I need ideas *_*

[Lolitadisney]

Hi!!

I'm dating an awesome bf.  We have not being dating for a long time but the relationship is going great (we shared our results in the bdsm test) *_*

I feel butterflies every time we meet & everything is very romantic. I'm incredibly happy & I perceive this is mutual. ❤️

Btw, we're both newbies in this lifestyle & I've discovered he's an experimentalist switch. 

Please, could you give ideas to have healthy & pleasant sexual intercourses?

[Cottagegirl]

Just be honest and communicate your wants, needs, and fantasies. Discuss limits. Have a safe word.  Have fun exploring.

[DaddyDom3238]

Cottagegirl is totally correct!! You cannot over communicate in this regard, be open to explore while at the same time letting the other person know if you have any hard limits that you know of and be sure to establish a safe word as well so that while you are exploring you both know if you need to hard stop with anything you are doing. 

Some of the best relationships and experiences I have had over the many years I have been in the lifestyle are when I have explored with a new little/sub. You grow together and that just makes the experience more intense and beautiful! Have a wonderful time and explore everything in a safe environmnet with your partner. 

[Married_Lg]

I might be an over thinker/overplanner, but as someone with anxiety… I like to go into a scene with a general idea of what I want to happen. I used to have a partner that I would see only one weekend every couple months, and we would discuss the types of scenes we wanted briefly ahead of time. Changes happen, things aren’t planned out to a T, but the communication and planning made me feel like I was getting the most out of those moments and I think I would feel the same even if we had lived closer. 
for example, if I knew I was needing a Little scene, I would tell him that and we would kind of flirt about the spanking I’m gonna get. Another time I topped him (we were both switches) and he knew he was gonna get some pain (and we are both sadomasochists). So I left it up to how I was feeling at the time to choose what instrument I was gonna “beat” him with, but he knew going into it that his need for the ouchies was gonna be satisfied. 
 

so like everyone else said- communicate! But also as part of that communication- PLAN (loosely)!!!

[Redneck-Kitty]

dont overthink it just go with the flow and see what happens, but of course discuss boundaries and safe words first. 

Communication is key to any relationship, but especially in this lifestyle.