Feeling little and naughty same time or separate

[Lgkatiekat]

I'm curious if other littles are sexual or feel naughty in little space or if it's a totally separate thing for you. 

I've been struggling with having both feelings at the same time and being ok with it.

[Little kaiya]

I often feel little and naughty at the same time and my Daddy and I love it. For us it just brings another dimension of intimacy and as we're both consenting adults we aren't about to apologize or feel shame. It works for us both so we enjoy it to the fullest with each other.

[Someone quiet]

I've always wondered, what's it like to be little? I mean I know I have some idea of what it is but what's your mindset/what aroused you about being little?

[Little kaiya]

For us the arousal really comes from the mental, emotional and physical vulnerability coupled with offering control to my Daddy. It's the pleasure of just letting go and being taken care of mentally, physically and emotionally. For my Daddy the arousal comes from the control aspect and also the cuteness of the clothes and accessories.

A diaper change for example can be totally non-sexual but still very intimate done one way. Hands placed a bit differently and it can become wildly erotic and sexual. I wouldn't say being little causes me to be aroused but more it enhances my physical submission and emotional vulnerability which for me is VERY arousing. I don't find I'm very serious as an authority figure when wearing a diaper and a cute onesie while getting read a story and snuggling a plushie

[Andriel_Isilien]

I remember hearing the phrase, "Romance me in the kitchen before trying to romance me in the bedroom." That is about foreplay, but I think this can go further. Little Kaiya explained it well how encompassing the Ddlg dynamic is both in a sexual and non-sexual manner. Being little with all the cute stuff pulls out that special vulnerability and taking control requires a lot of trust. That feeds into making the intimate moments all the more special and sensual. For some people a simple diaper is a turn on. For others the context of the relationship while having a diaper is a turn on. Both are ok with consenting adults.

 

You mentioned that you are struggling being ok with feeling both little and naughty at the same time. Feeling sexual while little doesn't invalidate your littlespace. It is your experience to make your own. Some people are into age-play and others are strictly into age regression. Both are different and still valid. Again, consenting adults of sound mind is what matters. As long as you aren't harming yourself or other people you are ok. 

[DaddysMonkey]

*Possible trigger warning* 
 

….. Hi there 👹

So , I’m a little fuckin freak. My middle space and sexuality go hand in hand , and it feels completely natural for me as I consider myself a 24/7 middle as it’s just who I am. My middle space is like super boyish for the most part so lots of dick jokes and sex jokes but… that leads to curiosity right ? I feel absolutely NO SHAME in being okay with my sexuality being mixed with my middle space. I don’t think anyone should really …. I mean unless that’s their kink to be shamed 😌 

I was assaulted when I was younger , coerced , terrible mental grooming ect. Being able to take who I am naturally (a middle) and be sexual , and almost turn the act back on the other party becomes a twisted fun healing game for my brain. Taking control and power back even if I want all that power and control stripped away to feel that way because now I’m ~consenting~. 
 

For some , as @Little kaiya said , it could be a sensual and erotic diaper change. For others , it could be getting tucked into bed and getting some “extra kisses” before falling asleep , a kinky sit on their daddies lap or a head laid juuuuust right on their mommies chest that turns into something much less innocent. Cheeky little demons like me might flick a raging boner and go “so what’s that about you nasty pervert? 😏” and relentlessly tease my partner about being a dirty pervert for thinking of me the way they do and make it worse by acting like a slutty tease. (Don’t get any ideas I’ll kick you in your fuckin dick don’t talk to me randos that behavior is for a partner only). Taboo , fun , twisted and healing all in one. I personally think it’s a powerful feeling to be able to take some of that power back and be in control. 

What specifically are you struggling with ? You say you are struggling with being okay with it , but why is that ? Is it just a personal feeling that arose in you ? That it felt wrong or something ? Or was it maybe peers opinions making you feel like it’s not okay ? Does the ignorant outer world view of this lifestyle make you question yourself ?
 

As @andrielisilien said , there are people who age regress , or age play. Some do both , all of it is okay if everyone involved is safe , sane , consensual adults. 
 

Hopefully having some littles here who are also sexual can make you feel more at peace with yourself , I know it can feel like walking on eggshells for some when you aren’t fully comfortable blending the two together yet. Just know you aren’t alone , and there are supportive people here who will never judge you for being sexual in your space. Do what makes you happy ! 

Edited July 21, 2022 by DaddysMonkey

[Someone quiet]

14 hours ago, DaddysMonkey said:

*Possible trigger warning* 
 

….. Hi there 👹

So , I’m a little fuckin freak. My middle space and sexuality go hand in hand , and it feels completely natural for me as I consider myself a 24/7 middle as it’s just who I am. My middle space is like super boyish for the most part so lots of dick jokes and sex jokes but… that leads to curiosity right ? I feel absolutely NO SHAME in being okay with my sexuality being mixed with my middle space. I don’t think anyone should really …. I mean unless that’s their kink to be shamed 😌 

I was assaulted when I was younger , coerced , terrible mental grooming ect. Being able to take who I am naturally (a middle) and be sexual , and almost turn the act back on the other party becomes a twisted fun healing game for my brain. Taking control and power back even if I want all that power and control stripped away to feel that way because now I’m ~consenting~. 
 

For some , as @Little kaiya said , it could be a sensual and erotic diaper change. For others , it could be getting tucked into bed and getting some “extra kisses” before falling asleep , a kinky sit on their daddies lap or a head laid juuuuust right on their mommies chest that turns into something much less innocent. Cheeky little demons like me might flick a raging boner and go “so what’s that about you nasty pervert? 😏” and relentlessly tease my partner about being a dirty pervert for thinking of me the way they do and make it worse by acting like a slutty tease. (Don’t get any ideas I’ll kick you in your fuckin dick don’t talk to me randos that behavior is for a partner only). Taboo , fun , twisted and healing all in one. I personally think it’s a powerful feeling to be able to take some of that power back and be in control. 

What specifically are you struggling with ? You say you are struggling with being okay with it , but why is that ? Is it just a personal feeling that arose in you ? That it felt wrong or something ? Or was it maybe peers opinions making you feel like it’s not okay ? Does the ignorant outer world view of this lifestyle make you question yourself ?
 

As @andrielisilien said , there are people who age regress , or age play. Some do both , all of it is okay if everyone involved is safe , sane , consensual adults. 
 

Hopefully having some littles here who are also sexual can make you feel more at peace with yourself , I know it can feel like walking on eggshells for some when you aren’t fully comfortable blending the two together yet. Just know you aren’t alone , and there are supportive people here who will never judge you for being sexual in your space. Do what makes you happy !

I'm not trying to be gross but a genuine question :3 are you saying that the " you fucking pervert " is a scenario where you are a kid and they are a adult? I'm not quite sure if that's what you meant. 

[DaddysMonkey]

25 minutes ago, Someone quiet said:

I'm not trying to be gross but a genuine question :3 are you saying that the " you fucking pervert " is a scenario where you are a kid and they are a adult? I'm not quite sure if that's what you meant. 

I don’t think it’s gross ! Don’t worry about it. 
 

Yes , that is exactly what I mean. When I’m in my middle space (which is generally 24/7 just fluctuates with my responsibilities and what I’m doing at the time) I’m very impish and like to tease. I will do things on purpose to sexualize situations and imply things , be coy , then berate in a flirtatious teasing manner when my behavior is taken action upon. Very thrilling for me , and for the partner. 

Edited July 21, 2022 by DaddysMonkey

[Someone quiet]

9 minutes ago, DaddysMonkey said:

I don’t think it’s gross ! Don’t worry about it. 
 

Yes , that is exactly what I mean. When I’m in my middle space (which is generally 24/7 just fluctuates with my responsibilities and what I’m doing at the time) I’m very impish and like to tease. I will do things on purpose to sexualize situations situations and imply things , be coy , then berate in a flirtatious teasing manner when my behavior is taken action upon. Very thrilling for me , and for the partner. 

So if I'm correct in assuming this and again I'm not kink shaming but, is the roleplay where your partner is the molest*r? And you are the child? Sorry I'm having a hard time understanding and this is just my assumption. And if this is true are you both viewing it through the lense of you being a actual child and your partner a adult but pretend?

[DaddysMonkey]

*TW*
 

Absolutely not and this is an assumption that unfortunately is made way too often. 
 

Nobody who is doing this for the right reasons , being consenting adults who have healthily communicated their desires are not acting out being a molester or an actual child. There needs to be a sane and healthy balance between reality , desires and what is okay and what is not. In my opinion , what you are talking about (pretending to be an actual aggressor) is wrong. It is damaging to the community as a whole. While there is age play and age regression involved in all of these kinks floating around here , reality also needs to float around. While someone might be acting childlike , have childlike mannerisms and be engaging in sexual activities at the same time , they are still consenting adults. And that line needs to be remembered when talking about these kinks. 
 

As I’ve stated , I'm a freak and I let that flag fly. I don’t think anyone should be shamed (and I don’t feel shamed by your questions or response but some might) for being sexual in their middle space , and I think it needs to be said that this is NOT what we (or I anyways , I don’t speak for everyone) are acting out or want. 

[Someone quiet]

14 minutes ago, DaddysMonkey said:

*TW*
 

Absolutely not and this is an assumption that unfortunately is made way too often. 
 

Nobody who is doing this for the right reasons , being consenting adults who have healthily communicated their desires are not acting out being a molester or an actual child. There needs to be a sane and healthy balance between reality , desires and what is okay and what is not. In my opinion , what you are talking about (pretending to be an actual aggressor) is wrong. It is damaging to the community as a whole. While there is age play and age regression involved in all of these kinks floating around here , reality also needs to float around. While someone might be acting childlike , have childlike mannerisms and be engaging in sexual activities at the same time , they are still consenting adults. And that line needs to be remembered when talking about these kinks. 
 

As I’ve stated , I'm a freak and I let that flag fly. I don’t think anyone should be shamed (and I don’t feel shamed by your questions or response but some might) for being sexual in their middle space , and I think it needs to be said that this is NOT what we (or I anyways , I don’t speak for everyone) are acting out or want. 

Tw: sex and CNC in little space

OH Ok shit sorry, however if the scenario was of a man and woman and she was just in little space while this was happening and it was a CNC/r*p* fantasy would that still be along those lines? Also do some people feel aroused from said childlike mannerisms/personality from their partner? or even just from their partner acting innocent? Would this be on the spectrum of pedo*phl**a? Again I'm not trying to make harsh assumptions but am genuinely curious. And sorry that I did earlier.

[DaddysMonkey]

I think the most honest , blunt , and respective answer I can give you to answer ALL of your questions about this.. 

NO. None of these activities between two consenting adults is on the spectrum of being a predator. Being a little , or a caregiver or person attracted to these qualities does not equal something that doesn’t involve adults. 
 

Being a predator is not something you are on the spectrum of , you are or you are not. 
 

DDLG / CGL is no way related to or on the spectrum of abusers. 

Edited July 21, 2022 by DaddysMonkey

[Someone quiet]

35 minutes ago, DaddysMonkey said:

I think the most honest , blunt , and respective answer I can give you to answer ALL of your questions about this.. 

NO. None of these activities between two consenting adults is on the spectrum of being a predator. Being a little , or a caregiver or person attracted to these qualities does not equal something that doesn’t involve adults. 
 

Being a predator is not something you are on the spectrum of , you are or you are not. 
 

DDLG / CGL is no way related to or on the spectrum of abusers. 

Oh ok, is the idea of being taken care of arousing to a little? Whether it's through normal actions like a provider or sexual ones where they're not responsible and don't have to do anything except be daddy's little girl? Thank you for being kind enough to respond decently to me and not judge me for my ignorance on the subject oof. 

Also is it normal for a daddy to be aroused by his little girl doing regular things like coloring in a coloring book, acting/speaking cute in baby or little kid esque talk, or playing with their stuffies in any way? 

I'm asking all these questions because I've got a dom and I'm not that experienced with this sort of thing. Please and thank you for your response.