Being Neglected

[Guest ♥ Lee ♥]

As a little being needy is just what we do. We need our Daddy/Mommy to give us lots of attention. When littles aren't given enough attention we tend to freak out.

 

This past month my Daddy has been on vacation with his family. I didn't get to go unfortunately because I had work and school. During the beginning of his trip, the first week and a half, he made sure to always check up on me. He was always messaging me, telling me he loved me, and Facetiming me at night. But then during the second half of his trip, all of a sudden he had no time in the world to message me or call me. You can imagine this made me very upset. So, my first thought while in little space was, "Daddy isn't here to tell me what to do, I can do whatever I want!!" That's exactly what I did. I broke all the rules I possibly could just because no one was there to stop me. 

 

Does it make me a bad little for acting this way? 

I'm not trying to be bratty or manipulate my Daddy at all. I just find that when I'm left alone too long I make bad choices, just like any child would do. They don't know any better and no one is there to stop them. 

 

 

There is a short and simple poll, if you'd fill it out so I could get your quick feed back on the matter that would be great!

Thanks so much! <3

 

[Bemineforever]

It is not You been neglected or avoided because you know the reason why your daddy could not give you attention. Not a matter you been naughty, because Littles do deserve love, care, attention, respect and they seek attention the most. So when you know you are misbehaving and still continuing it tbh it is not good, not that you are naughty but it harms your own self. To seek attention of you are naughty is not bad thing at all but when he is not available it is not good for you.

[Guest kyril]

You're not bad for wanting attention, but you are bad for having broken rules he entrusted to you. You should be honest towards your daddy and tell him exactly how you felt and what you did. I don't know your daddy, but depending on how he is, he might forgive you or give you lighter punishment. Maybe for in the future get yourself a little friend after talking to your daddy about it.

[Guest Missy]

I vote "no" on all three counts. Whenever in doubt, I think you should revert to the question, "if I were three (or however old your little is) if I were left on my own...would I be expected to behave, not make a mess, forget things, yada, yada, yada."

 

Yes, we are adults in self imposed roles, but we all teach people how to treat us by our actions. If your Daddy is somewhat neglectful (meaning to or not) his little might act out of sorts because he wasn't there to guide her. It's really his mess to handle. On the flip side, if you are the kind of littke that needs consistency, what are you teaching the Daddy about you who isn't giving you regular attention and care? Well, basically, you are saying "I need this from you but I'm willing to take your neglect in order to get five or six minutes of attention when you feel like it."

 

Bottom line: Don't be hard on yourself. You are a little. This is a "Daddy issue" IMHO.

 

Blessings!

[Whispering-oak]

Lei...

   I would answer your post with this ....I know you are feeling lost, afraid, and lonely and I am sorry for that but... we are taught the rules to keep us out of trouble when Daddies are not around.. A little knows that if she touches a hot stove she is going to get burned ... Even when Daddy is not around to say *STOP*....   even as a little you must accept some responsibility ... I am on your side in the sense that a Daddy takes on a commitment  when he takes a little and begins a relationship... but still you cant run out in the street without getting hit by a car at some point... who's fault well i would say both.. I know your feeling lonely and hurt at the moment but when you two get some time together then you need to discuss this as a big girl and as a little .. for a healthy relationship to grow you need to iron out the wrinkles and then move on ... and a parting thought ... perhaps his wife and family told him that they are on vacation and his attention needs to be on his family and not online.....they may have given him a choice....

DD/for lg..

John

[Zero]

As a little being needy is just what we do. We need our Daddy/Mommy to give us lots of attention. When littles aren't given enough attention we tend to freak out.

 

This past month my Daddy has been on vacation with his family. I didn't get to go unfortunately because I had work and school. During the beginning of his trip, the first week and a half, he made sure to always check up on me. He was always messaging me, telling me he loved me, and Facetiming me at night. But then during the second half of his trip, all of a sudden he had no time in the world to message me or call me. You can imagine this made me very upset. So, my first thought while in little space was, "Daddy isn't here to tell me what to do, I can do whatever I want!!" That's exactly what I did. I broke all the rules I possibly could just because no one was there to stop me. 

 

Does it make me a bad little for acting this way? 

I'm not trying to be bratty or manipulate my Daddy at all. I just find that when I'm left alone too long I make bad choices, just like any child would do. They don't know any better and no one is there to stop them. 

 

 

There is a short and simple poll, if you'd fill it out so I could get your quick feed back on the matter that would be great!

Thanks so much! <3

 

As a matter of fact, yes.

Reliability is a HUGE part of the trust a Dom invests in a sub. If you cannot be expected to adhere to the established rules without being under constant surveillance, you cannot really be trusted, simple as that. The rules don't cease to exist just because you aren't forced to obey them. In fact, if you have to be forced to obey them, as opposed to doing so willingly, your obedience is meaningless.

 

I vote "no" on all three counts. Whenever in doubt, I think you should revert to the question, "if I were three (or however old your little is) if I were left on my own...would I be expected to behave, not make a mess, forget things, yada, yada, yada."

 

Yes, we are adults in self imposed roles, but we all teach people how to treat us by our actions. If your Daddy is somewhat neglectful (meaning to or not) his little might act out of sorts because he wasn't there to guide her. It's really his mess to handle. On the flip side, if you are the kind of littke that needs consistency, what are you teaching the Daddy about you who isn't giving you regular attention and care? Well, basically, you are saying "I need this from you but I'm willing to take your neglect in order to get five or six minutes of attention when you feel like it."

 

Bottom line: Don't be hard on yourself. You are a little. This is a "Daddy issue" IMHO.

 

Blessings!

 

Hell no. Even littles are supposed to be able to function in their everyday lives. Little space is something that has its time and place. If you cannot keep yourself from regressing when you know you shouldn't, you're dysfunctional. So "this is how little me would act" is not an excuse, because you're supposed to be able to act mature when it's necessary.

[LittleAshiee]

 

 

Hell no. Even littles are supposed to be able to function in their everyday lives. Little space is something that has its time and place. If you cannot keep yourself from regressing when you know you shouldn't, you're dysfunctional. So "this is how little me would act" is not an excuse, because you're supposed to be able to act mature when it's necessary.

I disagree with the statement " Little space is something that has its time and place." I once saw someone ranting about how they needed a woman who knew how to be little when desired. As a little, I acknowledge the fact that it may be desirable at some times and not so much at others but slipping into little space randomly is something that happens as a little. A little can't help if they're feeling sad because Daddy isn't around as much as they wish because a Daddy is supposed to guide us and be there for us ESPECIALLY when we feel like this. There is nothing dysfunctional about going into little space when Daddy isn't around and then being upset that he isn't. I'm quite sure it's normal.

[Guest Bear]

Could not agree more with Rosie. This is such a healthy approach and views on relationships in general, not just DDLG. 

If you want your relationships to stand the test of time, you need to understand you SHOULDNT be your SO's whole entire world. 
Accept that he has a life outside of your relationship, and that sometimes he will have to put you on hold for a little while.


If you think breaking rules and doing things you shouldnt are ok because he wasnt there for a couple of days then this should honestly be a wake up call for yourself. 
This is a sign that you are losing yourself in the dynamic. You are making clear, conscious decisions and simply soing mind gymnastics to give yourself legitmacy.



There's acting childlike and there's being immature. 
You're only hurting yourself.