Too much?

[AvocadoPrincesita]

Do you guys ever wonder if you’re too much for any daddy to want you? To be truly known and truly loved? Feeling down and doubting it’s a real thing that will ever exist. 🥺

[Guest PrettyinPinkxx22]

I feel like this too. I worry I’ll be too clingy, too boring…

Edited December 3, 2022 by PrettyinPinkxx22

[MissNMTX]

I think we all feel like this from time to time. It's part of human nature. Plus, most of us her who find our way here are complex . It's not true though. We all deserve to find genuine love and relationships. Some of us just have to wait longer for something worth it is all.

[Skeezix]

Sure, I have lots of insecurities like that. You're definitely not alone in your worries.

[Guest LilBitz]

You’re not “too much”. People who think that can go find less. 

💜

[Guest Lamps]

I think many daddys are drawn to the role because they like feeling useful and that they play an important part in someone's life. I'm simplifying things a bit but I think it's a powerful thing for littles to remember. That by being needy and clingy and whatever they define as "too much," they are making their daddy have purpose that feels good. With that said, I think it's also important for littles to recognize that the relationship does not work super well if it is one-sided and they are not also able to be there for their daddy in other ways. Being a caretaker in general is tough and there will be moments when they may not be able to take care of their little as much as they usually do. Basically, it's important to be a team and support each other. All that is to say, as long as there is mindfulness to having a two-way dynamic where both parties are cared for, I think that can hopefully help to reduce the fear of being "too much." If you ever have someone say to you that you're too much even when you are being mindful of caring for them, then that might speak more about their bandwidth and caretaking abilities than you.

[AvocadoPrincesita]

12 minutes ago, Lamps said:

I think many daddys are drawn to the role because they like feeling useful and that they play an important part in someone's life. I'm simplifying things a bit but I think it's a powerful thing for littles to remember. That by being needy and clingy and whatever they define as "too much," they are making their daddy have purpose that feels good. With that said, I think it's also important for littles to recognize that the relationship does not work super well if it is one-sided and they are not also able to be there for their daddy in other ways. Being a caretaker in general is tough and there will be moments when they may not be able to take care of their little as much as they usually do. Basically, it's important to be a team and support each other. All that is to say, as long as there is mindfulness to having a two-way dynamic where both parties are cared for, I think that can hopefully help to reduce the fear of being "too much." If you ever have someone say to you that you're too much even when you are being mindful of caring for them, then that might speak more about their bandwidth and caretaking abilities than you.

Thank you. I love this🥺💖

[Little kaiya]

I'll admit I sometimes think maybe I'm too much to handle, or too much work, too bratty, too broken . . . Just too much. When that happens my Daddy just smothers me in snuggles, cuddles, kisses and unconditional love. It's pretty hard to maintain doubt when confronted with a dominant cuddly force of nature 💗🥰

[PrincessMuhree]

8 hours ago, AvocadoPrincesita said:

Do you guys ever wonder if you’re too much for any daddy to want you? To be truly known and truly loved? Feeling down and doubting it’s a real thing that will ever exist. 🥺

ALLL. THE. TIIIMMEEE!! 
funny & best part is I been with my Daddy for 9 years. Didn’t start the DD/lg thing till like a year ago? And TBH it’s been a lot of like acceptance coming to terms with ahit I already do / enjoy 🫣🫠 .. like basic examples - coloring certain things, certain clothes , etc .. 

BUT now . All of a sudden. I’m like is he gonna think I’m weird and leave me lmao even tho I really been doing the same shit there’s just more meaning and intention to it 🥴😩🥲

[Vampiress]

I have definitely had this thought a lot in the past, I think it's a common worry for littles... but I think even in vanilla relationships people will have such insecurities.

[Cebakes]

Another relative topic with lots of great responses.  My middle S admits that she is very clingy, needy, and I love it.  I am a single parent and have raised my four kids on my own since about 2000. They are all grown and out of the house now, but I would like to think I have strong dad skills.  

For me, I have the time, interest, and desire to provide attention to S or another middle.  Maybe deep down, I miss having my kids at home and doing more dad things?? Not every daddy will be in a position to provide this.   Many are focused on their careers, finances, kids, their own worries, health, etc.  There is only so much attention that they can provide to satisfy your needs for attention. 

I don’t think there is anything wrong with a little/middle being clingy, needy, crave praise, and affirmation.  For S and I, it adds to the power exchange dynamics.  For their own benefit, littles/middles need to make sure that they never become too dependent on any one person, or let these needs become obsessive.  You always want to be able to be independent and self-sufficient.

Communication is important and there is nothing wrong with sharing your needs for attention with your daddy.  Be open and talk to your daddy about this.  Many daddies are younger or new to this, so it is beneficial to talk about these things with them.  Make sure you are on the same page about receiving and giving attention.   Your definition of giving attention could very easily be much different from another persons. 
 

As far as vanilla relationships, I think that’s a whole different kettle of fish.  From my experience over the years, this is something that most couples, men/women don’t speak freely about with each other.  Words like clingy, needy,  can be viewed as a weakness or a concern to a partner.   I know this summer, S was dating a guy her own age, and wasn’t getting the attention she needed.  She told him that she was clingy and needy,  But either it didn’t register or he didn’t have it in him and couldn’t provide what I viewed as pretty basic attention.

 

 

[Andriel_Isilien]

I have admitted to others I think I'm "too much" to the point that I'm sure I would leave myself if I could. People have even assured me that I'm not too much but I still feel this way. This year I have been working with my therapist on being enough for myself and correcting my self-talk. I can't control how much another person can or cannot handle but this starts with me. And I agree with @LilBitz 100%. Those who see you as "too much" can go find less!