Nicknames and wondering if this is normal

[Someone quiet]

Hey everyone I'm, I hope this doesn't make me weird. I've been worrying about this for the past couple days now so I came here to ask a question and see if this lines up with what's considered DDLG. 

 

 

I have a dom and he suggested that we come up with some fun nicknames to call me, particularly ones that turn me on/get me into a maso/sub head space quickly. 

One of the ones that came up between us was kid. 

I kind of like it since he's older than me and it reminds me of how I'm much younger and inexperienced than him. That and when he says it it's kind of in a mean way as if he's putting me in my place. 

So is it normal that I find that nickname hot because of that? Or should I be more concerned?

 

[Little Becca]

Personally I don’t see anything wrong with it. I mean lots of us are called baby, baby girl/boy, little one, etc. 

But if you have concerns then I think you should talk about it with your Daddy/Dom!!  It’s always good to communicate worries and stuff anyway. 😊😊😊😊😊

[Someone quiet]

1 hour ago, LittleLavenderGirl said:

Personally I don’t see anything wrong with it. I mean lots of us are called baby, baby girl/boy, little one, etc. 

But if you have concerns then I think you should talk about it with your Daddy/Dom!!  It’s always good to communicate worries and stuff anyway. 😊😊😊😊😊

Oh ok, thank you. I was worried that something was wrong with me. I know that DDLG gets a lot of attention from people who like to call it something it *isn't* (which is p*dophili*) but I was worried my preference lied *within* said category and didn't count as DDLG. I'm a bit new to this so thank you again. And I will most definitely continue talking to him about these things. -v- 🍵

[Little Becca]

You’re welcome!!! I am glad I could help!!! 😊😊😊

[Harlee-qwinnie]

I think it's fine to be called "kid", especially if you enjoy it and it puts you in your head space and turns you on.  If you're both ok with it and it doesn't bring up any harmful or negative connotation for either, go for it. 

Keep communicating with your DD. 

Best to you both,

Harlee 

[Guest]

2 hours ago, Someone quiet said:

I kind of like it since he's older than me and it reminds me of how I'm much younger and inexperienced than him. That and when he says it it's kind of in a mean way as if he's putting me in my place. 

So is it normal that I find that nickname hot because of that? Or should I be more concerned?

 

So like with any facet of the BDSM community, you can enjoy some things and not enjoy others. A large majority of this community (CGL) usually doesn't stray far from the "normal" activities done in little space but its not uncommon to like some other stuff. Which, if I had to make a guess, you may be into light degradation.
I would suggest you explore what you may like, if you haven't taken the BDSMtest you should, and so should your DD if he hasn't either so you two can look at the results and possibly see what else you may both enjoy. 
If you like that nickname, use it! Don't pay any mind into what others say, as long as YOU and your DD are consensual and happy then you dont need to be concerned. 

[Vampiress]

I don't think it's weird, in fact some older adults will call younger adults (18-early 20s) kid anyways, and no one really thinks anything of it beyond it maybe sounding condescending. In fact, one of my favorite baseball players was nicknamed "The Kid."

[daddymind]

Normal isn't really what's important here. Rather how you feel about those words and what they mean to you on a personal level. There was a thread some time ago discussing daddies calling their littles "daughter", which is a term we use sometimes in our dynamic. It's probably not considered "normal" by most people's standards, and probably gross to a lot of people. But it means something positive to us and that's all that matters.

If anything, I personally find the idea of normal boring in a lot of cases. Like you're just fitting into a template. That's fine for a lot of people, but I want something that really gets under my skin and unleashes a certain energy that would otherwise be trapped within me. If being called kid gets you fired up and full of positive energy, then my god that's a good enough reason!

[Winter Lillee]

Whenever I make friends with someone who knows I’m a little, often they will ask me what I like them to call me. 
One of the first things I say is “kiddo” 

similar reasons to you, it makes me feel put in my place as a little/sub. But I find kiddo a bit more affectionate. Either way there is nothing wrong with liking a pet name like that.  

[Someone quiet]

23 hours ago, daddymind said:

Normal isn't really what's important here. Rather how you feel about those words and what they mean to you on a personal level. There was a thread some time ago discussing daddies calling their littles "daughter", which is a term we use sometimes in our dynamic. It's probably not considered "normal" by most people's standards, and probably gross to a lot of people. But it means something positive to us and that's all that matters.

If anything, I personally find the idea of normal boring in a lot of cases. Like you're just fitting into a template. That's fine for a lot of people, but I want something that really gets under my skin and unleashes a certain energy that would otherwise be trapped within me. If being called kid gets you fired up and full of positive energy, then my god that's a good enough reason

Thanks! A little while later he had a friend mention to him the nickname "child" and so since then he mentioned that to me. I was wondering, even though I might end up saying no to his suggestion the next time we meet up would that be considered innappropriate within this kink? I know this isn't a place to be wondering that considering that it IS a kink but would you consider it within the realm of said kink?

[daddymind]

19 hours ago, Someone quiet said:

Thanks! A little while later he had a friend mention to him the nickname "child" and so since then he mentioned that to me. I was wondering, even though I might end up saying no to his suggestion the next time we meet up would that be considered innappropriate within this kink? I know this isn't a place to be wondering that considering that it IS a kink but would you consider it within the realm of said kink?

As in is "child" inappropriate? I don't see anything as inappropriate as long as it's agreed upon. If he called you child after you'd told him you're not comfortable with that, then that would be inappropriate.

[Someone quiet]

2 hours ago, daddymind said:

As in is "child" inappropriate? I don't see anything as inappropriate as long as it's agreed upon. If he called you child after you'd told him you're not comfortable with that, then that would be inappropriate.

Oh ok! Thank you. I was wondering if innocence is a factor in what could make a dom aroused btw. Someone once asked me that question and I've not been able to answer it. 

The question is quoted directly from my insta  " is the innocent nature of a sub when in little space something that can arouse the dom? If it is, for what reason? Is it similar to the teacher/student dynamic in that you get to teach them about sexual things? Or is it just the innocent/child like personality they adopt? And is that personality of one who is youthful or would it be of an actual kid? " 

Edited July 21, 2022 by Someone quiet

[daddymind]

1 hour ago, Someone quiet said:

Oh ok! Thank you. I was wondering if innocence is a factor in what could make a dom aroused btw. Someone once asked me that question and I've not been able to answer it. 

The question is quoted directly from my insta  " is the innocent nature of a sub when in little space something that can arouse the dom? If it is, for what reason? Is it similar to the teacher/student dynamic in that you get to teach them about sexual things? Or is it just the innocent/child like personality they adopt? And is that personality of one who is youthful or would it be of an actual kid? " 

I'm not personally a dom or turned on by innocence but I think innocence as a trait and the teaching thing would be a turn on for a lot of doms. It should be made clear that any kind of sexual conduct when someone is in little space should be agreed upon when that person is outside that space. The innocent/child like personality adopted in that space might be multi-faceted and involve certain kinks and sexual desires, but I think that has to be communicated outside of that space. I personally wouldn't want to do anything sexual with someone who feels 100% like a child in that moment. Also, youthful qualities are different from full on psychological age regression so the two need to be separated and treat accordingly.

[Someone quiet]

12 minutes ago, daddymind said:

I'm not personally a dom or turned on by innocence but I think innocence as a trait and the teaching thing would be a turn on for a lot of doms. It should be made clear that any kind of sexual conduct when someone is in little space should be agreed upon when that person is outside that space. The innocent/child like personality adopted in that space might be multi-faceted and involve certain kinks and sexual desires, but I think that has to be communicated outside of that space. I personally wouldn't want to do anything sexual with someone who feels 100% like a child in that moment. Also, youthful qualities are different from full on psychological age regression so the two need to be separated and treat accordingly.

Oh ok, so the youthful qualities within ageplay would involve being the personality of a kid  Mischievous/pretending to be innocent or childlike innocence vs age regression they would be an actual child? 

[daddymind]

4 minutes ago, Someone quiet said:

Oh ok, so the youthful qualities within ageplay would involve being the personality of a kid  Mischievous/pretending to be innocent or childlike innocence vs age regression they would be an actual child? 

Yeh I see ageplay (emphasis on the word play) as more about releasing youthful traits and energy that may not be otherwise expressed in everyday adult life. Age regression is a deeper psychological state of reverting back to childhood. I think the major difference is the degree of control - one can be scheduled and compartmentalised, whereas the other occupies the mind state and is more difficult to regulate, even stressful if in a situation where it cannot be fully expressed. But there are degrees between the two.

To me (and I may get called up on this), if I'm with someone who full on age regresses, I am inclined to genuinely treat them like they are a child and respect that mindset. If someone ageplays with me, I am inclined to roleplay more with them and blur the lines. But those lines need to be drawn when in adult space, because even ageplay can have a certain vulnerability that should be respected.