How do I be little in public as a baby boy?

[supahiroyuki]

I am M33, its hard to be little outside, its hard to breakaway from the adult mindset to be able for myself to be able to fully be little outside. I do not have a mommy(perhaps one day I do), but I do have my ABDL male friends who can occasionally be the role of the CG, but its so hard to be little outside even when they are around.

I appreciate any tips or advice.

[Little kaiya]

There are lots of things you can do outside that are little but subtle enough not to throw it in other people's faces.

My Daddy will do things like hold my hand when crossing the street, take me to Build A Bear, make us a picnic and give me crayons and a unicorn colouring book, making a sand castle together at the beach, etc.

It's really just what you enjoy doing.

[supahiroyuki]

1 hour ago, GayKitten said:

Honestly, this is a loaded topic -- especially when it comes to distinctions like "is your littlespace sexual or non-sexual?" Because frankly, if your littlespace is sexual (like mine), it may not be appropriate to engage in the kink publicly. People in public have not consented to be part of a sexual kink, and I believe it's a firm line we (i.e. people who engage in this kink sexually) need to draw for ourselves.

That said -- the non-sexual aspects of this kink/lifestyle for me manifest mostly in clothes, jewelry, accessories, perfumes, etc. I wear when I'm out around town. I have a steel pacifier necklace, I have cute overalls and brightly-colored shirts and shoes to wear with them, I wear oversized hoodies to feel extra small, I have more floral and sweeter (less musky and dirty) perfumes I wear.

But none of this really puts me into my littlespace (which is sexual and often involves diapers, which I wouldn't wear or use in public). It's just more about indulging in cutesy fashion I wouldn't normally (like while I'm at work), and possibly getting a knowing nod or smile from someone who notices my paci necklace. 😛

I'm not really into the sexual expect, and I agree its a common understanding among people like us to draw line to not engage anything sexual(regarding our kink) in public, and I totally adhere that. 

But I do like to wear my diapers in public(to some extend discreetly), but mainly I would like myself to be comfortable being little(in attitude and in my mind) in public.

[Andriel_Isilien]

I have a couple of ideas for this in my Album "LIttlespace Tips and Self-Care".

[Onesie]

I don't know how to be a baby boy but I know how to be a baby girl. They cannot be all that different. If I'm not being punished, my husband will make me walk behind him holding his belt loop or put his finger over his lips when I speak without being spoken to.

If I'm in trouble, it's much more obvious. In a restaurant, he orders one entree, feeds me from his plate and wipes my mouth or makes me walk through the mall sucking my thumb and holding a balloon. The worst was when we needed dog food and I said I wasn't going in the pet store because it smelled. I got dragged in and he made me try on collars. He said if I gave him any sass, he'd put a leash on me and walk me around the store. I did not.

[DaddysMonkey]

16 hours ago, GayKitten said:

Honestly, this is a loaded topic -- especially when it comes to distinctions like "is your littlespace sexual or non-sexual?" Because frankly, if your littlespace is sexual (like mine), it may not be appropriate to engage in the kink publicly. People in public have not consented to be part of a sexual kink, and I believe it's a firm line we (i.e. people who engage in this kink sexually) need to draw for ourselves.

That said -- the non-sexual aspects of this kink/lifestyle for me manifest mostly in clothes, jewelry, accessories, perfumes, etc. I wear when I'm out around town. I have a steel pacifier necklace, I have cute overalls and brightly-colored shirts and shoes to wear with them, I wear oversized hoodies to feel extra small, I have more floral and sweeter (less musky and dirty) perfumes I wear.

But none of this really puts me into my littlespace (which is sexual and often involves diapers, which I wouldn't wear or use in public). It's just more about indulging in cutesy fashion I wouldn't normally (like while I'm at work), and possibly getting a knowing nod or smile from someone who notices my paci necklace. 😛

I cannot agree more with the idea that a lot of the lifestyle for *most* people should be kept in private. VERY loaded question , and a lot of people will disagree on what is appropriate in the public eye. Thank you @GayKitten for pointing this out , as I find it’s actually extremely important to keep in mind. 
 

4 hours ago, Onesie said:

The worst was when we needed dog food and I said I wasn't going in the pet store because it smelled. I got dragged in and he made me try on collars. He said if I gave him any sass, he'd put a leash on me and walk me around the store. I did not.

This is a perfect example of something a LOT of people will disagree on. A pet store is a very public space , and every time I have gone into a pet store there has been children 99.9% of the time shopping with their parents. 

Having two adults engage in an activity such as putting on dog collars , or putting a leash on and walking you around the store is something I personally find inappropriate. This is no hard feelings against you personally , this just happened to be posted and in my opinion an example of what it is to subject non consenting people and children into being around your lifestyle and witnessing it. 

There is a very large separation in my opinion in some examples you gave , walking around with a balloon is fairly innocent and most people wouldn’t bat an eye at someone walking around with a balloon. 
 

It can be a very slippery slope when trying to bring your lifestyle outside of your home or private spaces. 
 

I am innately middle , it just is my personality. My behavior is always rather cheeky , I make gross jokes when the time is appropriate , I wear a lot of clothes most teenagers would probably wear instead of a 29 year old woman. 
 

Something in @andrielisilien’s post stood out to me and something I like to do , which is order my favorite type of kid foods when out and about. I have TONS of keychains on my lanyard , like MHA , Lego , and Star Wars keychains. 
 

As @Little kaiya shared , going to places like build a bear are wonderful. With how many people watch “kids” shows these days it’s not very odd to want to get a bear of Grogu or a Harry Potter bear. 

14 hours ago, supahiroyuki said:

But I do like to wear my diapers in public(to some extend discreetly), but mainly I would like myself to be comfortable being little(in attitude and in my mind) in public.

I suppose this is something I’m not quite sure what my opinion is of it. Diaper play while is not always sexual , it can be seen as that way to outsiders. I thought back to my own kid mind , and I don’t think I would question an adult wearing a diaper discreetly as a child. If it happened to show and I noticed , I don’t believe my child mind would be affected by it. I was raised in a shitty home , but even with that I was taught to be extremely respectful because you don’t know what someone’s health is like. I was taught not to stare at people who may have a physical disability and my mind goes straight to that with diapers. As an adult , I know what diaper play is and can be. When I was a kid , I probably just would’ve assumed you needed them for some medical reasons and just went about my business. 
 

I’m an EXTREMELY honest person when it comes to WHO I am , so I am all for people being who they are at all times … but like I said , it can be a really slippery slope when you’re involving the public and children. 

Edited September 28, 2022 by DaddysMonkey

[SmolAetherr]

you really dont, public places are not intended for fetishes and kinks, people cant consent and kids are around

 

i hope people dont actually expose bystanders to their fetishes i really hope they dont

its on the same level as indecent exposure (public nudity) in my book

Edited September 29, 2022 by SmolAetherr

[Guest]

So as many of the individuals here have stated, there is a fine line of how you can present your little side in public without introducing the general public, especially children, into your kink. But i will not ostracize you for wanting to take a piece of that love with you as you transverse the public spaces. I too enjoy taking a piece with me. 

I agree with many of the suggestions of dressing a bit more young. of course this does not include full out abdl with just wearing only a onesie and diaper, while i have no judgement against those who enjoy this, there still needs to be some lines in public.  you can of course wear your onesie and diaper discreetly under clothes, some even wear a onesie top with pants or other bottoms with no one the wiser, its even seen in fashion tho not attributed to this community 😉

As many other state, you can always have discreet ways that your cg can make you feel little without the general public knowing ie a hand signal, holding your hand as you cross a road, etc. or wearing a collar/necklace/bracelet that your cg has given you to symbolize your bond.
in a world of internet/media, most are desensitized to seeing collars since its become so normalized in stores like spencers or hot topic. even up to fashion shows, leather harness shirts are even becoming normalized. Harajuku, kawaii, lolita, pastel goth style of clothes are not far off to the look many emulate to the "little"  so i would not feel bashful to enjoy the style of dress you wish, as long as your adhering to the public decency laws of course. 

I do agree with those stating there still needs to be a limit since the general public did not consent to be a part of our lifestyle/kink. but that does not mean you cannot enjoy the more discreet things. Just please do not go full ddlg scene in the middle of a public area, as you would not someone to have a full S/m scene with their assorted toys and kaboodles.
 

[Onesie]

There are very subtle ways to show submission that shouldn't offend anyone. Just walking one step behind and timidly while he walks in front confidently shows submission. Letting him do all the talking. Even before I became a little, I wasn't allowed to speak to a man I didn't know without my husband's nod of approval. Eating an ice cream cone on top of the rest of this doesn't hurt.... anyone.

[YukiTheTeddyBear]

I usually use my binkys while in public because it helps me stay calm and I wear my onesies with pants on to hide the snapping part of them and I always carry either a stuffy or a baby doll with me