Confused and lost 😔😔

[Vibelove]

I really would need some advice because lately I've been struggling and being confused on what I want from myself or from a relationship. Lately I've discovered that I'm more into older people than my age but I know full well that in most cases a relationship like that won't lead to anything and at the same time I've been trying to find a little closely to my age of a bit younger but as much as I try to be myself and present to others what I can do and offer as a daddy people are just not interested or they text for a brief moment and than they don't reply again anymore . In a way it sounds like a desperate post seeing attention but I don't know really know what to do or how I should turn things around for myself 😞😞😞

[Guest Crybunbun]

First of all: bet you are a great person. And yeah life can be confusing - and so relationships. It took me 27 Years ( i am 27 ) to get into a ( so far still fresh ) but healthy relationship - even if its long distance. Its totally ok and normal to not know or be confused about what type of partner would fit. It may take some time - or lots more - but patience is key. At least it was for me ; i can only talk from my opinion of course.
I think gettin in contact with people, talk to others may be a big help. People here on this forum and people on discord servers helped me. And thru talkin & getting to know people; i also found my daddy.
I dont know if that helped you a little - but after all: i wish you the best and that you find your perfect partner no matter if they're older, same age - or a bit younger !

[beanbean]

1 hour ago, Crybunbun said:

First of all: bet you are a great person. And yeah life can be confusing - and so relationships. It took me 27 Years ( i am 27 ) to get into a ( so far still fresh ) but healthy relationship - even if its long distance. Its totally ok and normal to not know or be confused about what type of partner would fit. It may take some time - or lots more - but patience is key. At least it was for me ; i can only talk from my opinion of course.
I think gettin in contact with people, talk to others may be a big help. People here on this forum and people on discord servers helped me. And thru talkin & getting to know people; i also found my daddy.
I dont know if that helped you a little - but after all: i wish you the best and that you find your perfect partner no matter if they're older, same age - or a bit younger !

yes patience is vert important , just don't settle becuase that hardley ever works just be you figure out what you want and need in a relationship and go from there. easy is hardley ever rewarding

[Nymph]

I don't think this is a desperate post, I hate those and ignore them. You sound frustrated and we all get frustrated sometimes.

If you like people of certain age range go for it, it's ok to have preferences. Age gaps are not unheard of and it can work. I would however ask myself what is it that it attracts you from them and keep an open mind to meet someone outside your preferred age range who might have all those traits you love so you don't miss out on someone who might be a great match otherwise.

You should always be yourself, if you are not yourself and you get in a relationship sooner or later they will realize and it will not work because they fell for the person you pretended to be.

I do think it's important you have an idea of what you want. Maybe post some thoughts that are confusing you to get some feedback? are you starting to question your role or the lifestyle or is it something else?