Trust

[Whiskeyreddhead]

What do you do when your Teddy keeps breaking your trust….? This little is so confused and doesn’t know what to do. I’ve repeatedly given chance after chance and I end up hurt….there is another Daddy giving the right attention. I’m so confused. Tips, advice.

[MasterPhotog]

It seems that it's time you need to have a serious talk. Giving too many chaces often ends up being taken for granted. 

[Whiskeyreddhead]

We’ve had MULTIPLE talks. This relationship is going on almost 12 years now.

[Bumbl3B33]

What do you do when your Teddy keeps breaking your trust….? This little is so confused and doesn’t know what to do. I’ve repeatedly given chance after chance and I end up hurt….there is another Daddy giving the right attention. I’m so confused. Tips, advice.

​My deepest feelers for you.  I myself know your not alone in this aspect of your life your.  My Daddy/hubby and I have been married for 13 yrs, and he challenges my trust in him and it breaks my heart. He has no desire to be DD, even though I call him Daddy. However, I can honestly say I trust him with my life but not to tell the truth(alcoholism). I can honestly say I am in-love with him, but I get it whole heatedly. Do what you can live with. If you choose to end your relationship to pursue this other Daddy, just make sure you can live with your decision. But if you stay with you current Daddy except he's not going to change if he doesn't want to. You have only control over your own actions. You are VALID in all ways, and your feelings matter!  Best of luck. 

 

Lots of Luvs

Edited May 30, 2022 by Bumbl3B33

[WigglyBun]

If this has been happening over multiple years and there are no changes (or very minimal changes over the 12 years) I think the answer is pretty clear.

Change is possible, but they have to be ready and willing. It might not all happen overnight, sometimes it can take even years depending on the changes...but it is possible to a certain extent & within reason, of course. Unfortunately, most people are very unwilling to change, they might make small adjustments in the moment to appease someone, but generally go back to their regular ways once they are forgiven, or in the clear. Change can be hard, and if someone is getting away without making changes...why would they bother to do anything different?

I'm going to leave you with a quote that helps me in moments like this: "You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce."