boyfriend.

[fatyknowsnothing]

pardon my poor english.

 

i have a boyfriend and we've been together for 6years. we are in a LDR but we meet 2times a year minimal. and we're planning on our marriage next year.

 

i recently digging into ddlg for about a half years (tho i act little for almost of my life) and i want to introduce him to this dynamic.

but i'm a bit confused on how to do it cz in my opinion there's no way he can be a daddy, my little side doesn't really like him and i don't know why. all i know for now i only love him in adult way.

 

in our last meet i tried to show more of a little side in me, he seems okay but he doesn't want to involve with it. like when i mention that i have binkies he just laugh and say i need to grow up out of that in joking way, i guess. or when i asked him to read a bedtime story he said that's for child and you are not.

 

what should i do?

 

thank you for advice xoxo

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

So you'are planing on marrying someone which part of you doesn't like? Who also doesn't accept part of who you are? It doesn't sound like it will work, I mean are you really going to happy like that?

[fatyknowsnothing]

i am very happy with my relationship. he knows me the most and okay with my kinky life even tho he is a vanilla.

its just he can't handle kid well and doesn't really like people who act childish and i almost never show my little side to him. but sometime there's a moment when he spoiled me so much that kinda fill my needy.

i don't know how to talk about it to him since i myself don't have any experience and how we can figure this out. tho he says okay but i can feel it he feel awkward when i'm into little mode.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

So you aren't really happy then. That's just the truth. Either accept you are settling for less than you really want and you will never be truly happy, or end the relationship.

I could never be with someone who I couldn't express my full self to. Been there done that. That's why they always ultimately failed.

[Guest buddhagirl]

Maybe you're afraid you won't ever meet someone that loves ALL parts of you, so you feel like you should stick with the person that you have now. I've done that and understand those feelings. You need to decide what you're worth--what your happiness is worth--and act accordingly. I believe that everyone should be with someone that they can fully express themselves with.

[Guest DaddysLolita]

Unfortunately it sounds like he wouldn't be interested in it. However, that's not to say you shouldn't bring the topic up. If you're unsure how your partner will respond, maybe send some links to different topics. The worst he could do is say he's not interested, but then YOU have to make a decision, do you stay with someone who makes you feel like you need to close off part of yourself to them, being alone in your littleness or worse...or do you find someone who appreciates all of you, big and little.

 

Personally, if I can't open up completely to the person I'm with, let alone considering marriage, it's time to move on (but that's just me).

 

<3

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

You also need to remember your in a LDR, and there's nothing wrong with that. You have lots of time to yourself where you can do whatever you want. However once your living with someone that changes. You won't have a lot of time to yourself, your mate will be with you everyday. If he doesn't expect your childish personality you'll have to hide yourself everyday from someone that's supposed to love you for who you are, not who they think you should be.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

In a slightly different way, I've done that. I've hidden my submissive self, hidden my innate need for a dominant man. Tried to fit around vanilla men. And, obviously, it never worked. Not once. Not for long, anyway. I deserve to be appreciated and loved for who I am. I would never again settle. Ever. It's unfair on both people in the relationship. Big waste of miserable time.

[Guest Penny]

On a non little related note you Probobly shouldn't get married until one of you has relocated and you have the chance to spend a good amount of time together.

 

Twice a year isn't enough to know if you're compatible. Even if things are great online it's different when you take things into the real world,

 

My last boyfriend we met online, we were together for a year and a half and things were great so I moved to be with him. Fast forward six months later and I'm trapped in an abusive relationship with a broken jaw, no money and nowhere to go.

 

Dont marry someone you haven't spent time with day to day. You can hide a lot about yourself from someone in that kind of situation,

[daddyslola]

I couldn't agree with penny more. If being childish is part of your personality and he doesn't like childish people it really sounds like he likes the idea of you and not the real you. He likes what he thinks that you should be not you as you really are. Wonderful quirks and all. Be yourself at all times.

pardon my poor english.

 

i have a boyfriend and we've been together for 6years. we are in a LDR but we meet 2times a year minimal. and we're planning on our marriage next year.

 

i recently digging into ddlg for about a half years (tho i act little for almost of my life) and i want to introduce him to this dynamic.

but i'm a bit confused on how to do it cz in my opinion there's no way he can be a daddy, my little side doesn't really like him and i don't know why. all i know for now i only love him in adult way.

 

in our last meet i tried to show more of a little side in me, he seems okay but he doesn't want to involve with it. like when i mention that i have binkies he just laugh and say i need to grow up out of that in joking way, i guess. or when i asked him to read a bedtime story he said that's for child and you are not.

 

what should i do?

 

thank you for advice xoxo

It sounds like you opened up to him and he shut it down then decide to make a "joke" at your expense. These may be jokes now but it can quickly change to insults. Also dont marry anyone who tells you who you are and should be.( I.e. grow up your not a child)

You deserve fo find someone you love entirely not only when your big. And you deserve to find a daddy that adores your little side. We littles have a special light don't hide it and dont let him put it out. You need some one to help it shine. *big hugs*

[fatyknowsnothing]

thank you everyone for your reply and advices *huggles*

 

i plan on telling him all next month and i hope he really can understand me like he always do and we can work it together. for now I'm sending him some article about ddlg and along with that i tell him a bit more of my little side.

 

on response to penny,

i know we have to spend days with someone to know them better, but we're not in the same city and not in the same island so this is all we have now. every time we met we always stay in each other home for about a 2weeks-a months, he always been good to me and my family and his family treat me good, i hope it continue later when we married.

he plan to move here in January to see my situations and understand it better and doing things to strength our bond before marriage.

 

As I'm a aware that he really not a daddy one, i can understand him like that, i just hope he can understand me back like he always do.

and if in the end we can't make it he will always be the special one in my life.