Older Little

[Hello81]

Ive always had a Daddy kink. I didn't  know that there was a whole community of Ddlg out there. I found out about 5 years ago. I just thought I was a submissive with a Daddy kink. However, recognizing that I am a little at my age (41f) is quite disheartening. I understand the reasoning why Daddys want young, sweet, nubile girls, but I was curious is 41 too old to find a Daddy that is seriously interested in a little around my age? Its scary and im nervous, and i dont want a Daddy to hurt my heart and my feelings by saying that Im not good enough cuz im old. So are there Daddys out there that wouldnt mind an older little?

[littlecloud]

hi there! 

your feelings are very valid and i’ve felt similar even though i’m 25. 

Daddies and Littles come in all ages! I think it’s really important to throw out the stereotypes of this dynamic because no one’s dynamic is the exact same. 

I also want to point out that for me personally, being a little isn’t something i can see just going away as i get older. it’s part of me which means that even as i age, it’s something that i want and need. 

I say all of this to say, being a little doesn’t come with age requirements. You’ll find your puzzle piece and they’ll love you for who you are. 

 

Welcome to the community! ☺️

[Little kaiya]

I'm 44 and my Daddy and I have been together for 5 years this Fall. There are absolutely Daddues that not just are ok with an older little but actively WANT an older little or middle.

[Andriel_Isilien]

You are just fine as you are 😊

[GrampyP]

Hi Hello81, remember, there is someone for everyone. Welcome here, there is a lot of good information and a lot of good and helpful people too. Take you time, make yourself at home and enjoy.

[Married_Lg]

Not going to lie, at 28 I feel this “am I too old/will someone like me as I am” Hard…  Legitimate to feel scared of the unknown. You just Won’t know until it happens right? Try to be okay with who you are and the right person will appreciate all the self love… that’s what people say right? I want nice things for you @Hello81!! 

[beanbean]

your not to old at all ,hopefully you find what your looking for

[Barney048]

I see many older littles being concerned about their age , but a ddlg relationship/dynamic is just like any other relationship at it's core. You communicate as 2 normal individuals first. If you hit it off you start sharing more personal aspects of yourself. Then you slowly build on that, if you are compatible. You build trust and intimacy with time. Age is rarely an issue for anyone else but yourself. You may be insecure because of it , but most Daddys out there won't care about it. Most littles on here are quite young, so that may be a bit intimidating for you. However rest assured, there's just as many littles/middles your age, as there are younger ones. It's just easier to accept that part of themself and fully embrace it for someone younger, which is why you see more littles in their 20s on here than all other age groups combined.

 

 

[Sloth Fairy]

On 8/22/2022 at 6:41 AM, Barney048 said:

which is why you see more littles in their 20s on here than all other age groups combined.

 

 

I think that is spot on. Being older (49),  I sometimes feel like I shouldn't be doing this, and I've left different ddlg groups for that reason. But I always end up rejoining because this is something I can't get rid of. 

 

Edited September 2, 2022 by Sloth Fairy

[Msbunbuns]

I discovered my little side .. why I felt like I did at 51!!  I had just ended a 21 year marriage , have 3 semi adultish childrenwho all live at home with me.  One with special need who will be with me for the span of my life ... its disheartening trying to find a TRUE Daddy.. who can be a Daddy when we the opportunities too, but can be more "vanilla" around my kids (when we get to where I would introduce them)  ... I think they might be like my stuffie Bright Eyes the Unicorn ..... elusive but if you believe ..

So hugs .. and don't give up .. there are some.Daddies out there who do like older littles, the few who have reached out to me were unfortunately in different countries and I don't want a long distance Daddy.

 

[Vampiress]

Older littles are just as valid as younger ones, and there are Daddies who embrace them and want them. Besides, having a Daddy accept you has nothing to do with whether or not you're valid as a little. I do hope you can find a suitable partner, but just know you are welcome here with or without one.

[DollDirector]

hello , 

note : in another section , there is a topic called " Older/mature Littles/Middles " with hundreds of answers .

as littlecloud has said , if you're a little it's part of you . it's understandable that you feel "disheartened",  but there's another side : now you know where you're going ; who knows , it might never have happened !

[Littlemiddle]

I have the thought that everything comes in its proper time... You're perfectly perfect just the Way you are don't get discouraged you will find exactly what you need when it's time.. 

I'm 37 I've been with my partner and daddy for just over a year now, although I've known I was a little the majority of my life I've only had one other caretaker and nothing that really felt real for the majority of the time of just Little solo if you would ask me a year ago if I saw myself in a loving committed relationship with someone who shared this part of myself I probably would have told you no.. 

💕

[WigglyBun]

Don't be discouraged!

While there are a lot of folks who prefer their partners to be younger, there is definitely something to be said for a grown adult who knows what they want & like in life. Just take your time talking to people and exploring and see what works best for YOU. Your age does not change your value one bit.

Definitely check out the Older/Mature Littles/Middles topic, there are lots of us!

[MissPattch]

I met my Daddy just before i turned 40. I had little hope of finding somebody who would be accepting that i was an older little, but with patience and a little perseverance though some questionable choices, he found me and i him. 

There is a Daddy / CG out there for all of us, and if you just be your beautiful self, you will cross paths and you will wonder why you ever doubted yourself ❤️

[Sea/Tacoma Caring DD]

I would enjoy chatting with you.  I'll send a friend request if you want to speak.