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The Reality of Being Human


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Let’s talk about the reality of what is being human. Much like you all, I'm not fully healed. I have been through my own share of things. Tragedies, betrayals, heartbreaks. I have lots of work I’ve done and I still have to do. I can only share from my own experiences, and from what I'm practicing and learning, and what I'm working through in my own personal life.

We experience the world around us through our nervous system. A nervous system that works every waking moment to sense real or perceived danger. That danger can look like a mean comment, an insult from a co-worker, a sarcastic comment from a friend, or a reaction from our partner.  And when our nervous system is activated, our thoughts shift. We can be flooded with thoughts of "I'm not good enough", "I need to stop sharing", "No one cares what I have to say."

Do you experience this, often?

I'm a a big believer in spiritual healing. And, I believe the spiritual world often tries to bypass our humanity. This idea that one day we will never experience 'negative' emotions. And that being healed means we become robots devoid of emotions isn't true.

We need 'negative' emotions.

When someone hurts us, we don't need to give "love and light." What we need to do is feel the anger. This anger motivates us to set boundaries, remove ourselves from abusive situations, and to keep ourselves safe. My feelings get hurt. My ego gets involved. I second guess myself. I feel less than, often. Any "success" I've had doesn't take those feelings away. If anything, it's amplified them. I just continue to show up. That's all I can do.

The truth is we're all fragile, sensitive beings wondering if we're doing this thing called life right. We're all looking for evidence that we don't belong. We all feel alone, unworthy, and fear we'll be abandoned, at times.

This is what unites us. This is what, if we're vulnerable enough to speak about, will bring us to better understand each other. To better support each other. And to free us from the belief that we need to judge ourselves for feeling natural emotions.

We don't.

Our emotions are simply guides. A 90 second experience in a temporary body we call home. The work is to accept them. To watch them come and go. And to understand we are not the chatter in our own minds. Learning to love yourself as a process that can only happen when you start to actually know yourself. You cannot love someone you don't know. 
 

Resources for this go include:

Traumageek.com

Frontiers in Psychiatry - www.frontiersin.org

Articles found in Scientific Research an Academic Publisher - scrip.org

Big credit to Dr. Nicole LaPera and her books “How to do the Work!” And “How to Meet Yourself!” Follow her on Twitter @Theholisticpsyc and definitely check her books out. 

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It's so dangerous to suppress emotions. They are feedback to what needs our attention inside of us. To be feeling something doesn't make you a better or worse person. That depends on how you act accordingly in response. There is a bit I wrote about this that I'll copy here...

Feel Your Truth

It's ok to not be ok.
It's also ok to feel good even if others do not.
Don't feel pressure to smile when you can't feel it in your heart.
Don't feel guilty if you are are happy while suffering still exists.
Your emotions don't need to conform to your surroundings.
No amount of making yourself feel bad is going to make someone else feel good.
Humans are meant to feel and process every emotion we come across rather than suppressing.
To say, "I can't be sad because someone else has it worse than I do." Is just about as ridiculous as saying, "I can't be happy because someone else has it better than I do."

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