​​​​​​The Importance of Training – A DD’s Journey

[ZenDaddy]

(*Disclaimer:  It is my implication here that Anyone who would choose training of any kind, is agreeing and compliant with the rules and terms of such a program, and is Never forced against their will nor harmed physically or emotionally in any way.)

Hi All… As the title suggests, this article is about training, with regards to schooling those (speaking as a Dom) we would consider to take on as a Submissive/Slave or Little Girl.  I have been a longtime believer in training rather than just jumping into a relationship, and hope for the best.. although there have been plenty of times I have not held to my own standards and guidelines nearly as well as I should have lol.. hind sight, yes?  

But that said, life is all about evolving, and for me the evolution isn’t ‘One size fits all’, nor is the process of Training.  What I’ve found over the years is, with each new candidate and/or partner, the importance of the Dom to move and evolve WITH the dynamics of the new relationship especially during the training process, is extremely vital.  

In My training method and protocol, I’ve set up three phases that seem to be adequate to eliminating as much chance or possibility of failure with the new Submissive / LG, or Slave..  Ensuring as much of a fit between the two parties as possible when it’s said and done, all things considered.  But what I’ve learned in each process with each new prospective partner, regardless of whether they complete the training or not IS the importance of the Dom’s involvement and active participation in this process, and not just simply ‘barking orders and expecting compliance’.  

As in any mentoring or teaching arena, the dynamics of Patience, Respect, Clarity of instructions, and Understanding are all paramount, and with these elements that are designed to create what we hope is a lasting foundation for a meaningful relationship, comes as well the reality of flexibility of the timeframe we want or desire the trainee to complete the phases and tasks of training.  In other words, some may be far more adept to being goal oriented and driven, while others perhaps more timid or needing more patience and nurturing along the way.  Again, no one size fits all, but with either Trainee type is the requirement of the Dom to be All In, and involved in the dynamics I cited above.  

My point is linked to the classic line ‘Who’s training Who’?  Anyone who is an animal lover and has spent the time in training fur babies of any kind, knows all too well that there is an aspect of ‘learning how your pet learns’ that precedes the success of training, as opposed to whipping them into some form of obedience and creating more harm for them (and work for you) by breaking their Spirit, and not redirecting their will.  

If your choice is to be ones Dom or Master, consider perhaps beyond just the aspect of ‘Ruling’ another human and Being.  Take into consideration other aspects of the process in getting your new partner to where you desire or require them to be.  Recognize that, to choose to preside over another will require on your part:  time, effort, persistence and Patience. It’s my belief that to amp up your involvement during the training process with your new Other, should you choose to create a training protocol, will only create a stronger foundation to what we all want… eliminate the revolving door syndrome of failed relationships in as much as we can, and experience perhaps the benefits of building a stronger more cohesive and lasting relationship in the long run!

I would encourage you to Choose to be the Dom and Master your ‘Other’ longs and craves to serve and submit to.  

To me it’s starts, with being an exemplary Trainer.

ZD