Rant, rant, rant.

[Guest PuppyDogTailz]

Deep down I feel awful posting this but I just don’t know who to go to..so incoming vent/rant..

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A dumb, sleepless night and yet ANOTHER potential partner seeming like a nice one to get to know and then poof. They've already stopped replying many hours later and is back to posting ads and being active while I watch. All I could say was “I figured.”  It’s ridiculous that I’ve gotten scared to talk to people.The more they poof, the more I grow numb to it and just wanna stop trying. But I know I can’t. I know it’d be ridiculous to stop. It’s not worth giving up over. I know someone's out there but I’m going through it to find them. People can seriously suck. Is it me? Has it got something to do with me? I wish they’d tell me what I’m doing wrong so I can maybe work on it. I mean I feel like the conversations are so normal but I guess something somewhere goes wrong. I don’t know what it is though because all I do is try to get to know them like I'm supposed to :')

I’m tired from not getting any sleep and the day is just not going well for me. Not to mention I’m going out today with my brother for his birthday and my face is a mess now from the bit of tears I shed and I’m in a poop mood. I didn’t want it to be like this. This sucks so much holy moly.

Anyways sorry for the rant, but this sucks.

Edited June 8, 2023 by PuppyDogTailz

[shadowrider]

 First of all we all need to rant or vent from time to time so no need for sorries. I don't know you and we haven't talked so I can't say you are doing or saying anything wrong. I can say that as a society we have become obsessed with instant gratification. Anything that requires work seems like too much trouble. So if someone isn't getting what they need instantly from a convo they just poof. 

 The only thing I can see from your post that might be an issue, not saying it is by any means. Just a point to look at from within yourself and decide. You say that from the first chat you are already preparing for them to leave. Is there a chance that this is making you seem too guarded? Maybe the fear of getting close and being left is making you hide the real you to reduce your risk of getting hurt? If they feel you are not sharing enough or you don't feel interested or willing to invest in them maybe they decide to move on. Just a thought. I know putting yourself out there is tough. Rejection on its own sucks but ghosting and not letting someone know why its not working is just harsh and inconsiderate. Yes there are times when its the best idea, like someone seems abusive, sure bounce quickly. But in general ghosting is terrible but sadly is a part of life today. It happens online and irl constantly.

 I would say take a look at your conversations and read them from the other person's perspective. Do you seem into them or guarded? As them do you see anything that might seem off or not quite right? Did you share too much? Too little? Did you ask about them, their likes, their needs? Did you ask about their day? Or was it mostly one sided? Just some things to look at while you collect yourself and prepare to move forward on the journey to finding the perfect person for you.

 Keep your head up and keep putting yourself out there. And keep smiling even when you think its not worth it. The next person you meet could be looking for that smile.

Good luck and I hope you feel better and enjoy your time with your brother. Let yourself enjoy the day with him and have some fun.

[beanbean]

Ranting is good . All I know if there willing to ghost you after a couple of days it's probably wasn't the most Rosy long term looks Anyway and you probably got lucky really. Just take your time and someday you might find the right mommy and that's far more important then finding the first one

 

[Guest PuppyDogTailz]

I appreciate the comments everyone. I’m feeling a bit better and I’m already over it. It doesn’t take long for me to move on. I tend to just shrug it off at this point. But I was already in a frustrated mood from staying awake all night and having to rush in the morning to get ready to leave and blah blah. It wasn’t necessary to post this but my mood was too agitated and I just couldn’t help it. I was upset. But still, thanks for comments and everything will be fine. I know it will be.

[Senya09]

Sorry you’re going through all that.

You're not alone, I think we all get frustrated with it and have very similar experiences. My advice, take a break, however long, recharge and go at it again when you’re ready.

Personally, I feel it’s really tough dating period, then you sprinkle in a lifestyle choice and it just amplifies the difficulty. I go in waves, I’ll work up the energy to date/interact, experience all the flakey/sucky people out there then retreat and recharge. Ive been at it for about 5 yrs now, only found one person I felt I really connected with in that time. After having similar experiences like you, Ive learned to be way more guarded and really extend my “getting to know you” period at the beginning. It weeds out most people.

Good luck! Don’t give up though!