What's your Daddy Style?

[DaddysDemonBabygirl]

Hey! I just watched this awesome video about different styles of being a Daddy. It's by Evie Lupine, and she's a really great BDSM educator, so feel free to check it out:

 

 

While I was watching it, I was shocked that she mentioned the very specific Daddy archetype I seek out, and that is the Professor/Mentor Daddy. She described the Professor/student dynamic I consciously sought out. As a result, I met my Daddy who's a professor and a doctor. We've been together for almost 2 years now, and we're finally going to meet in person next week. I'm so excited!

 

I realize that this video definitely doesn't cover the all of the Daddies to ever Daddy. In this video, she lists the Teddy Bear Daddy, the Disciplinarian Daddy, the Cold and Distant Daddy, the "Dad Joke" Daddy, the Professor/Mentor Daddy, the princess's daddy (lowercase d), and the Brave Knight Daddy. But I was wondering: Do any of you actually identify with any of these labels? I was just watching this for shits and giggles, only to be surprised that she described my dynamic very well.

 

If none of these "styles" resonate with you, how would you describe your style of Daddying? If you're a little or middle, how would you describe the type of dynamic you seek out?

[Plum]

Not a Daddy, but I love Evie Lupine! She's so wonderful! I actually showed this video to my Daddy when she put it out to see how he felt about it.

He really liked the way she explained the different archetypes. He personally related to a combination of the "Teddy Bear Daddy" and the "Brave Knight Daddy". He also said he really liked the explanation of the "Princess' Daddy" archetype, but less in the lowercase "d" way, and more in the service dominant way. I didn't even think about that being an option until he pointed it out! I think it's super interesting to see how many different ways there are to identify as a "Daddy"! :3

[(not) Narancia]

Is there a stupid idiot option? Bc id definetly fit into that one lmao

[Guest Daddycaresforyou]

I just realise with this video that I have few elements of 3 different types coming together, and not fitting totally in one. Interesting video

[Guest UnicornPuff]

Baby Girl myself, but it makes sense that there are many different types of Daddies… just as there are all kinds of Littles and Middles.

[Harlee-qwinnie]

Is there a stupid idiot option? Bc id definetly fit into that one lmao

Why do you say that?

[Guest Daddylyfe]

Playdough. I try to understand the needs of my little and mold myself to that. Since I'm picky about who I date, I already know this hypothetical person clicks with me, and I don't really have a preference for how little a little is, or anything. All that is secondary. So once a girl gets that far, all I want to do is make sure she's comfy, taken care of and does the things she needs to get done. I can be strict if I need to, but I'm mostly a teddy bear. Really it's the wider picture I care about the most, so I Daddy in a way that I feel takes care of my little the best. 

[junebug0325]

I think Evie did a great job in explaining the different styles without putting Daddy's into a box. She made it very clear from the start that a Daddy can be a combination of the different styles, and I really like that - it makes it easier for newcomers but doesn't pressure them to fitting into a label. 

 

Thanks for sharing!

 

 

 

 

Junebug x.

[Vampiress]

I definitely like a mix of Teddy Bear Daddy (soft, sweet, caring), Disciplinarian Daddy (masochism, structure, discipline), Dad Joke Daddy (fun, silly, guidance), Professor/Mentor (learning, mentoring, guidance, appeals to me being a sapiosexual), and Brave Knight Daddy (safety, protection, listening, reliable).

 

Cold and Distant Daddy definitely isn't for me. A relationship like that would fail badly because it would wear on me too much to never feel like I can reach such lofty expectations which would make me feel not good enough. I'm a phsyical masochist, not an emotional one. Princess' Daddy is also not for me because I am not a dominant type.

[DaddyDomination]

I like her comment on a lot of "boxes she wants to free you from." 

[daddymind]

So cool that she mentioned the Princess's daddy type! I'd say I loosely identify with three types mentioned here.

 

1. Princess's daddy - this is my primary sexuality as a daddy. I get off on being a service sub to a demanding, entitled, bratty Princess, basically. This dynamic is a big part of what fuels my "above and beyond" daily service that other couples would perhaps see as unequal to the point of it being a kink. A lot of "yes, Princess". I'm sometimes seen as a loyal dog/pet. There are sexual elements such as long term chastity/denial and foot worship involved here.

 

2. Professor/mentor daddy - often I'll be required to offer guidance on matters that Princess is unsure about or having trouble with. So this will be a more vulnerable side to her that I have to respond to, without being the "nodding dog" of the above type. I think I'm (most of the time) pretty good at this and my persona becomes firmer and perhaps even dominant if there is a task that she ultimately has to do herself or needs to be corrected on something for her own good.

 

3. "Dad Joke" Daddy - when I'm in a more playful mood I'll poke fun here and there, try (ahem) to be witty and maybe a little sassiness will emerge. Princess does enjoy this (I guess it's akin to the court jester entertaining royalty lol). But... if I take it too far it often leads us right back to #1. She knows she can put me right back into my service role at any time and then play time is over.

 

There are sprinklings of the other types in there on occasion. The only one not involved is Disciplinarian. Princess does not allow this and, although I do have it in me somewhere to discipline/punish, it's never enabled, requested or encouraged. I have to either meet her demands or negotiate/guide within the Professor/mentor space.

[CuriousKitty]

Newish Little here, love that video and the different explanations. I’d love to find a teddy/knight Daddy, probably with a dash of mentor.

 

I’m NOT into the cold daddy. Nope nope nope, already have anxiety and worries about not being good enough- not smart enough, not pretty enough, too fat, too loud, the list goes on, that Daddy would just break me down further. No judgement, just not for me.

 

Also, little d daddy wouldn’t be my cup of tea either. Realized my ex who I first started exploring this dynamic with probably was though. I have a strong personality, used to being in charge all the time at work and I need/want someone more forceful to take charge and get me out of my own head at home. I also have a few brat tendencies, but it’s more out of insecurity than anything else. I push back/away expecting people to leave me, need that stronger personality to not put up with that bullsh!t and show me sometimes people do stay even if I’m not perfect all the time.