Confusion in ddlg relationship

[Princesskitty622]

I 19 female have been a little since I was much younger. Studying Kink and Ddlg since I was around 15 years old. I have always had a childlike love of the world that I used as an escape when world got hard. So i began to look into ddlg. Learning what it was to be a little and a submissive. I have a husband who wants to learn how to be the best daddy for me. He's tried researching just sometimes i feel like his heart isn't all there yet. This makes me feel like sometimes I'm not helping him enough or that when im in little space that i cause him inconveniences. It has made slipping into little space harder because I’m worried it’s because he hates it. Even tho he has expressed multiple times that it’s only because he hasn’t found a teacher he understood fully. He has the drive, the heart, and the want to become a dominant and to help take care of me as more than just a husband. But I don't know how to tell him how i feel and that little space is becoming so much more rare for me because of me feeling like he despises that side of me. Please help…?

[O.B.]

I hope someone more experienced than me comes along and I hope you guys work something out!

 

I'm kind of new to this dynamic too, but with a lot of reading and asking the forums (and some people I met irl) I feel like I'm getting a better understanding of who I am in this dynamic and I'm beginning to feel a bit more confident with everything I learn and the advice I get.

 

I don't know how long he's been looking into this but definitely give him time to read up and get the hang of what it is. Maybe let him ask around the forum?

[junebug0325]

I think it is so easy to rush into things especially when you have been researching the lifestyle for multiple years now. How long has he been researching? From your post, it doesn't seem like a long time.

 

I met my Daddy when I was 18 and I was just starting to get into the lifestyle. I am now 22 and I still learn new things about myself and about my little space everyday. I don't know if it's because I've been so busy and stressed out because of college and work life, but I don't feel like I've been able to continue exploring my little space because life has been in the way. 

 

As I said, I met my Daddy when I was 18 and we've been together since. He has always been a good Daddy but he constantly pulls me out of little space on accident - he doesn't mean it. But, I have to constantly communicate what brought be out of little space to him so he understands and he can avoid it and the topic of discussion that brings me out.

 

I guess what I'm trying to say is that nobody is all knowing, even those of us who have been in the lifestyle for a while. Open communication and mentoring, experimentation, and research are ways that we get to understand the lifestyle, but they happen over time.

 

It sounds like your partner has much love for you and is trying his best to help you in little space and as long as you keep the lines of communication open with him, I think he will come around. 

 

 

 

 

 

Junebug x.

[Bumbl3B33]

Princess Kitty, Junebug's so right. But I get it too. I have D.I.D. mine mental health disorder of age regression. I'm 43 and been a Little My whole life. My hubby/Daddy are still learning and he's so not a Dom. I gots no punishment but I hate seeing disappoinment in his eyes. He still suppose me and protects me too.  And my little-space is not something he wants ta do. So hang in there and you'll figure it out.  Lots of fuzzy luv! 

[DaddyLovesStars]

Maybe he is a bit jealous of this space you go into that's separate from him or what he understands. Why don't you try sharing things that aren't so Little that both of you can enjoy? Like a Disney Movie or movie both a Little an Adulty sort can both love and share together? I use to let my little just go off into her own world and do her own thing and keep an eye out. Sometimes including myself here or there. They were a bit protective of that space as I recall ... telling me to back off at times!

 

There is a bit of a difference between a Fetishy, Daddy Dom relationship and a Age Regressing Little. In fact it's about as far away from one another for some as you can get and that make confuse people. 

 

Not everyone will be up to have that... Older, or very mature Men or Women shall be better at getting there is something up here. Younger will tend to be more like if it's not an activity we both can share then it's an issue. Whatever you do, don't stress it. Tell 'em little Space is like when he goes and games, plays with his buddies or whatever... If he wants or chooses to be part of it or not. No need to let it bother you right? 

[peachprince]

i struggle with a very similar thing!!! my partner tries but he is just unable to care for me right now- which is valid and ok- but i struggle a lot of times when i get little bc i need him or want him when im like that but dont want to annyoy him or anything!!

something that has helped me a little lately is getting little on my own. This is hard sometimes, bc i still crave him to take care of me and all the good things liek that, but he just cant right now so i gotta adapt!

I usually get my favorite stuffy or one i wanna hang with, put on some cartoons, and get out my paci. I try to get myself there and stay for a littlebit while its fun! its harder but it definetly has helped me since my little side cant just go away- much like yours!