Too 'big' to be a 'little'?

[kittenminx]

I've had a HUGE problem with this over the past few weeks of exploring my little side more. I have taken some time for myself and come to the realisation that A HELL OF A LOT of littles are worried about the shapes and sizes that they are.

 

It's taken me...what a week to realise that I shouldn't care about it? And all you beautiful littles need to think about it too. Both height and weight. No matter how big you are or how tall you are does not take away the mindset you have as a little. YOU ARE AMAZING just the way you are and just because one or two or even the majority of daddies want small littles does NOT mean that you won't find somebody for you.

 

I myself am 5'6 and 139lbs. I'm Average and average! Of course I'd like to be smaller in height and weight, like many people do. But I know now that it shouldn't matter what height or weight I am and as long as I'm happy then should I ever find a big, they should love me for it. 

 

This applies for little girls AND boys! Ya'll need to love yourselves for who you are and be happy, because I'm sure there is someone out there for everyone even if you're 8'3" and 100000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000lbs you can still be a little! Okay?! Good.

 

Love you all very muchly, should you ever get any sads about how much you weigh or how tall you are- feel free to come and chat with me!

 

Lots of kisses and hugs and loves and cuddles

 

Abi!

[LolitasDaddy]

This is very true. Being little is a state of mind. If you are, you are, and no one should be able to tell you differently.

[caithes]

I couldn't agree more.

 

To me, the dd/lg dynamic is borne out of a "meeting of the minds", it's a state of mind more than anything. In any relationship, dd/lg or not, if it is based on physical appearance, it isn't strong enough to last the test of time in my opinion. If you truly love someone, it's love of the person as a whole. The outside is, literally, skin deep.

[kittenminx]

YAY Two great people who agree!

[LittleGlenn]

As someone who is  8'3" and 100000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000lbs,

I am delighted to see this post.

[Guest Princess Dusty]

That's soooo sweet and exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you! <3

[Guest DaddysLolita]

I agree 100%! Thank you for posting this! Anyone can be little, no matter their height or weight <3

[Guest LittleEV]

I'm so glad you made this post. I've been feeling really bad about how I look lately. I'm 5'10 and I won't even say my weight...But this post made me feel better. It's nice to see positivity. 

[kittenminx]

Awww love you guys <3 feel the love  

[Josei]

I completely agree! I've seen allot of this. I actually thought this was another post with another little inseure about her weight, and I was just about to tell him/her something along the lines of you said OP.

 

Being little is a MINDSET....in this case you are what you believe. If you believe you're too big to be a little then you'll never enter your little mindset to your best ability. No matter your size YOU can be little. I believe that. No if's and's or but's about it.

 

Don't let anyone make you feel like you aren't as amazing as someone else simply because of your body, no matter the size.

 

YOU are fantastic. YOU are a little.

 

Ok bye bye...

*retreats back to lurking*

[Guest MadameButterfly]

[Guest Princess Dusty]

I've been feeling really bad about this lately. I've been recently trying to find an online daddy and I have spoken to a few daddies but every time they see a full body pic of me they say they're not interested. I'm 5'6 and weigh 148lbs, and that's after losing 20 pounds recently plus I'm trying to lose more. I get that everybody has a 'type' that they like but it still hurts sometimes. I've just been really lonely and wanting a daddy because I haven't had one before and nobody wants me, and I'm starting to think I should just give up on this lifestyle

Don't ever ever give up love! I've had no lucky when it comes to Daddy's they've been jerks. But there is gonna be that one Daddy out there that is going to take all my broken pieces and love me just for me. I believe you'll find that too!

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

I think so many people get caught up on having a Daddy/Mommy(or Little) and whether they are too big/small and forget what it's really about. Any relationship, really. Love and trust. Love doesn't have a shape or size, it's just love ｡^‿^｡ And part of love is loving yourself. For who will respect and love you if you yourself don't?

[LittleKitten93]

I've been feeling really bad about this lately. I've been recently trying to find an online daddy and I have spoken to a few daddies but every time they see a full body pic of me they say they're not interested. I'm 5'6 and weigh 148lbs, and that's after losing 20 pounds recently plus I'm trying to lose more. I get that everybody has a 'type' that they like but it still hurts sometimes. I've just been really lonely and wanting a daddy because I haven't had one before and nobody wants me, and I'm starting to think I should just give up on this lifestyle

The same happens to me, I am a bigger girl (but am losing weight for myself not anyone else!) and every time I send a picture they disappear, most don't even have the respect to tell me they are no longer interested. Just wanted you to know you aren't the only one that has that happen to them. You look great to me and if they're too blind to see it, it's their loss! Someone will appreciate you one day soon!

[dd.simon.4lg]

Totally true. Being little is what u are not necessarily what u look like. I think that the majority of daddies will realise this too. There is someone out there for us all

[Calla]

I do think most daddies if given the option would pick a small LG, tho, right?  I mean they're attracted to cute, little things!  My Daddy hasn't pressured me to lose weight but I'm doing it anyway.  I want to be the best LG I can possibly be for him.

[dd.simon.4lg]

That's cool if it makes u feel good. I can only speak for myself and yes daddies do prefer little things, but a little girl is what u are inside no matter your age height or build in my view.

[Calla]

Thank you for writing back -- I am very interested in others' perspectives on this!  I agree with you that everyone's relationship is different and every Daddy has different tastes.  My DDLG relationship is sexual, and my DD is really attracted to small, cute, young girls.  I really like fulfilling that fantasy for him as best I can, so I want to be able to wear girls' sizes and stuff, and be as little as I can be.  But I know not everyone is looking for that, and we should all do what makes us feel happy.  I am glad to hear that LGs can be comfortable with who they are just as they are.

[caithes]

I do think most daddies if given the option would pick a small LG, tho, right?  I mean they're attracted to cute, little things!  My Daddy hasn't pressured me to lose weight but I'm doing it anyway.  I want to be the best LG I can possibly be for him.

 

It doesn't matter to me what my little looks like. I don't know if I would choose someone just because they were littler in size than someone else. What matters to me is the connection, and the emotion behind it. None of the lg's I've been close to over the years have been petite, and that's perfectly okay with me. Each one of them I was able to connect with on a deeper level than skin and tissue.

 

Another way to look at it... a larger person has a larger heart.

[Guest DaddysLolita]

It doesn't matter to me what my little looks like. I don't know if I would choose someone just because they were littler in size than someone else. What matters to me is the connection, and the emotion behind it. None of the lg's I've been close to over the years have been petite, and that's perfectly okay with me. Each one of them I was able to connect with on a deeper level than skin and tissue.

 

Another way to look at it... a larger person has a larger heart.

I agree with this. Everyone has their preferences..... I'm an adult woman, I'll never fit into girls sizes lol

 

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[Guest Sweetlittle25]

Like I said in a previous post I feel like being little is a state of mind not necessarily your size or look. As long as you feel little then you're little. There should be no stereotypical size.

[kittenminx]

YAY!!!! EVERYONE IS AMAZING HERE <3 <3 

[LittleVenom]

Just putting in the perspective of a little who is actually (extremely!) little, there are still a lot of problems with this! I am scared I am attracting the wrong types of men who may be inclined towards pedophilia. Such a big issue especially when I have two young daughters myself that I need to protect!! 

 

I want my daddy dom to also like the adult me and value me for my intelligence as well, so I think it is harder to switch to adult when I need to be in other peoples eyes. Does this make sense? 

 

Also image wise I think it is the same for daddy doms. Most littles I know rarely state 'older, bigger men' as there preference. I think you all would agree it is so much more a personality thing for both sides. 

[Princess-P]

I do think most daddies if given the option would pick a small LG, tho, right?  I mean they're attracted to cute, little things!  My Daddy hasn't pressured me to lose weight but I'm doing it anyway.  I want to be the best LG I can possibly be for him.

I don't think this is true. Saying "they're attracted to cute little things" is just stereotyping. Everyone has a preference. Men and women in and out of the dynamic. Being a Daddy doesn't mean you want an itty bitty little. Its how someone makes you feel that makes a relationship work.

 

I'm plus sized, I've never had an issue dating ever, and that includes men who have dated predominantly small women. Its all in the personality in the end, looks only get you so far... But it helps I'm adorable too lol.

[kittenminx]

I think all of you guys, no matter who or what you look like should be proud. Ya'll are amazing big or little creatures and Daddys/Sirs/Masters/Mommies/Doms etc should love you for it! Don't try and fit the bill of a typical 'little'.

 

THERE ISN'T A TYPICAL LITTLE!

 

Everybody is different and that's what makes us so unique. It's what makes us thrive and be with people that suit our interests and things we have in common! Not whether or not you're 4'9 and have kids sized clothes and feet! Be who you are, no matter what size you are.

 

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