Somewhat new to dd/lg - Need some advice!

[LittleKnight]

I've been in a relationship for a little over two years now, but we've just recently (like, the last few months) started getting into dd/lg. He's always been into this kind of thing, but it's always sort of made me a little nervous and uncomfortable, so being the good boyfriend he is, he never forced it on me or anything. He's suggested things here and there, but always respected my wishes when I said no. Anyways, a couple months ago, >(NSFW up ahead)< , he bought me a new vibrator and asked if I would be comfortable calling him daddy when he used it on me. I went for it, (because honestly, calling him daddy isn't that big of a deal - it's something super simple, and it makes him happy), and about halfway through, he started calling me kitten. I don't know what it was about those two little names, but for some reason I still don't even fully understand, it made the orgasm he gave me that much more powerful.

 

Speed up a couple months to now; We still do the daddy/kitten foreplay, and even when we're not being sexual, he still calls me kitten and has even added in princess, and I still like to call him daddy. He's getting me a collar (of my choice) for Christmas, and a couple times a week he lets me go into my little space. He's already bought me coloring books and bows, and along with the collar, he's getting me a cute Olaf sippy and cat ears for Christmas. I like the fact that there are different aspects to our relationship now. I like that I can go from being a pet to being a little, while still being able to be an adult. It's nice knowing that I can be responsible, while still being allowed to act like a little girl without being judged. I also like the fact that he has a little more control over me. >(NSFW up ahead)< For example, when he's in daddy mode, I'm not allowed to cum before he does. If I do, I get punished. (I get spanked, he makes me give him a blow job until he cums, and I have to swallow, he gets to do anal and cum inside, etc). But he also regulates my sleep and eating schedule now, which I like because it shows he cares and it also helps me and my physical health. 

 

So, that's basically my relationship as it is now, more or less, and how we got into dd/lg. The thing is, though, I think I'm ready for the more bdsm aspect of a dd/lg relationship. He recently started choking me when we have sex, or even just make out, and it feels amazing. It feels dangerous because he literally has all the power in the world, right there in his hands. He could choke me and literally make me pass out if he wanted to. That's why it's so thrilling. Even with all that power, he still chooses to be gentle because he loves and cares for me. How do I tell my daddy that I'm ready for more? I want him to take risks with me. I want him to make my adrenaline pump. I want him to hurt me in the most sensual way possible. But I also want him to take it slow. I don't want too much at one time. I mean, I'm still getting used to the fact that I have a daddy now, and that he's not just my boyfriend. How does one word that? Like, I want you to completely dominate me because it's sexy as all hell, but I'm also a dainty little princess who is sort of scared. 

[Zero]

From the sounds of it, you eased into the lifestyle very smoothly, so first of all, let me congratulate you both on that.

As for your actual question... why don't you just tell him the way you told us? Communication is of paramount importance in every relationship, but even more so in a D/s one. It doesn't have to be a big "let's sit down and talk" deal, but there's nothing wrong with simply telling him the very same thoughts you shared in the above post.

[Guest DaddysLolita]

I'd suggest you just talk to him and tell him what you've told us. Communication is beyond important in any relationship but the ability to be transparent in a DDlg relationship ensures you both get exactly what you need from each other and will make your relationship that much stronger.

 

Open a dialogue, ask if there's a fantasy he'd like to share with you or share your own....there are tons of topics to research online, find something of interest and discuss it.