LDRs and Physical contact

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy and I were talking about an upcoming work trip I have and how it's going to be a bit rough because we'll really miss physical contact while I'm gone.

This led to us wondering what people who are in LDRs do about physical contact. To be clear, we don't mean sexual contact. We mean things like cuddling to watch a TV show. Snuggling in front of a fireplace. Holding hands while walking. A kiss good night. A tight hug on a hard day and so much more.

Granted, we're both very tactile people but how do you deal without that ongoing contact?

[Guest]

Back when me and my daddy were long distance, I used to get a shirt from him every time he visited so that i could put it on my fave stuffie and snuggle when he wasnt there. It wasnt as good as snuggles with him but it smelled like him and was like a small piece of him was with me. 

[moondust mochi]

Self-soothing touch! It sounds silly, but hug yourself. Stroke your own leg absentmindedly. Wearing the shirt or the smell of your partner definitely helps too. ❤️

[MissPattch]

My Daddy and i are currently LDR and i am huge on the physical stuff 😕 

I have a tshirt of his and he bought me a bottle of cologne that he always wears, because smell is super powerful in evoking memory, so when i smell him, i automatically feel closer. When nothing but touch will do though, i line up all my stuffies on his side of the bed, under the duvet, and lay with my back to them, pushed up close. It almost feels like he is right behind me and i find it very comforting. 

When i have to go out by myself, this might sound a bit daft, but its huge for me, he will send me a perspective picture of him putting his hand out for me to hold, as if he were going with me.  

We have lots of little rituals that we do before bed time, phrases that we say to each other and silly noises that he makes for me to make sure i have a least one smile a day before bed time. We do these both when we are together in person and also over the phone or using voice notes. 

I was thinking about getting one of those little paired bracelet things that when you touch yours, your partners buzzes or vibrates. THey seem like a good compromise for not always being able to be in the same place all the time 

 

[Andriel_Isilien]

4 hours ago, MissPattch said:

When i have to go out by myself, this might sound a bit daft, but its huge for me, he will send me a perspective picture of him putting his hand out for me to hold, as if he were going with me.  

That is so wholesome and sweet and cute!! 🥰 I love this idea. 💗 imagining it gives me the fuzzies.

 

I have a weighted blanket for self-soothing as it feels like a hug all over. I have a massive stuffie bear right next to me too which I sometimes like to pull over me like I'm being hugged. I just like feeling weight on my body.

[DanishVikingDaddy]

Find your words... Sweet, tender, heartfelt, genuine, sincere and loving words and continued practicing and tweaking can provide a psychic connection strong enough for you to actually physically feel a touch, an embrace or even a kiss. This is powerful stuff and require a deep emotional and subconscious connection.

My favorite intimate moment ever had - I never even as much as graced her arm walking by her... We never met in real life, was more than 6000 miles apart - amd to day i consider that one of the most precious connections I ever had... 

 

Try it - dedicate to it - if you get it right, times apart will never again be agonizing like now.

[Sloth Fairy]

There are stuffies that have voice recording. You could hug on your bear while it says loving messages.

Edited to add: It looks like you can buy the voice box itself and put it in one of your stuffies. 

Edited September 23, 2022 by Sloth Fairy

[Techsensai]

Create a special imaginary place together and then spend time there doing cute little things.

Example: A beautiful little house in the forest on a small lake. Inside is a couch with a fireplace. I make some hot chocolate while you sit on the couch snuggled in the blanket with your stuffies. I come over handing you the coco.... etc...

[PocketSand]

Personally I don't do LDR. If we're just chatting as buddies that's fine. But no relationships that required commitment. 

Being able to see the person, touch, and having her presence I feel are big parts of a relationship. Being absent and only communicating through text I feel is not a real relationship. 

So unless she plans to move or is able to afford to help me move to where she lives I avoid LDR. 

[Guest lilkat]

Video video video. 

Send each other videos of each other or what you're doing or where you are. 

Video chat date. You can watch shows or play games or share meals together this way.  

[Flip a doodle]

Beisdes things like his hoodie/shirts, stuffies he gave me, my weighted blanket and facetimeing. Laying there wish my eyes closed while he just talks about holding me the warmth from his body and just really thinking about it makes it feel almost real and helps me a lot 

[Guest]

I really like this answer @GayKitten , I think if you place your energy behind your intent, then this truly can cross the distance. to others it may sound woo woo but to me it makes complete sense, I honestly think as humans we havent reached the bounds of what we can do, especially when it comes to the shift of energy/atoms/whatever we want to box it up and call it. 

Edited October 12, 2022 by Alana_Lala

[Wilson451]

That's true, LDR is pretty easy to cope with when you understand that the person is right for you and that person loves you no matter where you both are. It used to be a challenge for me to understand it, and only after getting a psychic reading with a live psychic chat helped me overcome this problem and fix all the problems and uncertainties in my personal life.