amazing little fell into my lap, don't know what to do

[silaged124]

I (32m) met an absolutely adorable little (22f) through OLD and we've hung out a few times. But I have no experience in the DDLG space, or even the kink community. DDLG is something I have wanted to try out. For clarity I am more of a typical fuckboy/Don Juan type (Not trying to brag. I've just gotten quite good at it. I am 32, fairly attractive, tall and muscular. I didn't approach her as a daddy, just as a kink positive and intelligent adult). I normally just seduce women and have vanilla sex - rough, but no particular kink. But I am not particularly masculine or dominant outside of the bedroom, which I fear is a problem as this little seems to want me to be a daddy all the time. 

I don't know how to behave around her. I typically have engaging intellectual/emotional conversation and banter with women, and this isn't working here. She doesn't seem to want to talk - listening seems fine and I can easily make her giggle. But I don't know what I'm supposed to DO with her, besides sex stuff. I'm afraid of boring her. Or getting bored myself.

Also I am a little worried about the morality of the situation.. I legitimately worry about her current life and home situation. I already feel protective of her (which I guess a daddy should?) but it is frankly too early on in a relationship for that. I'm also worried about feeling like I am taking advantage of someone so vulnerable. But it is nonetheless so exciting to explore this 

Any advice would be appreciated

Edited September 12, 2022 by silaged124

[Guest Libradaddy1980]

Hey! Thank you so much for reaching out! I'm gonna follow you so we can talk privately 

[Cebakes]

You probably need to ask yourself if you have the interest and time to provide her daily attention, direction, guidance, affection, and discipline. Are you going to help her achieve personal goals and work on things to improve her life?  As far as being dominant, that’s something that you really can’t fake. You either are or you aren’t.  Many times a male will become more dominant as they get older and gain life experience, success, mature, etc…

I do applaud you for asking these questions and taking a hard critical look at yourself. 

[Onasunbeam]

Ask her what she needs from you, and if she's shy try to dig a bit by making suggestions about things that you would want in the dynamic and how you want to show her your affection/protection or make her feel loved and cared for. You can see her reaction when you try different things and adjust accordingly too. Something really nice and simple to start with might be to ask her how she likes to be cuddled. For example, I'm a sitting on daddy's lap and snuggling kinda girl, but she might like it if you wrapped her up like a lil burrito and laid down together or something 

Imho, especially if she's already vulnerable in other ways, the most important thing is to not make her feel unsafe with your actions or take advantage of her needs. You can do it good luck 

[beanbean]

i mean just like anything respect her treat her right. the basic stuff

[Punographer]

From what it sounds like, you're a human being that is struggling with their conscience and seeking advice that may help you not feel so bad. Chances are if you feel like you're taking advantage of her then  you might just probably be. Overall, you're able to show sympathy for her situation but Im not sure if you're willing to say no or call it quits. 

[StraightTopDaddy]

You dont seem right for her. I doubt that this will last. Just me.