Long Distance Advice

[Radio371]

Hi everyone,

 

I just wanted to ask for some advice for those of you who are currently in long distance DD/lg relationships or have been in one before. To give some backstory, my baby girl and I became official about a month ago and quickly sprouted into our ddlg relationship and neither one of us have been this happy in a very long time.

 

On the downside of this, we're in our senior year of college and are both graduating in May, and she wants to go off and start her life in a city (which I obviously support) but I am incredibly nervous about how to proceed from graduation. The last thing I want is to lose her, and I don't want the potential for a long distance relationship to put a strain on either one of us.

 

For now I'm looking on the bright side of things and appreciating every moment I get to spend with my baby girl instead of thinking about graduation. I'm just looking for some advice from anyone who has more knowledge or experience in this field than I would. Any advice that anyone could offer would be greatly appreciated

 

-Radio371

[Guest Princess Dusty]

If it becomes a long distance relationship the number one thing it to keep the lines of communication open. Whether it's sending messages, e-mails something. Also, setting up a time, at least once a week to talk to each other either via skype or on the phone. Just so you can hear each other's voice does wonders. Also set up a trip, at least once of month to see each other if she's fairly close by, if not set it up for something like everything 3 months. Don't forget to send each other little things in the mail, or pictures, anything. 

 

It may seem hard, but honestly, if you keep the lines of communication open, and you both make the effort, then it can be worth it. I've been in a few long distance relationships and those are the things that helped me.

[caithes]

Going from an in-person relationship to an LDR is much more difficult than the other way around, in my opinion.

 

Just like Dusty said, keep talking. Anyway you can. It's going to be more important for you to use things like Skype, Facetime, or another video-chat service that allows you to be together and see each other. Send letters, cards, packages, even if it's just something small.

 

Wow, everything I'm saying has already been said. Heh.

 

Guess I'm doing something right.

[Guest DaddysLolita]

Having been in an LDR for about 2 years, my Daddy and I have picked up a few tricks along the way.

 

Communication is definitely the biggest. There are lots of ways to do that, numerous IM apps (yahoo, KIK, etc), there's an app called "couples" that works as an IM, but you can also send pictures, voice messages, share a calender and draw pictures. Share an online presence like a blog or forum. Dropbox or onedrive are cloud apps that store anything, pictures, videos, etc (get creative!), use Skype or FaceTime, my Daddy handwrites me notes and takes pictures of them. Send gifts (send her a t shirt that smells like you to cuddle with), make an "open when....." set of notes, send a care package of her favorite things (candies, snacks, etc), I keep talking about it because it's so great....consider getting her a cloudpet (a stuffie that is paired with a smartphone that you can send voice messages directly to from your smartphone).

 

The biggest advice I have is get creative. Think outside of the box, especially with DD/lg.

 

Best wishes

 

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