Super humiliated today venting advice

[Yoda2022]

Spent the day with sister and nieces and nephews my sister wanted me to send videos I took of her kids to her and I kept trying to hide my phone pictures because I have one with my paci and  hugging my stuffy my niece who was leaning over the car seat  who is 5 screamed ummm why do you have a pacifier in your mouth aunt Cassie your a big girl you don’t need that 😕 then my sister asked me like wait do you truly think your baby do you have diapers etc I responded I’m not a baby I’m not answering your questions and no and no just me and my husband have kinks that’s all:/ really not sure what to do because I never thought this would happen and it did I expressed to her I was embarrassed her response was oh your niece doesn’t even know any of that stuff I was like I am not worried about her I’m worried because YOU UNDERSTAND plus I’m worried like  she may feel werid about my husband and I having the Kids over night  

[LoverEcho]

Just going off how you wrote that she responded, it seems your sister doesn’t think much of it. If you left out some detail that makes you believe otherwise, that can understandably be stressful. There are a couple of things you can do here. Either let it be, there’s a chance she won’t bring it up and it won’t affect you and your husband having your sister’s kids over. Or if you want to address it, you don’t have to go into detail with your sister you could simply mention that it’s a private thing between you and your husband that was not intended to be shared with anyone. You can go on to ask her not to share it with anyone as, again, it’s private between you and your husband. Relate it back to how you mentioned it was a kink and you wouldn’t share her private activities with others if the situation had been reversed.
 

If she mentions concerns regarding her children staying over, that would be a situation in which you’d have to go into a little more detail to explain your and your husband’s kink. Nothing private, just a general overview of what the lifestyle is and how it doesn’t involve children in any way. You could also add that you wouldn’t expose her children to it if they were to come over to further ease concern she might express. 
 

I can understand the embarrassment about someone finding out, but this is part of who you are and everyone has their things. If your sister doesn’t bring it up, she’s likely not thinking much about it which should ease your concern to some degree. 

Edited January 27, 2023 by LoverEcho

[Vampiress]

I think @LoverEcho gave a great answer so I don't have anything to add to that. However, I do know that modern day phones tend to have a feature where you can put photos and stuff in a locked folder, and if not they make apps for that, too. You could look into that so this is never a risk again. Usually they are password or pin number protected so that they can't be looked at without know what that is. I know that doesn't help with what has already happened, but I hope it helps you have peace of mind in the f uture so that it never happens again. I hope for the best result possible with this situation with your sister. To me it sounds like she isn't bothered, but only time will really tell I guess.

[Yoda2022]

2 hours ago, Vampiress said:

I think @LoverEcho gave a great answer so I don't have anything to add to that. However, I do know that modern day phones tend to have a feature where you can put photos and stuff in a locked folder, and if not they make apps for that, too. You could look into that so this is never a risk again. Usually they are password or pin number protected so that they can't be looked at without know what that is. I know that doesn't help with what has already happened, but I hope it helps you have peace of mind in the f uture so that it never happens again. I hope for the best result possible with this situation with your sister. To me it sounds like she isn't bothered, but only time will really tell I guess.

Thank you so much for that advice I’ll look into that locked photo option after I’m done napping 

[Erasmeus71]

You see I have a lap top. If I was to put it on it. It is the same as a cell phone. I can make sure no one can get into my lap top as I have a password. For your cellphone there better be a separate picture photo's for your kink. I know it is a pain . Now you then have to unlock it. You something that you know and your husband. Perhaps when you meant. The date. With your marriage. The addresses of streets you lived on. Birth dates. Just some suggestions. However it needs to be strong.

[Vampiress]

You're all welcome! I think it's different for every phone, otherwise I'd have posted a tutorial. It should be easy to find articles explaining how to do it on your specific type of phone, though.