Types of feelings for your partner

[Lgkatiekat]

Hello. I'm really new and have been reading posts and trying to learn some things. I'm wondering if anyone can help me understand if there is a way to explain your feelings for your partner/s. 

For caregivers or daddys/mommies, do you feel like a parent or guide or is there a better explanation?  And same for littles... do you see your person as a parent figure or a just a safe person or is there a better explanation?

I'm sure it is subjective and different for different people, but I'd be interested in hearing from some different people about it. Thanks 😊 

[LittleStarLight]

Hi there! 

I'm a little.

I see my daddy as a protective figure. Someone I see as able to take control and be a safe place to turn to. Someone I can trust with my wellbeing. Someone to love with all my heart. The person I want to submit to and let guide me. 

Separate from an actual father figure. If I start thinking of him too much like that, I actually get a little weirded out because I think of my real father 😅 that's just me. I'm able to keep it separate in my mind 99.9% of the time somehow. 

[Guest Libradaddy1980]

Hello!

This is such a wonderful question.

As a daddy, I feel like quite a few different things to my little. A parental figure, protector, support system, safe place, best friend.

I try to be everything that they need in their life. Nurture their dreams and support them in everything they choose. Personally, I don't believe the bedrock of a DDLG relationship is any different than a vanilla relationship.

[Vampiress]

I think Caregiver sums up the role for me. They're not parental, but they are a protector, a safe place, they give care and affection, and they take the lead. I see a parent as someone who raises you, I've never ever viewed any of my partners as someone who raises me. I am grown, I don't need raising. I just need caregiving, love, and affection.

[JazzyJazz22]

I am a new little too I'm glad you asked because I was curious too.

[DaddysMonkey]

This post made me smile ! Such a wholesome topic ^-^ Thank you for starting it. 
 

I personally have no problem seeing a caregiver as a parental figure , and have even referred to caregivers as ‘the rents’ or ‘the rental units’ being cheeky. I had parents growing up , but they weren’t parental towards me , so I find it more endearing than anything and find comfort in that term. I agree with @Vampiress in that I don’t need raising. I don’t need a caregiver to try to mold me or shape me into what they think I need to be or should be. I do think however , I need a good amount of guidance. Guiding me to be the best I can be at my own volition , I mean that’s what submission is all about. 
 

Advisor , parental figure , leader , confidant , safe place and and equal partner are all words I would use to describe a caregiver.

[Little Becca]

Hi!!!! This is a nice question!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

Ideally I wanna see my Daddy as my caregiver, my protector, a parental figure, my lover, and my bestest ever friend. I think that is just the perfect relationship!!!!!!

And for him, I wanna be someone who he always knows he can rely on to be on his side through thick and thin, someone who will always be his little helper, a sweet and little/childlike presence in his life, his lover, and bestest ever friend, too!!!!! ☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️

Edited July 19, 2022 by LittleLavenderGirl

[Guest]

Hi hi...
Honestly I agree with majority of the answers here, I see My daddy is my protector, confidant, anchor, and best friend. I wouldn't say "parent" because I'm still a grown woman who knows my own mind, body autonomy, and stress, but my daddy can help take the weight I carry to let me be carefree and just be me without taking on everyone else's burdens. He gives me the safe place I need to choose me first, since if it was up to me, I would run myself into the ground to make everyone else life better and stress free. 

I hope that kind of explains my perspective

[Baby Bat]

I see my Daddy in many different ways - a safe person, like the only person with whom i can really be my genuine self. A guide since he has had more world experience and has more common sense than I do (not insulting myself, it's just the truth and me accepting the way my brain works).

I always, in some capacity, see him as my husband... when I'm not in middle space, that is more prominent and feels like more of a relationship of two equals. (Okay maybe more like 60/40 with the favor to him heehee but that's the way I like it.)

But I also see him as my Dom. Like pretty much always.

I dunno just my personal take. 

[Winter Lillee]

I like the word caregiver because I think a Daddy/Mummy is like... someone who is taking care of me. 
They take care of my needs emotional, physical, mental, spiritual and sexual... they give care even when I don't ask for it or realise I need it. 

 

[Winter Lillee]

I like the word caregiver because I think a Daddy/Mummy is like... someone who is taking care of me. 
They take care of my needs emotional, physical, mental, spiritual and sexual... they give care even when I don't ask for it or realise I need it. 

 

[Mouse-]

Everyone’s answer is always going to be different because no one human has the same exact experiences of course.
 

My Daddy is my best friend first, my partner second, and caregiver last. What I mean by this is that when I look at my partner I don’t just see “daddy”. Of course I see that too, but it’s not just that. Our dynamic lacks structure, it can be ddlg for days to weeks and it can be non ddlg dynamic just as much. 
 

I guess what I’m trying to hint at, is that whilst I call him Daddy, I don’t necessarily see him as a parental figure. Although I do pick on him as if he is when he tells me what to do. He is my safe place, my person. My home.