"Does having kids mean you are not qualified to be a little?"

[Bria]

Hi Hi 

This question has been one I've found myself repeating and now I'm truly starting to question am I qualified. I have two beautiful babies they're twins . And 2 years before my pregnancy I realized I haven't been little and then my pregnancy happened and I still haven't been little. I've decided to give dating a try but I promised myself that I would not forsaken or forget my little side. So going forward I'm no longer gonna be afraid to let my potential partner know I'm little.

I sometimes feel like I don't deserve to be little. Maybe that's the reason I've never found a daddy.

[LoverEcho]

The only qualifying factor to be a little is that one identifies as one. What someone’s little experience is will be unique as there’s no right or wrong way to do it (provided everyone is a consenting adult). I do not have children, but I can understand how that could change the dynamic for some people. It may take some time, but you are a little as long as you identify with it. You deserve to have your littleness and a daddy if you wish to have those things. Be kind to yourself and maybe take some time to think about what you truly want. Remember you’re not alone in this and our community has a lot of topics to read through that may give you further insight. 

Edited September 14, 2022 by LoverEcho

[beanbean]

there is no rulebook if you feel your little then your little. and no one can take that from you

[Sloth Fairy]

There are plenty of us parents who are also littles on here. Personally I suppressed my little side for a long time because I thought I was weird, and I wish I hadn't done that. 

Edited September 14, 2022 by Sloth Fairy

[CuriousRed89]

I'm a mom to two kids and I'm just now discovering my little/sub side. It's challenging sometimes to be a mom while also feeling little. You (just like me) will learn a way to have both sides that make us us. 

[Bria]

Hi Hi 

You guys have really given Me a lot to think about and things to revisit.Thank you.

Hope everyone had a good day.

[baby_k]

On 9/14/2022 at 5:47 PM, Bria said:

I sometimes feel like I don't deserve to be little.

You are you and deserve to be you. And you deserve not needing to hide or suppress yourself.

Little doesn't mean a child but an adult who happens to have tendencies which make them a little. And as a parent, you clearly are an adult, so fully qualified to a be a little if you so want.

Being little is not something to be deserved, just like you don't need to deserve to be you. Or be human. You just are

How to combine parenting, dating and all that of course can be bit tricky but I'm sure you will eventually figure out some reasonable balance there.

 

Edit: typos....

 

Edited September 18, 2022 by baby_k