talking to your little self directly?

[Flame wolf]

Hi, so i hope im not alone in this because it will make me feel like a crazy person, but does anyone else especially littles without cgs  talk to their little side directly and act as a cg for themselves. let me know and if it is weird please be nice.

[Little kaiya]

Interesting question. Personally, I have a Daddy so when I'm little the dialogue, direction and care comes from Him. When I'm in littlespace space that's who I am so there's not a big side as it were to talk or a little side to talk to, im just holistically me.

At the end if the day if it works for you then do it. It's only weird if you think it's weird. Other people's opinion are just that, opinions. What works for one person may not work for someone else but that doesn't invalidate any particular approach.

[Sweet Lil Buttercup]

OMG, I thought I was the only one that did this! I do it all of the time - at the store, before bedtime, when I’m sad and my heart hurts. 

And in all honestly, it feels weird to use ‘I’m’ and ‘my’ because it feels more like ‘we.’ … that part probably does sound crazy, but it feels appropriate. My little side is an important part of me, but she’s the most innocent and impulsive parts of me. I feel like have to protect her all of the time. I don’t want her to get hurt … or put three types of cookies and all sorts of snacks into the cart.

Going to bed during the work week is all sorts of ridiculous though. I’m just arguing with myself about not crawling into bed before I go through my night time routine. She’s/we’re/I’m very whiny about it.

[Flame wolf]

2 hours ago, Sweet Lil Buttercup said:

OMG, I thought I was the only one that did this! I do it all of the time - at the store, before bedtime, when I’m sad and my heart hurts. 

And in all honestly, it feels weird to use ‘I’m’ and ‘my’ because it feels more like ‘we.’ … that part probably does sound crazy, but it feels appropriate. My little side is an important part of me, but she’s the most innocent and impulsive parts of me. I feel like have to protect her all of the time. I don’t want her to get hurt … or put three types of cookies and all sorts of snacks into the cart.

Going to bed during the work week is all sorts of ridiculous though. I’m just arguing with myself about not crawling into bed before I go through my night time routine. She’s/we’re/I’m very whiny about it.

im so glad to hear im not alone, and yea the arguing can be funny. usually it happens when it comes to bed time, or msging people at unreasonable hours lol

[Skeezix]

Interesting. I've never noticed before, but that is totally something that I do. I'm not sure that I'm amy good at it though. I'll have to be more mindful of it in the future.

[Guest PrettyinPinkxx22]

Omg I started doing this a few weeks and thought it was so weird. So glad I’m not the only one! I also do it before bedtime when I’m feeling sad, I found it’s been helping me cope a little bit without daddy. 

[Sloth Fairy]

I do that. I sometimes write in a journal to myself or just do some self talk for comfort or to get myself out of negative thoughts. 

[CodeName: Trouble]

Hullo friends!

Yes, yes yes! This is something I absolutely do, and not just from a little space standpoint (but ties to it). I use this as a form of reparenting my inner child and providing myself instant constructive and healthy feedback. Reparenting is basically when your adult self gives you what you didn’t have growing up, or helps you work through things that might have left you with unhealthy habits, thoughts, or feelings etc. You can look this up online, there’s lots of good info out there and it’s a tool used by therapists as well.

Anyway, when I talk to my little self directly, its usually in a very supportive and emotionally comforting way, Things like:

“Oh this is a little hard for us isn’t it, that’s okay, how about we think of a different way to solve this problem”

“Its alright to feel big sad sometimes, and I’m sorry someone made us feel like it wasn’t.”

“Its okay to need someone to be here for you, I am here with you, and I will always be on your side”

The keys to reparenting, or the ‘pillars’ as they say, are Discipline (NOT punishment! This refers to healthy habits and rituals), Joy, Emotional regulation, and self- care.

Sometimes good thoughts don’t come naturally, and I find talking to myself, to my little side, to my vulnerability, with all the love and respect and support that I DESERVED when I needed it most, is a wonderful way to help reflect and make my little self-feel safe and valid.

[Andriel_Isilien]

I do this A LOT to self soothe and validate my feelings since I have gotten use to suppressing them. I have to because no one else will and I want to stop waiting for that. Sure, it might make me look like an absolute nut but it's just me, myself, and I right now so it's OK 😄 I mean... I don't think my pets mind LOL

I think it's very healthy to act or even attempt to be a caregiver for yourself. There's a thread with ideas specifically for this here

 

Edited December 4, 2022 by Andriel_Isilien
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[Holdontight]

Totally normal.

Everyone has subpersonalities, even if it's not as distinct as a little.

For some people their little is the inner child, and being a parent to it is an important part of therapy and personal growth. What Codename: Trouble said.

Everyone would be a lot healthier if they did it!

Edited December 5, 2022 by HoldonTight
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[AvocadoPrincesita]

I’ve been doing like this same talk self to myself ever since I read this on Sunday? I  think? Like before I go to sleep. When I’m sad. Like my inner voice is like ‘you’re doing the best you can. I’m so proud of you little one” and it comforts me. I’ve never even thought to do that until i read this. I’ve always had a constant inner dialogue. it basically narrates my life and feelings. But never like this. Sweet and nice to myself. Thank you so much for posting this. If you’re a bird I’m a bird💖🥰🥰🥰

[AvocadoPrincesita]

I made this and thought of you:::

Self talk-Rest day:

Snuggle in little one.

Close your eyes.

I want to tell you how proud I am of you.

You were such a good girl today.

You rested your body just like you needed to.

The chores can wait.

I know you were sad today and felt lonely.

I’m sorry you cried a lot.

But I’m still so proud of you.

Crying is good for my sweetie pie.

It helps you process all those big girl feelings and emotions.

Here, let me kiss the tears from your cheeks.

Kiss your neck and run my fingers through your hair.

Around your back.

Soft.

Like my girl.

My sweet and soft and tender princess.

You are safe.

You are loved.

You are cherished.

You are special.

You are a bright light.

You are beautiful.

You are strong.

You a good.

My darling girl.

Such a good girl.

Now, slow your breathing.

Deep breaths.

Imagine the good words popping like bubbles in your heart.

Each pop fills you with good feelings

Calming soft safe sweet cherished loved feelings.

It’s ok babygirl.

You did it.

You made it through this day and I’m so proud of my precious Angel.