Advice?

[mutantPet]

I'm a little with a younger Daddy!

My Daddy is still in High school and he gets super stressed out about homework and school work.

I really want to help him but I'm so bad at math and literally everything he works on! Daddy gets terrible anxiety over school and I just dont know how to help, his school isnt very understanding either.

 

Is there any websites I could give him to help him with his anxiety? Like a chatroom or just something calming? Anything, I just want Daddy to feel better.

[Guest Mr TwitchPool]

Wouldnt high school make him under 18? Regardless Plenty of sites for Anxiety use Dr Google.  Controlled breathing goes a long way and youtube videos also can help.

[lilvioletcub]

https://www.khanacademy.org/

 

Also this site helps me with my anxiety: http://www.ferryhalim.com/orisinal/

 

However the fact that he is still in high school is worrysome since it might imply he is under 18. last I checked seionr year was nothing to be seriously stressed over since by then the classes are easy pick and chose.

 

Why is a 23 year old dating high schooler? Also of course the school won't care the school's job is to educate not pander to silly "Mental illnesses" <--sarcasm

[Vlad ziva's Owner]

I'd recommend that he sees a licensed psychologist and/or psychiatrist for his anxiety. If he is diagnosed with any anxiety disorders, the doctors could possibly fill out a form to give to the school that allows him exemptions or delayed due dates on assignments. 

Also, to the people asking about age, in a lot of states, if your birthday falls between certain dates, they will delay your entry into public school and you will have to wait to start, which means that you can start your senior year at the age of 18, sometimes rarely 19. Also, the age of consent in some states (cannot remember how many or which ones specifically),the age of consent is 16.

[Guest Cas-the-kitten]

I have server anxiety issues. And, everybody is different, but what helps me a lot is turning everything off for a bit, the tv and my phone and stuff, dim the lights, having someone rub my back while we breathe together. Sometimes in silence, or sometimes with music.

[Guest littlemissragamuffin]

Just wanted to say I was 19 and still in high school. Like the one person said sometimes they make you wait to start school or you know sometimes people get held back too

[Foffy]

For anxiety he should really see somebody. I'd recommend a therapist over a psychiatrist.

 

If he has trouble concentrating on work or learning, I would first suggest study/working music. He should listen to it while working and it will probably help him focus. Stars of the Lid and some Brian Eno are good for this, and for some people electronic/EDM works well. There are also some people who prefer metal and other genres, but music without lyrics is best. I'd also personally recommend Hammock and A Winged Victory for the Sullen, as well as anything classical. It sounds silly and stereotypical but classical music really does help you focus. Once you focus, you can complete what you need to in the time you need to; then you are less stressed about assignments and less dreading working on them, and a lot of that pain goes away.

 

The other half is time management which you can help with. Although it's typical for littles to have chore charts you could help him organize his homework into blocks each day -- there's two hours to get assignments done each day, you get the idea. These blocks must be dedicated completely to work. No texting, etc. unless you are long distance in which case I would say it's alright to be on Skype chatting with you; you can spend that time working on your own school work, or doing little activities along with him -- you "work" on your coloring while he works on his homework, etc. and you can stick by him to make sure you're available to help him get it done if necessary. Even if you can't provide any help with the actual work and it sounds a bit silly, a little moral support goes a long way. You almost have to be his "big" in this situation. Long-term school projects must be started as soon as they are given, because each passing day generates more anxiety and stress. "Last minute" is the worst solution.

 

As far as your relationship goes, be a general loving, caring and understanding partner and do what you can for him -- just always remember that it's not your responsibility to "fix" him -- you can just help him along.