Struggle of feeling little without a cg

[BabyBunnyPrincess]

Hii so I’ve recently broken up with my partner and therefore lost my caregiver. I’ve been struggling to regress and slip into my littlespace and whenever I do manage it, it doesn’t feel happy or comforting like it used to. 
I want my enjoyment back of being little I just don’t know how to go about getting that feeling back. So if anyone has any tips or advice on how I could feel more happy in littlespace without a caregiver anymore I’d be more than happy for your help! 

[Guest Ion1234]

With the right person it isnt hard. Its just finding that right one.

Edited June 24, 2022 by Ion1234

[Andriel_Isilien]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. 😢 Give yourself time to recover. I just uploaded an album on tips I have found helpful for being your own caregiver. 

 

[BabyBunnyPrincess]

Thank you so much

[WigglyBun]

I'm in the same boat too, it's tough but we've got this!! Be patient with yourself, you will get there, sometimes it just takes a bit longer than we like is all.

A few small things that have helped me is setting aside some time to do things I enjoy, whether they are little activities or not. It's a good way to show ourselves some love and kindness, and slowly get back into things that make us feel good. Sometimes I have a bath with a candle, or I colour, whatever I feel like I need at the moment. When the intrusive or sad thoughts come in I gently push them away and say "This isn't the time, right now I am doing something i enjoy.". If it's something I need to think about later I leave it for later and not let it intrude on my time.

Little friends can also help too! I often feel little when I am talking to other Little's and just being myself (I get very happy and little talking in the chat here on the site lol).

Sending you hugs if you'd like them, you've got this!

[Andriel_Isilien]

1 hour ago, WigglyBun said:

When the intrusive or sad thoughts come in I gently push them away and say "This isn't the time, right now I am doing something i enjoy.". If it's something I need to think about later I leave it for later and not let it intrude on my time.

Love what you said. This is something I have been working with my therapist. The bad feelings are like a carousel and usually when they strike I am not in a safe place to process them. I work on giving myself permission to not appear productive because this is ME time. The self-care to unwind, destress, or soothe is critical for healing just as much as facing the nasty emotions.

[WigglyBun]

51 minutes ago, andrielisilien said:

Love what you said. This is something I have been working with my therapist. The bad feelings are like a carousel and usually when they strike I am not in a safe place to process them. I work on giving myself permission to not appear productive because this is ME time. The self-care to unwind, destress, or soothe is critical for healing just as much as facing the nasty emotions.

This is honestly so nice to hear, I have been working at it for years...somedays the thoughts still get to me, but not near as badly as they used to! I know people think it's bogus because it does take practice which takes time...and time spent feeling sad/uncomfortable/etc sucks...but I can say it's worth it in the long run. Luckily they don't come to me often when little unless I am playing dress up & my brain wants to be mean to me about my looks.

I also like to think of it as something that a daddy or caregiver would say or help me with in that moment if I were having little space time with them, they would likely want to help me get those thoughts out of the way so I could enjoy my time and have fun and if the thoughts need to be addressed there is a better time for that later!