Self-Soothing & Being Your Own Caregiver

[Andriel_Isilien]

This doesn't have to apply solely to littles that are single without a caregiver. There will be times that your caregiver is away and as a little it is always a good idea to have backup for managing yourself. I can only imagine that accomplishing this would make your caregiver proud of you for being so brave and big while they were busy.

Princess Taysharni here made a wonderful video that I discovered several months ago when I was feeling lost. Her statement that "You are your permanent caregiver," really spoke to me. I took to heart how age-regression is reparenting my inner child and investing in my own journey. Because no matter where life takes me, I am the number one person the little in me has to rely on. So, it's worth discovering and practicing how to self-soothe, how to grow, and how to be fulfilled from within. Being comfortable with being alone is so empowering and healthy as a little.

I still have friends, family, a professional therapist, and so on that I check in for that connection to keep me on the right path of developing as a social human being. I can be doing all the right things and still have those awful days when I feel alone with my thoughts and feelings. It's OK to experience them because I am putting into practice these skills of being enough for myself and believing it.

 

Share below your experiences in self-care or how you manage making rules/goals for yourself when you don't have your caregiver.

[Andriel_Isilien]

[Andriel_Isilien]

🤧 Tips for Sick Littles 🤧

 I know water is icky, but chocolate milky isn't *that* hydrating so get some juice! 

 Fruit is good for your little immune system.

 If you're achy, a warm bath is just the trick.  Plus, it's fun!

 Watch movies in bed. I know you want to go play, but you need your rest.

 Take your nap! It will help you feel better.

 Cold medicine tastes icky so pretend it's something else... like a special mermaid medicine or happy juice or something.

 Warm jammies are a must.

(Source: babygirl-miles)

 

I would add stuffies onto this list as they watch over you, remind you to take your medicine, and cheer you on to get better soon so that you all can play again!

[Stine]

Thank you for the advice and the visually stunning lists. I find colouring soothes me and biting on stuff, don't think it is smart, but it is something I've always done. 

[Stine]

On 11/2/2022 at 5:44 AM, Andriel_Isilien said:

This doesn't have to apply solely to littles that are single without a caregiver. There will be times that your caregiver is away and as a little it is always a good idea to have backup for managing yourself. I can only imagine that accomplishing this would make your caregiver proud of you for being so brave and big while they were busy.

Princess Taysharni here made a wonderful video that I discovered several months ago when I was feeling lost. Her statement that "You are your permanent caregiver," really spoke to me. I took to heart how age-regression is reparenting my inner child and investing in my own journey. Because no matter where life takes me, I am the number one person the little in me has to rely on. So, it's worth discovering and practicing how to self-soothe, how to grow, and how to be fulfilled from within. Being comfortable with being alone is so empowering and healthy as a little.

I still have friends, family, a professional therapist, and so on that I check in for that connection to keep me on the right path of developing as a social human being. I can be doing all the right things and still have those awful days when I feel alone with my thoughts and feelings. It's OK to experience them because I am putting into practice these skills of being enough for myself and believing it.

 

Share below your experiences in self-care or how you manage making rules/goals for yourself when you don't have your caregiver.

In the video she speak about "age regression" and I searched for it and found this article: 

https://www.verywellhealth.com/age-repression-therapy-5212676

Some of the stuff about self soothing sounds eerily like me, with the pencil chewing and temper tantrums, which actually made me change my medication, because they were so severe, now I just cry a lot. 

I don't know if there is a question in there, i just didn't really know about it, being a thing. 

[Andriel_Isilien]

13 hours ago, Ashley Simmons said:

Thank you for the advice and the visually stunning lists. I find colouring soothes me and biting on stuff, don't think it is smart, but it is something I've always done. 

You are most certainly welcome! 😁 I have always been a chewer since I can remember. As an adult I grind my teeth without realizing it and that has caused several issues. Chewing gum is an easy outlet but I want to try teether toys for kids that I can collect for littlespace.

[Stine]

8 hours ago, Andriel_Isilien said:

You are most certainly welcome! 😁 I have always been a chewer since I can remember. As an adult I grind my teeth without realizing it and that has caused several issues. Chewing gum is an easy outlet but I want to try teether toys for kids that I can collect for littlespace.

Teether toys sound cool... Never heard of it. 

[Middlespace Brat]

This is a video by one of my favorite creators, her name is KattBebee or N3ko Mom and Dad. She has this video up on her Youtube for free and a longer version up on her paid Patreon. Here's a rundown of her notes, but I would suggest watching the video for more in-depth details. 

TLDR:

1) Have some sort of routine/structure/schedule

2) Have a Littlespace "to-do" list to make your headspace easier

3) "Baby-ify" daily tasks to make them easier

4) Find a sense of community

5) Have a self-sufficient rewards/rules system

6) Take care of your mental health, through therapy/journaling/support system etc

 

[Andriel_Isilien]

Thank you for sharing @Littlespace Bunnie This is fantastic!

[LilTommy]

I'm crying reading these 😥😭

[BabyBrattyKittyKatty]

Thank you so much for these lovely lists and pictures. I started crying reading them and sensed a renewed will to treasure myself ❤️

[Middlespace Brat]

Here are some more thoughts I have and general tips!
- keep a list of things that trigger your headspace. this can help you find common factors and help you slip easier
- keep a list of your favorite activities to do in Littlespace that why when you do slip, you have a few ideas of things to do
- keep a list of things you want to try while little. This will keep it interesting and motivational
- make a littlespace to do list to keep you on track with your plans for little time to make you feel like you got the most out of it
- prep for your little self/little time. get your clothes/diapers out or on, clean up your space, set up cartoons ready to go, fill up a sippy, get a snack, get stuffies or toys or coloring supplies, etc
- keep a chore chart so you both stay on top of al your adulty things but to also help you feel little
- little-ify daily task! make chores into a game, have a sticker chart or rewards, use your little gear during it like diapers or pacis or stuffie friends, let yourself regress while doing it if you can do so safely, listen to little music, and so on!