]

I agree what hurts for me is when talking with people whether online or not getting attached quickly maybe not in a day but...And they stop talking to you.  And it hurts but you don't want to tell them cause some people don't like it.  So when they talk to you again it's like do they really wanna be my friend or are they just bored with no one else to talk to?  You are not alone 

[AspiringDaddy]

Cling and attach yourself to me and I'll cling and attach you back! 😁 That's the only way it works. Reciprocated.

[beanbean]

It's really not a bad thing to be clingy. Just be you look for people that appreciate you and make you feel like anything bad and you will be good 

[Kittyara207]

Being alone is good but not feeling ignored or abandoned.  Only when it's convenient.  It is a two way street.  Get what you give but when things are more you giving and getting less and less back it hurts.

[beanbean]

Well I do think if clingy means you can't do anything on your own and you need someone for everything that's a problem.but if you need someone for som support and affirmation sometimes and a quick cuddle does you wonders there is nothing wrong with that

[Kittyara207]

That's why I love my doggo

[VSoftDaddyDomV]

12 hours ago, Kittyara207 said:

That's why I love my doggo

Unfortunately a lot of people aren't sticking anymore. Average relationships ending so quick :/