What to do when you find yourself at loose ends?

[MissNMTX]

Hi Everyone,

I've been away for a while as I often don't find much to say here. I said, I find myself in need of a bit of advice and commiserating. I recently find myself without a daddy or any D-type.  I got ghosted by someone I didn't expect and then a couple that just didn't work out.  This is all fine.

The problem is, I seem to find myself a bit listless. Everything is actually fine. I'm not depressed and I'm still doing and taking care of everything. It simply seems that I'm a bit happier and feel more myself within a D/s dynamic. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else ever feels this way? And what you do to "right" yourself again?  So sorry, this is a little long but thanks for reading.

[Guest]

First off, I'm sorry it didnt work out with the individuals you were talking to.

second, I feel quite listless myself from time to time and normally I try to make time for the things I put on the back burner (like things I put off to be able to do stuff for others) and enjoy doing for myself. like maybe a craft I been wanting to do for a long time, i do that or maybe a coloring book ive been wanting to open and color, I'll do that. normally when im feeling listless it means its time to put myself and my hobbies first, to focus on myself and my happiness for a bit. 

I hope this helps

[Little Becca]

Hi!!!!!  Oh yes, I really understand how you are feeling. In this dynamic, and I think regardless, when seeking your forever person (or at least good-for-now person, for some!), you understand that the person you’re interacting with or interested in might not be that person. And yes, that is fine. Many of us have been through this lotsa times and have learned the game. 

Still, it is difficult. It’s hard when you may (subconsciously or otherwise) believe that person to be the one, when things seem to be going so well, and then it doesn’t turn out the way you anticipated. Although you know from the onset this is a possibility, it’s still hard. It still takes something out of you, which, I believe, is what causes that listless feeling. You knew going in this could happen. You were mentally prepared for it. Still, on an emotional level, it does some level of damage, even if minor. Hence, the listlessness. 
 
I agree with Alana, self-care is in order here. Doing what that means for you is what you should focus on, as well as leaning on others who understand for support. It was good that you posted this!!!! And I hope you meet friends who help. And you can always message me!!!! I understand!!!!  And I hope you feel like your usual self soon. 🤗🤗🤗

[DaddyDom3238]

Hello, 

I am so sorry that you were ghosted, that is quite common unfortunately. As far as feeling listless and out of sorts when not in D/s dynamic, while I can't speak for littles. As a Daddy/Dom that is very common as well as I am also going through that as I do not have a relationship right now. So just know how you are feeling and what you are feeling is totally normal and to be expected as this dynamic is part of you. 

That being said all the input you have gotten is very good, find a hobby, color, have conversations with others in the dynamic. Watch cartoons and do things that take that stress away. Just know that you will find a Daddy that cherishes you and when you do it will be worth it. 

[MissNMTX]

Thank you everyone for your kind words. So generous of you all. I am feeling better these days. As best as I can figure it was some sort of coming out of an extended sub drop thing. Like things are more meaningful or important to do in the dynamic than not. I'm not even sure if that really makes sense. I guess I enjoy the structure more than I realized. I'm grateful to have learned more about myself so that I can be more aware and proactive should it happen again. Thank you all 

[Guest ravenpuff321]

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