I am a living specimen.

[DaddysMonkey]

…….. Hi. 👋🏻
 

I have seen a lot of people on here over the years and years I’ve been on this site either looking for love or questioning whether these kind of dynamics can actually last a really long time or even a lifetime regardless of how they’ve evolved and grown over time.

I feel that I’ve got enough footwork in the community and a relationship dynamic that’s lasted so long that I can say I have a pretty good handle on things regarding this community and relationships and how they can be built to last. My dynamic was built to last. 

Today was my 11 year anniversary with Dad , and I (we , including Big Brother now) am living proof , a specimen(s) if you will that things can and do work. It takes a lot of patience , communication , kindness , appreciation , gratefulness , understanding , sacrifice , and much more but most importantly …. Our unconditional love. 

There are some days I get very tired because I do so much , and I know Dad gets tired because he works so fucking hard every day.. we were blessed to have this beautifully fun and carefree day today. 

These are some snippets from our wonderful anniversary day !

Ramen ! 

 

Being girly for Dad 💖

 

Products Dad got me from Lush 🥰

Ice skating ⛸

 

 

Dad let me get some stuff from Vans , my favorite shoe brand ! I got a new outfit. 
 

We also went to our favorite candy shop and got some yummy treats ! 
 

At the shopping mall there was this huge tv screen with a monitor thing on it , and if you waved your hand in front of it you could control the sparkle wand ! 
 

[beanbean]

its amazing and i am very happy for you . good things take work , thinks that matter take work . so many people come here and want instant everything and want it to be perfect. and that takes time and most people don't want it to take time they wany it now!  but i am glad you had a great night!!

[Guest LilBitz]

@DaddysMonkey Awz, Monkey!!! Your day looks like it was absolutely magical! 🥰 🖤

Happy anniversary you’s guys! 🐒🖤✨💜

[DaddysMonkey]

Thank you both very very much 💖

I was surprised Dad didn’t fall during ice skating this time 😤 hmph I was hoping for that laugh. 

It was a super fun day and I’m grateful , I’ll never understand how I was given everything I was in life. 

[Andriel_Isilien]

I've been thinking lately, "is it possible for a relationship in this dynamic to last more than a few years?" I hear many more stories of breakups, mine included, and I feel discouraged. I don't want a fling or experiment. I want a lifetime commitment and I so badly want to put in the work for something worthy of that. I love your story, Monkey! Thank you for sharing it. I appreciate your journey as it gives me hope 💗 I'm so happy for you both! 🥰 You deserve the very best!

Edited November 24, 2022 by Andriel_Isilien
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[daddydeathwiish]

this is so wholesome, im melting <333

[DaddysMonkey]

@Andriel_Isilien if I can give people (or even just one person) hope that this can be a real and achievable lifestyle with a partner then my job here is done ! 

51 minutes ago, Andriel_Isilien said:

I don't want a fling or experiment. I want a lifetime commitment and I so badly want to put in the work for something worthy of that.

This right here is exactly the attitude that will get you what you’re yearning for 💖🥰 and you are just so loving and dang precious I know a Caregiver will be SO SO freaking lucky to have you ! 

[Vampiress]

This is a wonderful post, thank you for sharing! I'm so happy to see this dynamic work for you all. You both look great, and it seems like it was a magical and fun-filled day! I also like that you added the sort of work and understanding it takes to make this dynamic work as long as yours has. That's true for any relationship, but I think especially in this community it's extra important. Happy Anniversary and here is to many more in the future for you both! 

[Skeezix]

Happy anniversary.

Thank you for sharing. This was such an uplifting post to read. 

[Boomer]

THAT SPARKLE WAND

[Barney048]

Man sometimes I open up these topics of yours just because I have no idea what the fuck they're going to be about xD. Like "I am a living specimen". Before I opened it I was like "Oh this is going to be something about her overcoming/dealing with some of her mental health issues" ... And then BAM, plot twist 😂

It's nice that you share these experiances so they serve both as an inspiration to others as well as helps you relieve stress and anxiety. When you share your happiness with others and feel grateful your brain releases oxytocin, which helps in your overall wellbeing.

 

In my opinion these kind of dynamics have better odds of lasting in the longrun than traditional vanilla relationships, since someone engaging in this sort of relationships fully embraces who they are and accepts their needs, whereas in vanilla relationships more often than not people are just going through the motions and doing what is expected of them. Sure these relationships last longer timewise, but in most cases people aren't REALLY happy. 

Edited November 24, 2022 by Barney048

[DaddysMonkey]

@Barney048 I gotta keep you on your toes😜

I try to keep a balance of the shit that life is and showing people you can get through the shit of life with hard work and care 👍🏼 and some pretty cool partners. 

[Sloth Fairy]

This just makes me so stinkin happy. I don't really even have words for how much I love this. 

Happy Anniversary 

Edited November 24, 2022 by Sloth Fairy

[DaddyUmbreon]

Happy Anniversary @DaddysMonkey!! This is really such an amazing post and you really are an amazing part of this community.

I completely agree that people have to work hard at a relationship. A relationship isn’t just a feeling of love but also a choice and It takes a lot of parts, especially communication, patience, understanding, and a willingness to understand each other and work together. It’s very true of any relationship and especially in this dynamic as well. 

Finding that unconditional love means a willingness to open your heart, exposing your vulnerabilities; hopes, hurts, fears, faults. Throwing off your masks to reveal the real you, the person worthy of love. There is nothing more terrifying or fulfilling and therefore worth the risk of reaching for it. Finding that person who lets you find your true self and that welcomes every new version of you along the way. I believe the goal of a relationship is actually to create a safe space for mutual freedom and evolution, whatever way or dynamic that looks like for you, as a partnership. A love language that everyone should be versed in… “Safety”. 

I really am so very happy that you all have found and made things work in such a great way. Such a great example of how good things work out. Thank you for sharing. I wish you so much happiness and many more anniversaries.