Grumpiness and Neediness

[littledreamer20]

So I’ve been really grumpy lately for no reason. My daddy has noticed and tríes to help me not be grumpy but then I get grumpy at him and he leaves me alone when I don’t want him too. It always feels weird and embarrassing for me to ask my daddy to give me a spanking when I feel like I need one. Not even as punishment. Just get that need to be over his knee for some spanks to get over my grumpiness. How do I get over that embarrassment?

[Cebakes]

There should be no embarrassment.  What you are describing should not be considered embarrassing.  Your feelings are somewhat common and I’m sure that your daddy would be very understanding if you were totally honest with him. Talk to him about it and hopefully in the future when he sees that you are grumpy, he will take you over his knee and give you a good hard spanking.  Are you absolutely certain that there is not something that is causing your grumpiness?

With all that being said, are you a brat?  Do you have a brat side to the you that needs to be tamed?  I notice with my middle S,  if she is stressed out or”grumpy”, she may become a brat.  She is either acting out or projecting, and in reality wants me to put an end to it.   It’s also a cry for attention. 

Do you see any of this in you?

 

[Suzette]

I know that with my ex, without being in a DDLG relationship, sometimes when I was in a bad mood I would provoke until he punished me. I needed this to calm me down. Maybe subconsciously I was looking for his dominance. Otherwise, it just helps to calm down.

[PrincessRayvon]

It's worth talking to your daddy about this. I understand it's difficult and can feel embarrassing and intimidating sometimes but it will help. Be open about your feelings and any expectations or wants you have around how you want him to react those. It may mean that in the future he is able to then pick up on your cues a lot easier as you've set those expectations. 

 

It's easy to become grouchy when you feel like there's something you need and it's not being taken care of. So your feelings are completely valid and rational. Just make sure those feelings are coming from that place rather than somewhere else where spanking may make you feel worse. 

 

On a final note, there's no need to feel embarrassed to ask for what you need. Your daddy will understand and won't judge you for that. Take a deep breathe and tell yourself that you're just going to say it. Hopefully he reacts well and that'll help you in future when you want to do it again. 

[MissNMTX]

I once had someone tell me you shouldn't have to ask for a spanking. That your "daddy" should know when you need one. Maybe overtime that's true but for the most part no one is a mind reader. You shouldn't be embarrassed at all though. What you are talking about is very common for we s types. It's often very calming and centering. Kink as therapy if you will. 

It's so common in fact, there is such a thing as maintenance spankings.( If I had my ideal this would work for me. Plus, extra of course.) They are meant to be a bit of a reset type of thing, Helps you get all your personal benefits from it and maintain the dynamic of your relationship.

Maybe talk to your daddy about putting them on a schedule or rotation. Think of it as exercise or personal care. I bet your daddy would love being able to take care of you like that. It's preemptive. You'll know that you're going to get your outlet and you're spared any embarrassment of having to ask.

[Boomer]

Totally get these feels, you aren't alone.  Nothing chases the monkeys out of my head like a good spanking.  I have a hard time verbalizing those thoughts and find it easier to write them down.

[beanbean]

you need what you need , i understand your embrarrassment , but it sounds like your daddy just wants to help you ,you should talk to him and tell him how you feel lol