Have any of you Littles or medals tried to date a non-DDLG person?

[Harlee-qwinnie]

CB, I am SO happy for you guys, and I am hoping along with everyone else that things work out for the best for you both.  Thank you so much for sharing your story with us and letting us be a part of this season in your journey.  It's obvious from the photo how pleased and happy you two are to be together again!  Best to you and enjoy the summer!

Best for you, 

Harlee

[Cebakes]

Ha ha, that journey ended quickly after my last post this summer.  We both continued on our journeys although we did keep in touch, saw each other several times, and ended communication at one point due to it being too painful to talk.

I had not heard from S for a while and was really giving her space to do what was best for her. I Just met someone new locally who was very interested in DDLG and was moving forward with her when S called me last week.  

S confessed that she can no longer hold back her love for me and desire to have a Daddy.  She probably dated a half dozen guys since April and they all fell short of what she was looking for.  

I’ve told her I don’t want to start this up and end it abruptly again. Hopefully she has figured things out. We both feel we are soulmates and if it wasn’t for our age gap, we would probably be engaged.

we have looked back and discussed several things that we will do different. One is making more of an effort to get out and make sure things don’t become mundane. Especially with winter coming, it’s easy to stay inside, binge TV, smoke 420,  drink, order DoorDash, have sex, instead of getting out and about….

The other is to make sure we both get some time apart.  While  it was great living together, she did have her own apartment and needs to spend more time there. I think that would be good for both of us.   

Hopefully her closest friends will also stop pounding on her to date people her own age and stop adding to her fear of growing old, not getting married, and being alone.  

This will be our fourth Christmas in a row together.❤️

[MelodyDrifter]

A question I can answerrr lol

I dated a guy this year that wasn’t a daddy at all (was at times caregiverish but wasn’t a fan of me calling him or him being my daddy)

Although I may be wrong, I think many littles (including myself) have had to deal with either some sort of mental illness or trauma in the past and being little is our brains way of allowing us to be vulnerable when we feel safe

unfortunately, this means if we attempt to date in a non ddlg dynamic we tend to attract a certain type that is emotionally immature or has trauma that they haven’t sorted out/healed from, just because to people not into the lifestyle being a little comes across as naive or inexperienced

#no more ‘normal’ relationships for me anyway lol

Edited November 13, 2022 by Sad

[Cebakes]

10 hours ago, Sad said:

A question I can answerrr lol

I dated a guy this year that wasn’t a daddy at all (was at times caregiverish but wasn’t a fan of me calling him or him being my daddy)

Although I may be wrong, I think many littles (including myself) have had to deal with either some sort of mental illness or trauma in the past and being little is our brains way of allowing us to be vulnerable when we feel safe

unfortunately, this means if we attempt to date in a non ddlg dynamic we tend to attract a certain type that is emotionally immature or has trauma that they haven’t sorted out/healed from, just because to people not into the lifestyle being a little comes across as naive or inexperienced

#no more ‘normal’ relationships for me anyway lol

S and I have discussed why she is interested in DDLG. To her knowledge she has never been sexually assaulted, experienced significant trauma, and she has a fantastic dad.  Her dad did treat her like a literal princess growing up and I know that she craves that and fears not having that. 

S Admits that she is needy, craves attention, and needs to feel protected. I can see that DDLG is certainly a release for her as well. She does have a very bad ADHD and things can get out of control for her.  I am not bothered by it and I’m always able to get her under control if needed. She has a very stressful job, is a surgical nurse, #2 charge nurse at times, and can oversee up to five nurses twice her age.  Her surgical center is a real snake pit with egotistical doctors and women that create drama amongst themselves.

S dated probably between 4-5 guys between April and last month.  None were into DDLG and they were all vanilla.   I was disappointed when we talked about their backgrounds and it was clear she was settling and could have done better.  Even after 3 1/2 years, she still has some self-esteem and body image issues.

 I told her that she would not be able to walk away from DDLG. She has really been into it for a good five or six years, reads daily blogs,e novels, etc.  S admits that she craves having a daddy,  hated not being able to be a middle.  She is also highly sexual and needs a dominant male to tame her.  

So we are once again in a good place and our journey continues. I know she is happy to be back with me, but  she is very disappointed in what she saw out there this summer.  She admits she doesn’t know if she will ever find anyone else like me, and that scares her.

I try to tell her that she needs to be herself and live her life, and not worry about what others think about our age gap relationship.   She is under constant pressure from three of her closest friends to not get back with me. They really don’t know me and don’t understand our relationship. 

So that’s where we are.

 

[LongTimeMe]

On 5/16/2022 at 12:48 PM, Cebakes said:

Now we are very much in love... With our age gap, getting married isn’t practical.  

 

Edited November 13, 2022 by LongTimeMe