New to Ddlg

[KalibriD]

Hello everyone. I'm new to exploring ddlg. My wife agreed to try it. She was worried about any sexual aspect, not understanding that being a little doesn't have to have anything to do with sex. How can I help explain to her that being little isn't sexual? And for anyone here who does have a sexual component to their relationship with their little, can you help me understand how to explain that it doesn't have anything to do with sexual attraction to actual children?

[LoverEcho]

I’d start by letting her know that an individual’s littlespace or middlespace is usually for a form of healthy coping. It allows the little or middle to relax, de-stress, and in some situations be cared for outside of an adult headspace. One’s littlespace or middlespace can take what ever form helps them. It is sexual for some and not for others.

In the realm of age play or sexual little/middle spaces, often times that kind of play helps to heal from trauma of childhood SA. Of course, it is just a kink for some which is just as valid, provided it is done between consenting adults. 

For the latter part of your question, very simply, a predator is a predator. That is to say, those individuals aren’t attracted to just childlike qualities, adults in a younger headspace will not provide what their illness has them seeking. 
 

 

Edited December 20, 2022 by LoverEcho

[Andriel_Isilien]

I think what you are looking for is age regression. That is being a little or regressing to a younger age to heal and destress without the sex and kink. I am a SFW little that age regresses a lot on my own without a daddy or even a caregiver. I would like a Ddlg relationship in the future, but I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. In no way, shape, or form am I sexually attracted to children, nor do I want to have a sexual relationship with male relatives. I am an adult that is childlike and carefree.

[StraightTopDaddy]

On 12/20/2022 at 10:49 AM, KalibriD said:

Hello everyone. I'm new to exploring ddlg. My wife agreed to try it. She was worried about any sexual aspect, not understanding that being a little doesn't have to have anything to do with sex. How can I help explain to her that being little isn't sexual? And for anyone here who does have a sexual component to their relationship with their little, can you help me understand how to explain that it doesn't have anything to do with sexual attraction to actual children?

Funny, I was just thinking of this conundrum yesterday. Believe it or not.

I understand that some, perhaps many littles/middles, are asexual.

But my little/middle and I are going to be totally intimate with each other.

You might ask, how can this be?

First of all, she is not a child. She is an adult. I dont confuse the two.

Also, for me anyways, I do not view actual children as being "sexy". To me, thier Moms have way more that interest me.

Finally, as a cg, if my partner has physical intimacy needs, (and she better have-I'm not a priest), it is my responsibility to meet her needs. To not do so would be a perfect way to have the relationship end soon.

Esp with very young littles, if the sight of her is a sexual turnoff, just undress her and turn off the light. Walla! Your making love to a woman now. Assuming that she is not an asexual little. An asexual little? This could be a whole another topic.

 

[Nymph]

If she agreed to try it, it means you are the one interested in it... so tell us what is it that you like about it? what are you the most interested in trying? what aspects of it are a bit of a turn off or you don't care about? If you are going to guide her through this, you need to do your homework.

After you have a more clear view then figure out if it's something you want to do as roleplay (dress up and pretend in the bedroom only once in a while) or as a lifestyle (you prepare scenes for the weekend and set up rules for this lapse of time or even go at it 24/7).

I am a very sexual person and I don't age regress, I am into the lifestyle. I am only a middle so it's not too obvious but naturally this means I have sex while I am little... because I am like that all the time. Do I get a bit more playful and childish sometimes? I sure do, this does not mean I magically turn into a child, I am a woman letting my inner child out kind of thing... and my inner child happens to be a tween.

If you were into diapers and want to turn her into a babygirl that is a bit extreme if she is so new and hesitating. Get her comfortable with stuff she already likes or things she used to like when she was younger, nostalgia sometimes is a part of it. Doing things she wanted to do and couldn't when she was younger might also be a good choice.

Reassure her that you don't expect her to use paci's or anything that would make her uncomfortable, but if she wants to try it someday she can... she should be the one to choose what she likes, you are just there to support and encourage her, you will be her safe place. It might turn out that her little age is not compatible with what you expected and you need to respect that.