Just in a dynamic?

[little-bug]

Hi, sorry I'm not exactly sure what to write as the title. My daddy and I are super new together and I'm just curious to get people's opinions on something.

I know that some dynamics are just daddy/little and nothing more, but we did talk in the beginning about both of us looking for our "special someone", so I feel like we're on the same page.

The thing is... does that automatically make us bf/gf as well as daddy/little? I don't want to make him uncomfortable by asking him this early in, but I also don't know if we are *more* than just dom/sub right now either.

And I know what some of you will say - communicate and just ask. But I don't want to put pressure on him by asking so early (some men freak at that cuz bf/gf means *commitment*). So I guess my question is, did you and your daddy or Little have a specific conversation about being more than d/s? How far into the relationship was it? Or did it just progress naturally until one day you just *were*, without realising?

I'm thinking I'll ask him in say another month or so - to give this dynamic a little time to become more firmly established. But I'd just like to get your opinions as well. 😊

[AussieMelbourneDaddy]

Unfortunately, communication is the only way to discover, as you said, if you’re on the same page.

Yes, some dynamics are just D/s, some can be just CG/little, but unless you are working together and communicating your wants and need from you’re dynamic you’ll just be marking (wasting) time in something that might not be what one (or both) really want.

Openness, trust and honesty are paramount in making any relationship dynamic work and within the D/s world, I have found, that the higher these levels are, the stronger the foundations of any dynamic become.

Personally, I would rather know if my partner and I were in the same page as soon as comfortably possible than to waste time guessing.

I hope this helps, even just a little bit ☺️

Good luck on your journey 🥰

[Little kaiya]

Every relationship is going to be a bit different. For my Wife, my Boyfriend and I the emotionally intimate and romantic relationship came first. Tye CGl and DDlg dynamics came afterwards as did the D/s collaring.

Because we placed the relationship before different dynamics we never had to have the conversation.

In terms of does DDlg automatically equate to intimate partners I would offer an emphatic no. Without having an open conversation neither of you can truly know if you're on the same page or not. Without that conversation you add stress to the relationship that doesn't need to be there. You also may invest time in a relationship where your goals and those of the other person may not be aligned.

[little-bug]

4 hours ago, AussieMelbourneDaddy said:

Unfortunately, communication is the only way to discover, as you said, if you’re on the same page.

Yes, some dynamics are just D/s, some can be just CG/little, but unless you are working together and communicating your wants and need from you’re dynamic you’ll just be marking (wasting) time in something that might not be what one (or both) really want.

Openness, trust and honesty are paramount in making any relationship dynamic work and within the D/s world, I have found, that the higher these levels are, the stronger the foundations of any dynamic become.

Personally, I would rather know if my partner and I were in the same page as soon as comfortably possible than to waste time guessing.

I hope this helps, even just a little bit ☺️

Good luck on your journey 🥰

Thank you! I know communication is vital, and I am planning on talking to him about it, but I just didn't want to do it prematurely and potentially terrify him lol. But I do think I'll talk to him sooner than I was planning - I think knowing we're in a proper relationship will ease my worry (idk why but it seems more permanent for me than just being in a d/s dynamic). 

I appreciate your help. Thank you again! 😊

[little-bug]

3 hours ago, Little kaiya said:

Every relationship is going to be a bit different. For my Wife, my Boyfriend and I the emotionally intimate and romantic relationship came first. Tye CGl and DDlg dynamics came afterwards as did the D/s collaring.

Because we placed the relationship before different dynamics we never had to have the conversation.

In terms of does DDlg automatically equate to intimate partners I would offer an emphatic no. Without having an open conversation neither of you can truly know if you're on the same page or not. Without that conversation you add stress to the relationship that doesn't need to be there. You also may invest time in a relationship where your goals and those of the other person may not be aligned.

Yeah, that's so true! And tbh it leaves me feeling a little uneasy/unsure until I know for certain if we're "official", so I'll definitely talk to him sooner rather than later. Thank you! 😊