caregiver Shelf-finding and navigating.

[DanishVikingDaddy]

I think I finally found my place - in what seems a jungle of sexual orientations. Frankly I don't think I would manage trying them all in a single lifetime anyway.

I always knew I was biased in this direction, but I never had a place to put it before.  I imagine almost everyone in this community can relate to that feeling of "i must be a monster" or "I gotta be wired wrong" or even worse... What I am trying to say is thank you. Feeling like you belong somewhere is key and I never been more sure of a shelf before.

I am not the average minded caregiver - I think... See this is me being biased coz I have no freaking clue what is on the mind on the average minded caregiver... Don't mind me, just calling BS on myself... Back on topic...

My ideal dynamic would be with a sassy and free spirited little. One who can turn the roles and be dominant and actually punish me if ignoring her, making her feel less than she is or being a distant douche bag. In essence, still caregiver/little relation but more balanced or even slightly tipped compared to a classic dominance power structure... Am I even making sense right now?

Hope you will reflect and reply.

Thank you 

[baby_k]

You can never know how other really think but I don't think it matters. Comparing ourselves to others probably doesn't do much good in anyway. There is no need to be like others, fit into a box and so on

On 9/23/2022 at 2:34 AM, DanishVikingDaddy said:

My ideal dynamic would be with a sassy and free spirited little. One who can turn the roles and be dominant and actually punish me if ignoring her, making her feel less than she is or being a distant douche bag. In essence, still caregiver/little relation but more balanced or even slightly tipped compared to a classic dominance power structure... Am I even making sense right now?

I actually enjoyed reading this as it describes somehow dynamics which I have been in. So, even I stated above that no need to compare, it is rather powerful to realise that someone else is somehow similar as you are, that you are not alone or "the only creep".

Stereotypical DD-lg rel where all power is with the daddy doesn't suit me. I find it almost cringy when I read these "daddy is always right" because to me it looks like oppression where the sub/lg part looses their voice ( yes, I realise that in healthy relationship it really doesn't go like that ). I want to challenge the other and correct them if needed, teach them, I want to state how I feel, I want to demand things, be strong person... and still be little. It also has worked out well for me. Not every caregiver suits me, nor I suit to every caregiver. But that is all good: you can't fit with every person and it's enough that you find just one with whom you do.

[Nymph]

So, you are a submissive daddy that wants a princess/brat to put him in his place or snap him back to attention if needed.

You make perfect sense and a lot of daddies enjoy this to a point, it's not weird at all. In fact some go further and enjoy being humilliated and becoming a slave of sorts unable to say no to their little.

I can be very submissive to my daddy but I have a very dominant personality with everyone else, there are times where I will get a bit bossy depending on the situation even with him. I am not afraid to take charge and doesn't make me less of a little, it doesn't make you less of a daddy but be prepared for the submissive littles not to be happy about it.

I would think the extremes might work for you, either a very demanding clingy little or a very independent and self sufficient one, probably not the angel kind of littles if that makes sense.