Fighting Fair

[Vampiress]

I think one of the most important tools to health communication in a relationship is learning how to "Fight Fair" with your partner. There is a lot of information out there from psychologists and relationship experts on how to do so. If you take your relationship seriously and want to build a foundation of being able to handle issues more productively, this is a subject I HIGHLY recommend you do your research on and share with your partner. If you are able to accomplish this together as a relationship tool, then your issues will generally be much easier to tackle together as a team and you will usually find more fulfilling resolution.

 

Some articles (all sfw):

https://www.heysigmund.com/fighting-fair/

https://www.glamour.com/story/how-much-fighting-is-too-much-in-a-relationship

https://cmhc.utexas.edu/fightingfair.html

Edited December 13, 2022 by Vampiress

[Guest UnicornPuff]

These are great tools… I have the problem of him just disappearing for days on end without a word.

[Vampiress]

On 4/9/2023 at 12:16 PM, UnicornPuff said:

These are great tools… I have the problem of him just disappearing for days on end without a word.

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sure you've expressed to him before how that makes you feel, and that you'd like him to be more communicative? If you have done so and he ignores it and doesn't really have a good excuse, then you need to consider setting boundaries and refusing to accept that behavior because you deserve better. There's 24 hours in a day, and there's no excuse really to just disappear or not even stop for a few minutes to check in and give an update.