Any advice for finding a daddy in person?

[chubbycheekbby]

Hey all! I’m on a quest to find my forever daddy!

I’m on a dating app and I wish there was some secret code word we could put on our profiles to let others know we’re in the lifestyle. I put on my dating profile that I’m looking for a dominant man, so I’m hoping that catches the right person’s eye. Is there anything else I can put on my dating profile to show that I’m a little without being overtly obvious?

Also is there a way to spot daddies out in the wild? Like is there something I should be on the lookout for?

Any advice on meeting potential daddies in person pretty please!

Oh also! Does anyone know if there are any meetups for daddies and littles in the southeast Florida area?

Edited November 9, 2022 by chubbycheekbby

[Guest Richard Rockah]

You address something that many littles have a hard time with. One problem is that ddlg was basically created by females and males don't always understand it correctly.  A woman might enjoy regressing and becoming a Little, whereas many men don’t understand her regression and simply see it as a sexual thing, which lots of time it is not at all. That’s why so many men will hear about ddlg on a porn site and they come over to this forum looking for sexting, etc.

But all that said, there’s many men who are either naturally daddy-like or have the tendency to be a daddy and enjoy it. They naturally get into their little girl and enjoy her fully. So what I would tell you is to look for men who have a strong sensitive side to them. They might be someone you work with or have contact with who are the gentle and kind guy. It usually is’nt the rough wild man who makes the best daddy. They might be good at domming but usually fall short when it comes to being caring and loving. 

And when You mention wanting a dominant man, that might not get the right man at all. You might do better to mention that you want a loving, caring man who can “take care of his girl”. Of course use the code ddlg too.

[Guest Richard Rockah]

Looking back on what I just wrote… I do agree with it fully but also must point out that everybody is different and there actually are some Littles who are looking for a more sexual ddlg where they get harshly punished, and in their case a harsh dominant daddy is more their preference. But what I stated is quite true for the majority of Littles who age regress. I don’t know if any stats have been taken about the age regress Littles as compared to the subservient punishment seeking Littles. They’re both out there and on this forum.

And lastly, there are Littles who are a combination of both extremes. They not only age regress but they also enjoy a degree of punishment as well. Perhaps more of a mild spanking instead of the extreme ones that bring welts or even blood, as are often shown on the porn sites. 

Edited November 9, 2022 by Rockah_Twins

[Cebakes]

Words like alpha male, strong, driven, confident, protective, caring, trustful, sensitive, sensual, has their life together,  are good.Show you are a strong confident woman, but that you crave attention, words of praise and affirmation, physical touch, you love laughter and silliness, and other words to show the little in you that a daddy might recognize.  Make it clear you seek a strong male who can take the lead. 

[clumsy_little]

I found many daddies around by there platonic trait, if it makes sense. Patience, the way they talk with others, how they handle any situation; can be some of the points which might hint them being one but again, it's not that easy to know if someone is from that dynamic. Because of porn, and some other platforms, the word daddy, mommy or dom is always linked sexually in maximum situation. 

[Guest dumb baby]

you can either try and find omeone close to your area already into the dynamic which may be a long-shot depending where you are based or introduce someone slowly to the dynamic once you have some trust in them and can tell if they are open- minded but also accept that they may not be into it and see if you could imagine yourself happy in a relationship without they dynamic being involved 

[shadowrider]

 A lot of good advice across the board as usual. 

 As far as looking for DDs or any other person in the lifestyle in the wild you can get on a site like Fet. The site can be scary and is filled with tons of sharks and creepers so I suggest not posting an ad or a picture on there. But you can look for local groups and events and sort by area or town which can be helpful when looking for munches. A munch will be in a public place and that is always what you should look for. And the group setting makes it more comfortable for some since you are not locked into a one on one with a stranger.

 But my main advice is always take it slow and please be safe. If it doesn't feel right back away. You can always reach out to friends or the staff here or ask questions in the knowledge club if you are feeling like something isn't right.

  Having a partner is amazing, but the wrong partner or jumping in too fast can leave you feeling terrible and stressed so take it slow.

[Guest Lamps]

I will just add that it can be super hard to find a partner on dating apps, online, and in person in general. So don't be too hard on yourself if you can't find the right person that fits your needs right away. I personally think it's important to build a strong foundation outside of ddlg rather than revolve a relationship around ddlg. That's why I think it could also be helpful to go on dates and try to just find a person that you click with and then over time you can bring up ddlg. 

[Boomer]

I met a daddy on a dating app and it surprised us both.  I'm curious to hear how it goes saying you are looking for a dominant man because I would guess that most men *think* they are dominant. Another approach is to list the things you like to do in little space or things that make you feel little.  Something that a vanilla person might think is quirky but a daddy will see as a green flag.

"Looking for someone to play board games with me, Candyland is my favorite!"

"I like watching cartoons on rainy days but I need someone to hide the candy when I've had too much."

"The way to my heart is bringing me a stuffed animal on each of our dates."