Balancing DDLG and D/s

[LolitasDaddy]

I was curious how everyone one else balances the DDLG dynamic with a more traditional D/s dynamic. My Little b and I started out as Dom/sub. We both find something very valuable and appealing with the DDLG lifestyle, but feel there is something missing we used to have. I'm fairly sure a big part of the issue is not wanting to 'force' or push my little.

 

Prior to true DDLG dynamic began we were Dom/sub the vast majority of the time. We are now in the Daddy/little mindset the majority of he time.

 

If you balance these roles, how do you manage? Totally different head spaces and rules? Do you not have the domination present when in the DD or lg space? Is it always either/or?

[caithes]

While it's just been online so far, my little and I are much more in-tune with the DDlg dynamic than a D/s one. While I am her daddy, and help her with things, set rules, and guide her, we really aren't into a lot of (at least what I see as) typical D/s activities, such as discipline, bondage, servitude, et cetera. Granted, my tastes never really went in that direction, so I haven't done a lot of reading up on the general subject of a D/s relationship.

 

So the sides aren't exactly both present to need balancing. However, my relationship is still, for now, an LDR, and we haven't spent physical time together. What I understand from her is she is wanting a DDlg dynamic nearly 24/7, at least to begin with, the specifics of which I will not bore you with.

 

I am interested to hear what others have to say on the subject. It will, undoubtedly, come up sometime in her visit home in some fashion.

[Guest buddhagirl]

D/s and DDlg blend together for us in a really natural way. They are not really separated, though sometimes one of these aspects may be more dominant in the moment. And my daddy has no problem "forcing or pushing" me, so that may help with the integration.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

Just like buddhagirl stated above, both dynamics are integrated into our relationship and they do blend very well together. My Daddy is a Daddy Dominant so everything stays the same

[LilSubbi]

Not for me and my Daddy. My relationship is more like caithes states; it more points to DDLG than D/s, quite funny because we started out as D/s couple.

However we both found more comfort in DDLG and now aren't very much into D/s anymore.

 

We've tried to combine DDLG and D/s but I found myself being stuck into very unpleasant situations, like play sessions that were way too much for the little inside me to handle which unfortunately resulted into anxiety attacks which presently I still suffer from and I very much regret not making the proper precautions.

 

That said, if you want to do this I strongly suggest you to make very clear arrangements with eachother because, unlike the commenters above, it doesnt -always- blend in naturally. Scaring your little is the last thing you want as a DD.

 

Best of luck.

[Princess-P]

I always found myself submissive as a little, always looking to my Daddy for guidance and discipline. That's just part of the every day life in the dynamic for me.

 

However that being said my experience is also starting in D/s and gradually bringing DDlg into it.

 

I dont think you have to completely let go of the D/s aspect. Its about knowing when the time is right. If I'm in Daddy/little mode I wouldn't feel confortable being pushed to my limits.

 

My former Daddy would make sure I'm in big girl mind set before letting things go too far. And your attitude will speak for its self. Maybe its not time for sippy cups and binkies or whatever your little may be into. Gradually bring her mind set up and make sure she's ready.

 

It can take a while to get into the flow of it. And sometimes maybe she just won't want to if she's super comfortable in little space at that moment. Timing is everything. And of course some reasuarnce after switching modes, even during at first, that she's still always your princess.

[LolitasDaddy]

I appreciate all of the opinions. My little is comfortable with her sexuality, and is comfortable being intimate during her little mindset. While I do share the opinion that the two dynamics can blend well together, I haven't quite found my balance yet. I think maybe my mindset should be more little/sub, and not as much little/big.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

We just do. There are no defined lines. I am his submissive and I am his little girl, simple as that. Sometimes he's in dom mode, sometimes daddy mode. It's just a fluid dynamic. No plan or discussion, it just is.

[littleguwls_Dada]

I really appreciate this topic discussion.  For my precious little and ME, the sexual domination and submission is a central part of our relationship.  My precious little needs to be needed and trained for my desires....and I need to know she wants me to train her and show her what pleases me.   We are growing in our communication and understanding of each other , and our bond is growing stronger and deeper with every day.  She is such a precious treasure to Me..