How did you and your daddy/little/etc. start your DDLG relationship?

[Guest Cas-the-kitten]

I'm trying to find the courage to tell the boy I'm involved with that I want him to be my Daddy 

I'm not really sure how he'll react, though he is into dom/sub relations in the bedroom and he's very caring.

Anywho, it'd help bunches if I could hear some stories about how you all and your daddy's/littles/etc. 

ended up being what you are today! <3

[daddysdoodle]

My Daddy and I already had a D/s relationship. I kind of jokingly started calling him Daddy before I really knew that DD/lg was even a thing, and then I came across the DD/lg community on tumblr probably like a year ago and just sent him a bunch of links and was like, "I feel like this is us..." and then we kind of incorporated it into our relationship and then it kind of died down which was due to just a lot of other things going on at the time. And then like three months ago I was like, "hey, remember this thing we did that I feel like is really a part of who I am and it made me really happy, we should do that again." and he was like, "okay, cool." 

But even with us both totally on board, we're still learning how to navigate it a lot. Like before we considered ourselves DD/lg or really knew what it was, I definitely went into little space but not to the degree that I go into it now, which mostly was because I didn't even know that it was a possibility. And my Daddy is definitely a caretaker, but he's also like really easy going and something that I NEED is structure or I will literally never get anything done so that's something that we're working on.

 

Also, my Daddy and I have been together for six years and there is a lot of trust and love in our relationship, so I honestly never really worried about him responding to it negatively. Also, he's really open minded so even when I bring up things that I'm like, "you'll probably think this is weird, but..." he's always like, "no, tell me more..." 

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

We met on fetlife. The dynamic was already implied. I really doubt I personally could ever meet someone in the vanilla world and try get him to be a daddy. I gave up on trying to adapt myself or someone else a while ago. Not worth the effort in my opinion. But that's me, not telling anyone else what's right or wrong.

[appleblueberry]

My Daddy was originally first my boyfriend, then we did dom/sub and now we're here...

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

My Daddy and I were also only boyfriend/girlfriend for about 2 years until I found out about the BDSM community via Tumblr. I joined Fetlife, read a ton of blog posts, and sent an e-mail with the links to my Daddy. It resonated with him so we gave it a go and, now, I'm so glad we share this dynamic because our relationship has gotten stronger. 

[Princess-P]

I think the thing to remember here is that in any kind of relationship dynamic be it BDSM or vanilla there is certain level of trust needed to open up. If you aren't sure how someone will react or feel to nervous to bring something up to them then maybe you need to keep getting to know each other better and let the relationship grow some more.

 

Lables aren't what make a DDlg relationship but I can understand wanting them. When your ready then you sit down and tell the other person what you would like. Your adults so you should be able to talk to each other like ones. You can express your interest in the DDlg dynamic and see how he feels. If some things that interest you don't interest him or vice versa you can maybe compromise but you can't push someone to do something they don't want. It won't be enjoyable to either of you if its forced.

 

In my past experience it just came naturally. We dated, then explored BDSM together. My former Daddy was a natural caregiver, which is what atreaced me in the first place, we talked about Daddy Dom's and I started calling him Daddy in the bedroom. The labels soon became part of the every day all day lifestyle we lived.

 

Just take your time and make sure your comfortable with this person before you try to label what/who you are. If you feel worried about how he will react you may not be ready. I mean the worst that can happen if you have a strong healthy relationship is he says its not for him.