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[princessboi]

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Edited February 25, 2023 by princessboi

[Sir GUS-gus]

Well here is another question.

Should we have it all figured out at this age of our lifes?

[Little kaiya]

Personally I don't think there's such a thing as a soul mate. The right partner or partners, absolutely but relationships take work. They take effort and they change over time.

As a genderfluid man/woman, pansexual, polyamorous, little and furry there are lots of folks who might say I'd never find my partner. It didn't happen quick but I did find the two people who love me unconditionally, who I love unconditionally and with whom I'm incredibly happy.

I didn't get married to my Wife until I was 28 and I didn't find my boyfriend and Daddy until I was 39. Sometimes we don't meet the right person until we are ready which can be later in life.

Don't settle but also don't cling to an ideal that doesn't include the need for work and compromise because that's part of a healthy relationship too.

[Guest]

1 hour ago, Sir GUS-gus said:

Well here is another question.

Should we have it all figured out at this age of our lifes?

I don't think anybody really does. 

[Erasmeus71]

I feel that way too. As I thought I was going to marry and my fiancé died from a hole in heart. I was waiting to finish my degree. She wanted to marry right away. She in fact kept asking my mother when is the wedding. In fact she should been asking me. My mother had no right to tell her when we could marry. My mother infuriated me when she did that. Now I am looking for someone else. That is amazing. That takes my heart.

Edited February 24, 2023 by Erasmeus71

[lil Mo]

I liked what you wrote a lot! 

Don't settle, don't give up on yourself and your dreams.. 

I often feel the same.. almost got married to the wrong guy because my family tried talking me into it so much.. the next 2 proposals also weren't the right choice.. I couldn't see myself being 'really me' in those relationships (that was even before knowing that I'm a Little). Years later I'm still alone and yes, I do want to find the right one and worry that I'm too picky or too difficult. My family tells me to stop looking for Mr Perfect (I don't want 'perfect', I want 'right'!) and just settle, to be less picky and take whoever will have me. 

But I'd rather be alone than having to do that. We are worth more than that! 

And until then I try to live my life, have good friends and enjoy the journey until Mr. Right shows up.. ☺️

 

[Guest]

@princessboi, Never think you're alone. Cause you're not. I think when we feel out of place, alone... It is mostly because of self preservation and/or relationship fodder. From the time we are born, we are imprinted with our very first relationships. Parents, siblings.. And then that circle grows.  Every person we meet leaves a mark on us and we on them. Good or bad or both.  It's what we allow those things to do to us as a whole is what matters.

When we allow the negative  actions of others to basically rule our lives, we are in a sense allowing them to continue, on a daily basis, to make decisions for us on future relationships, future jobs, future life choices basically. We become scared, do not trust others, and ware ourselves down so far, that when we do meet that ONE person, we find we have to climb back up out of a dark hole to reach their light. A hole,I might add..that we don't realize alot of times that we have made. 

Some of us can handle life changing, heartbreaking events. Some of us have a bit more of a struggle. There are lights at the end of those empty dark tunnels. Where the feelings of loneliness are the strongest. I can personally assure you. You are not alone.  You just need to be a bit more choosy sometimes of who you let leave their mark. Positive or negative, like a battery, they will either charge you up or run you down. 

P.S.

On the lighter side of things, many finger has a mind of its own! If there is anything that doesn't make sense or it seems i am rambling, its my fingers fault!😂

[Vampiress]

Why settle for anything less than the extraordinary? You are right to wait for someone who you feel you really fit with if that is what feels right to you. Too many of us waste time on things or people that are unfulfilling and causing us more unhappiness than happiness.

[beanbean]

The easy answer is nothing is wrong with you . sometimes it just takes time and patience just let it happen naturally and go from there