How to decide your little/middle age

[pryhncess]

Hi everyone! When I started this journey of discovering my wants, I thought I was simply a submissive, but then discovered that there are quite a few aspects of standard D/s relationships that I don't like, or scare me.😱  I dug a little deeper (I won't bore you all detailing every step LOL ) and ended up here, learning about my little side. I'm still figuring a lot out. I know I like acting silly 🤪, I love the caregiving aspects of being looked after and having things decided for me 💕, I like soothing activities like coloring or crafts, 🥰I love cuddles and being affectionate...

But I'm not sure how to go about deciding the labels part, if I'm a little or a middle. If I have an age or age range. 🤷‍♀️

How did you figure out your little/middle age? Or do you not have one? If you do, was it something you chose and then aligned your activities and behaviors to that age? Or was it something you decided after you looked at the age level of behaviors you expressed?

Thanks in advance for helping me on my journey! 🏵️

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy and I focused more on activities than a specific age or age range. By focusing on activities and behaviors thst felt natural instead of an age we found it felt much more organic and natural.

[Redneck-Kitty]

I think quizzes like this can help https://www.gotoquiz.com/what_is_your_real_little_space_age_1

[MissNMTX]

This is actually a pretty hard thing. It just takes time. The more you learn about yourself, the more you will find what fits for you. I personally struggled being a middle. For the longest time I thought there was no place for me. The longer you go the more you will find people similar to yourself and more importantly you'll find there really are no rules!

Talk to people! It will help, I promise.

[pryhncess]

48 minutes ago, Redneck-Kitty said:

I think quizzes like this can help https://www.gotoquiz.com/what_is_your_real_little_space_age_1

I never knew such a quiz existed! Thank you!

[pryhncess]

18 minutes ago, MissNMTX said:

This is actually a pretty hard thing. It just takes time. The more you learn about yourself, the more you will find what fits for you. I personally struggled being a middle. For the longest time I thought there was no place for me. The longer you go the more you will find people similar to yourself and more importantly you'll find there really are no rules!

Talk to people! It will help, I promise.

This is really comforting to hear. Its nice to know that it is a process for most people 🥰

[MissNMTX]

1 hour ago, Redneck-Kitty said:

I think quizzes like this can help https://www.gotoquiz.com/what_is_your_real_little_space_age_1

I just took the quiz...also never knew it existed, but it said i was correct....yea!

[Cebakes]

1 hour ago, Redneck-Kitty said:

I think quizzes like this can help https://www.gotoquiz.com/what_is_your_real_little_space_age_1

My middle S took the test and it said 14-16, It listed multiple traits and likes that I do see in her.

 

[AngelwithoutWings]

When I first met my caregiver he is the one who told me I was a little/middle. I had no clue what he was talking about and the more we talked about the lifestyle and the stuff I liked to do I understood. Together we figured out I was more of a middle, which after taking the test I found out we were right!