Help with figuring out if I should try dating my friend

[LittleKittyKatz99]

I am going to start by giving background, I am currently 23 years old and from what I gather my friend that I am talking about is in his early forties and he lives hours away from me. I have known him for about 5 years, he has been there for me when I need advice (which I can't ask him about this time lol) or when I have been in bad relationships or in something with bad daddy doms. he is extremely sweet and funny and likes sitting on video call with me when I have a day off. And even tho he isn't that much into ddlg he knows about it and is understanding about my little space and how I should be treated in it. he has similar values and dreams in life about relationships. Like he checks every box I want in a partner in life Dom and otherwise. Its just his age is only thing I am not sure on as I always thought I wouldn't date someone about 20 years older then me. But I still really like him and he likes me. So should I try to see where this takes me?

Edited March 17, 2023 by LittleKittyKatz99

[Floatyduck14]

I met a guy who was 49 when I was 26 and was in a similar situation. I decided to date him and it went really well. We are still partners 3 years later. So I am biased but from my experience yes.

[Guest BabyBug]

I've had a similar experience, and it was one of the best relationships of my life...I say there's no harm in trying! 

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy is 23 and I'm 44. Age hasn't been an issue because we have a ton of areas inside and outside of kink where we are compatible. Age is often less important than having things in common.

[Erasmeus71]

The only problem about dating a friend. Then it breaks up. The friendship also is ruined also besides the romantic relationship. Unless someone can say different. I have heard one have a divorce then get marriage. The age difference also is factor. For you in particular.

[LittleKittyKatz99]

Like I know that me and him are compatible in most levels as we have talked for hours on most topics and have the same idea of what we want out of a partner and everything. It's just I never thought that there would be someone in their forties that have the same wants in their future with a partner and be interested in me and me being interested as well in them. 

[Cebakes]

Every age gap relationship is different and I don’t want to compare mine to yours. I just got out of a four year age gap relationship. Overall, I would say it was fantastic but we knew that there was going to be an expiration date on our relationship.

It sounds like you guys have a fantastic foundation and have known each other for an extended period of time.  You appear to line up very well with your desires, interest, goals, and beliefs. That’s very important.   Are there any topics that you have not discussed that are significant?  Do you think there could be anything that you have polar opposite views on and have never discussed?

I don’t see any big red flags here. The age gap is not crazy large or stare worthy.  I did read a fair amount of articles on this topic over the past several years and the biggest issue with age gap relationships, other than the gap and aging, is family and friends not being supportive.  Do you foresee any issues there?

 

[Erasmeus71]

If you talk about same subjects despite age difference it can work. Number one rule in a relationship is communication.

[Guest Richard Rockah]

Off topic, I just wanted to say this is a very valid and important concern.