Rule Classification

[Guest Missy Ann]

Me and my dom have a few rules (we started all over again a few weeks ago), and I was wondering if you guys divide your rules by sections? for example, general rules, communication rules, playtime rules, etc. I wanna try doing that but to be honest I've never seen anyone do it. I'd like to know what you think!

[Guest Libradaddy1980]

If certain rules only apply at certain times then yes, dividing them up would make things much easier.

It's pretty much exactly as you described. Put all general rules that are in effect at all time together. Rules for playtime together. Rules concerning communication together. Instead of having a long list randomly put together you keep them in sections so they are easily located and organized.

[Accountable Daddy]

When I sat down with my first little to put our rules together, we ended up breaking it down into categories. In fact I'll go ahead and just list (most) of it here to give inspiration for your own organization and maybe some rule ideas too:

Rules List
The following are our agreed rules as Daddy Dom and little girl.
Keep your room clean
Do your laundry regularly and as needed
Inform when either of us will be unavailable and, if possible, when available again
“Spamming” messages is acceptable at all times

General weekly:
Clean your bathroom
Brush cat
Make grocery list
Take out trash
Change bedsheets
Pay bills as needed
Budget your money for future bills
Take a bath, find bubbles/bath bombs you can use
Once a week, brush and braid your hair, do your makeup, and wear something nice. Go out somewhere relaxing (a park, restaurant, a live play or theater, etc)

Little Space:
Use your manners at all times. Say “please,” “thank you,” and “you’re welcome” and mean it.
No swearing
If you’re feeling sad, mad, or other strong feelings, you’ll let me know
Must always use “yes Sir/Daddy,” “no Sir/Daddy,” etc.
Storytime
Ask for candy or sweets or snacks
No talking back
No excessive delay in doing what you’re told

Morning duties:
Make your bed
Brush your teeth
Brush your hair
Get dressed
Hygiene (deodorant, feminine products) and Makeup (look like a princess!)
Have breakfast and your vitamins (no candy!)
Take a cute selfie and send it to me
Say good morning to me

Evening duties: 
Have dinner (no candy!)
No caffeine after 4pm
Remove all dishes from your room and wash them
Brush your teeth (only the ones you want to keep)
Shower/bath
Dress for bed
Brush your hair
Bedtime is 2am (Thursdays are an exception).
Say good night to me

Punishments (for a specified period of time when applicable):
Time out
No candy/snacks
No Social Media (except Snapchat and Discord for texting only and VC)
Lines
Rice pick-up
Self-spanking

 

Some notes. I put the spamming messages thing in there so she knew it was okay to message me any time and as much as she wanted. Also I think she had medications, but we called them "vitamins" just because we both liked that better. The selfies were to help her feel better about herself (and of course I liked seeing her in general anyway). The bedtime is also much later than I liked, but she was in college and had night classes at the time. I also made a sticker chart for her that's I've posted a couple of times elsewhere. Either way, it was all really focused on her taking care of herself and keeping communication open with me. And one other big detail she said she appreciated was I had a morning and evening routine. Instead of brush your teeth twice a day, it was clarified morning and evening. After all it makes it nicer to just do what's listed right there for that specific time period. Same idea for her "little" rules and in general. 

I strongly encourage getting together and making your rules together based on what works for you. And again, feel free to use this list as a template or just outright take any of it you like. I remember when I looked up other ideas, they were honestly pretty bad. So I'm happy to share mine.

[WigglyBun]

I think breaking things down into smaller sections can be really helpful for some people. Personally I thrive when I have a well defined set of rules, with notes for certain/different circumstances or "what ifs". I often get stuck with rules and if it's not clarified or if it doesn't feel 100% clear in that specific situation I often get overwhelmed and shut down. I am 100% going to borrow some of this for making my own rules/guidelines in regards to taking care of myself, thanks for sharing! Really interested to see other thoughts & how they categorize things!