CryBaby, is that normal?

[Stine]

These days I find myself crying all the time (or get very sad), even over small things. I am quite new seeking other DD/lg people out and I wanted to know if I am totally off. Thinking about that sentence... it shouldn't matter what is normal or not...but somehow it does anyway. When i found this forum and was approved, I cried reading through just a few posts. Now, a few days later, when reading through the status updates I cried because I got nervous, because I wanted to make contact with someone, but I didn't dare. I always do that, where I find someone I relate to, but when it comes to actually seeing if they would want to have a connection with me, I get so scared of rejection that I don't or scared that they will find me boring. Is having this many insecurities something other littles/middles have?

Don't get me started on Christmas movies.

 

[Skeezix]

I can relate to that. I'm prone to crying and I've had an intense fear of rejection for as long as I can remember. You sound pretty normal to me.

[Stine]

7 minutes ago, Skeezix said:

I can relate to that. I'm prone to crying and I've had an intense fear of rejection for as long as I can remember. You sound pretty normal to me.

I had imagined no one would be able to relate.

[Andriel_Isilien]

Take your time here 💗 Getting overwhelmed and crying more I think means you are a sensitive person. You aren't alone in that. A lot of people have fears of rejections but show it in different ways.

[Guest Enchanted_MoonFlower]

6 hours ago, Ashley Simmons said:

These days I find myself crying all the time (or get very sad), even over small things. I am quite new seeking other DD/lg people out and I wanted to know if I am totally off. Thinking about that sentence... it shouldn't matter what is normal or not...but somehow it does anyway. When i found this forum and was approved, I cried reading through just a few posts. Now, a few days later, when reading through the status updates I cried because I got nervous, because I wanted to make contact with someone, but I didn't dare. I always do that, where I find someone I relate to, but when it comes to actually seeing if they would want to have a connection with me, I get so scared of rejection that I don't or scared that they will find me boring. Is having this many insecurities something other littles/middles have?

Don't get me started on Christmas movies.

 

I'm glad I came across this thread today because I'm like this. I'm a highly sensitive person and sometimes I feel like I'm too much and that nobody would want me because of that. So rejection is one issue I have. If they don't want me, I'm okay with that and respect their decision but I'm still prone to crying a lot sometimes. So trust me when I say this, your not alone in this. This happened not to long ago actually, I made a great connection with someone and they ended up ghosting me, I felt hurt by this, but now I'm starting to feel better about the entire situation. That person wasn't meant to be, simple as that. I'll most likely meet someone better for me one day, and I'm going to be patient with this. Just go slow with things and if you ever need someone to talk too, you can always reach out to me. I'm always looking for new friends anyways. That's entire up to you though. My inbox is always open!  

Edited December 20, 2022 by Enchanted_MoonFlower

[Stine]

16 minutes ago, Enchanted_MoonFlower said:

I'm glad I came across this thread today because I'm like this. I'm a highly sensitive person and sometimes I feel like I'm too much and that nobody would want me because of that. So rejected is one issue I have. If they don't want me, I'm okay with that and respect their decision but I'm still prone to crying a lot sometimes. So trust me when I say this, your not alone in this. This happened not to long ago actually, I made a great connection with someone and they ended up ghosting me, I felt hurt by this, but now I'm starting to feel better about the entire situation. That person wasn't meant to be, simple as that. I'll most likely meet someone better for me one day, and I'm going to be patient with this. Just go slow with things and if you ever need someone to talk too, you can always reach out to me. I'm always looking for new friends anyways. That's entire up to you though. My inbox is always open!  

Thank you, that is exactly it. Being hyper emotional really get more doubting social situations. The first time i met other intersex people, i cried constantly and weren't able to connect with anyone. It's hard to navigate. 

[Princess_Bubbles]

Why hello there 😁 what you're feeling is absolutely normal, I am exactly the same way but that just means we are feelers and more in touch with our emotions. Even as I am writing this post I feel anxious and nervous and feel as if I should delete this reply lol but I'm trying to be brave by putting myself out there 🙈 I know sometimes it's hard and can be frustrating to not be able to express yourself because you are afraid you will be rejected but always remember that the right people, the ones who you truly connect with will never judge you and accept you just as you are.  

[Sloth Fairy]

Yeah I can be pretty emotional, I'm also an HSP. 

I think especially on these sites because littlespace is such a vulnerable thing to me, and especially when I first found out about what littlespace was, I was very emotional. It was a relief finding something that made me feel less weird. Lol. 

[Skeezix]

8 hours ago, Ashley Simmons said:

I had imagined no one would be able to relate.

When you are the person with the big reactions, the one that people say "overreacts" to "little things", it's easy to feel like no one understands. Honestly, most people don't. You have a different threshold for what triggers a reaction and that's valid. The problem lays in others expecting everyone to have the same baseline. You're just a sensitive person reacting to things in a way that is natural to you.

Highly sensitive people have unique needs. Such as a need for understanding when you are overwhelmed, some quiet time to recover, or some alone time to recharge. It's can be difficult to strike a balance between one's need for social interactions and the drain they place on your emotional resources and energy level. It took me a long time to become aware of alot of these things and a lot of work to be able to cope with them. It's pretty hard for people that don't experience such things to conceptualize them. I think this is a large factor in my feelings of vulnerability, and possibly the root of my fear of rejection. I think "no one will understand me" "I'm too needy" or "I'm too much work". That's not true but it can be hard to convince myself at times.

For those that make the effort to get to know one, highly sensitive people have a lot to offer. We are observant, considerate, thoughtful, fantastic listeners and capable of exceptional levels of empathy. We are worth knowing and worth loving.❤️

[Stine]

4 hours ago, Sloth Fairy said:

Yeah I can be pretty emotional, I'm also an HSP. 

I think especially on these sites because littlespace is such a vulnerable thing to me, and especially when I first found out about what littlespace was, I was very emotional. It was a relief finding something that made me feel less weird. Lol. 

Yeah, finding this place makes me on edge, but it's a good on edge... I think I might still be shell shocked by the acceptance there is on this site. 

[Stine]

5 hours ago, Princess_Bubbles said:

Why hello there 😁 what you're feeling is absolutely normal, I am exactly the same way but that just means we are feelers and more in touch with our emotions. Even as I am writing this post I feel anxious and nervous and feel as if I should delete this reply lol but I'm trying to be brave by putting myself out there 🙈 I know sometimes it's hard and can be frustrating to not be able to express yourself because you are afraid you will be rejected but always remember that the right people, the ones who you truly connect with will never judge you and accept you just as you are.  

Thank you for not deleting. All those who give me answers to these questions, mean the world to me. I am used to being the one who have the strongest and most enthusiastic reactions and often I need to concentrate very hard, to not cry in public, when something hits me. At the start of december i broke down in a grocery store, after meeting someone who triggered a lot of emotion.

It feels good that there are others, so I'm not alone... I just don't know anyone in my own area. 

[Princess_Bubbles]

you are most welcome 😇 I'm glad that you were able to receive insight 🤗 you shouldn't let that weigh on your shoulders, it's okay to not be okay and sometimes all we need is a really good cry to release all of those built up emotions. I'm sorry you had to go through that and wish you healing for what triggered you 💛 you will never be alone, if you would like to get to know people, a simple smile or greeting when you see them can suffice and let it build from there, that is what usually helps for me. 

[Stine]

11 hours ago, Skeezix said:

When you are the person with the big reactions, the one that people say "overreacts" to "little things", it's easy to feel like no one understands. Honestly, most people don't. You have a different threshold for what triggers a reaction and that's valid. The problem lays in others expecting everyone to have the same baseline. You're just a sensitive person reacting to things in a way that is natural to you.

Highly sensitive people have unique needs. Such as a need for understanding when you are overwhelmed, some quiet time to recover, or some alone time to recharge. It's can be difficult to strike a balance between one's need for social interactions and the drain they place on your emotional resources and energy level. It took me a long time to become aware of alot of these things and a lot of work to be able to cope with them. It's pretty hard for people that don't experience such things to conceptualize them. I think this is a large factor in my feelings of vulnerability, and possibly the root of my fear of rejection. I think "no one will understand me" "I'm too needy" or "I'm too much work". That's not true but it can be hard to convince myself at times.

For those that make the effort to get to know one, highly sensitive people have a lot to offer. We are observant, considerate, thoughtful, fantastic listeners and capable of exceptional levels of empathy. We are worth knowing and worth loving.❤️

I really relate to what you are writing and reading it I realize that I have internalized a lot of the stuff I've heard said about me. Maybe my reactions aren't too much, but just a natural part of me. 

I would love to be among other people and socialize, but when I get home from events, I am often so tied that I just slump into the bed, sleep instantly and need a lot of recover over the next few days. 

You seem to know yourself quite well, I have no clue why I think I am being too needy/clingy, I think it is my need for affirmation of being good enough, as I am. 

It's Nice to hear that there are coping mechanism. 😊

[littledreamer20]

I can totally relate. I’m afraid of rejection too which is why it’s hard for me to open ip to other people, even my own daddy sometimes. I also cry a lot and don’t even know why. I try to watch my favorite Disney movie or something else I love to help relax. I’m still working on opening up to my daddy but he is very patient and helps me figure out what is wrong and why I might be extra sad.