Feeling disconnected with my 'little' self :(

[littlegoodgirl16]

Hi, 

 

its been a while since I've been on this forum, 2 years to be exact! 

 

Truthfully, I've been busy with life and university is burning my brain, pandemic isn't exactly helping either. I haven't been able to sink into my little space for about 7 months now and its been quite an emotional rollercoaster for me as little space is the only way i can fully relax and escape the stresses of the adult world.

 

Has anyone else been feeling this way? or is it just me? i feel lonely with this feeling, I wish i could just make it stop and be little! I've just been under a lot of stress this past year, maybe I'm too high strung to be put into littles pace? I miss it though, being little helped me a lot in relieving stress and made me feel safe and comforted. 

 

Any tips on how to get back into little space would be greatly appreciated! 

 

xoxo L 

[Bumbl3B33]

Oh it's not just you!  We all have a time in our lives when it feels like that. But the thing is not to beat yourself up. Just do something small at first. Something like bubbling bubbles. It's silly but fun.

 

Oh and I had to do a make over of my Little space. It's didn't call to me anymore. Maybe that is what's needed. I don't know. But I'll send you all my warm buzzy feelers. 

Good Luck and don't give up:-)

[DaddyLovesStars]

I feel discombobulated as well. . . The Pandemic wasn't all that bad, I felt better then than now. It's like everyone is in this mode of 'move move move' and get out of my way. It's hard to find motivation and meaning in things. I think cause a lot of bad things have happened and a lot of people are just so 'carefree now' they don't care they are enjoying their lives but few are stopping and saying... Smell the Roses, enjoy one another's companionship. 

 

During the Pandemic I made some of the closest relationships I've made and now they are all busy with activities.. I am too but relationships have taken a second seat as have people that aren't in the immediate world. 

[halkyone]

Hi, 

 

its been a while since I've been on this forum, 2 years to be exact! 

 

Truthfully, I've been busy with life and university is burning my brain, pandemic isn't exactly helping either. I haven't been able to sink into my little space for about 7 months now and its been quite an emotional rollercoaster for me as little space is the only way i can fully relax and escape the stresses of the adult world.

 

Has anyone else been feeling this way? or is it just me? i feel lonely with this feeling, I wish i could just make it stop and be little! I've just been under a lot of stress this past year, maybe I'm too high strung to be put into littles pace? I miss it though, being little helped me a lot in relieving stress and made me feel safe and comforted. 

 

Any tips on how to get back into little space would be greatly appreciated!

 

Have you considered trying a therapy instead? I'm not sure not being able to fully relax in any other way is healthy.

Edited April 10, 2022 by halkyone

[DaddyDomination]

I can only speak from the other side, and from helping friends who are writers. When you feel disconnected I think it's best to put your energy into something else. You don't want to try and force yourself into little space. It shouldn't be a forced thing as with all things. 

 

If you put your energy into doing some thing else, Hobbies, mental, physical, health improvement, work, writing, just anything that is positive. You may find yourself craving the little space and fall back into it, more naturally. 

[littlegoodgirl16]

Oh it's not just you!  We all have a time in our lives when it feels like that. But the thing is not to beat yourself up. Just do something small at first. Something like bubbling bubbles. It's silly but fun.

 

Oh and I had to do a make over of my Little space. It's didn't call to me anymore. Maybe that is what's needed. I don't know. But I'll send you all my warm buzzy feelers. 

Good Luck and don't give up:-)

 

glad to know its not just me! Yeah, I'm thinking of getting new plushies and redecorating my room so i hope that will help me  

 

sending you warm buzzy feelers too! 

[littlegoodgirl16]

I feel discombobulated as well. . . The Pandemic wasn't all that bad, I felt better then than now. It's like everyone is in this mode of 'move move move' and get out of my way. It's hard to find motivation and meaning in things. I think cause a lot of bad things have happened and a lot of people are just so 'carefree now' they don't care they are enjoying their lives but few are stopping and saying... Smell the Roses, enjoy one another's companionship. 

 

During the Pandemic I made some of the closest relationships I've made and now they are all busy with activities.. I am too but relationships have taken a second seat as have people that aren't in the immediate world. 

i understand completely, i wish we didn't live in such a fast paced society, stopping and smelling the roses is definitely something i need to work on... 

[littlegoodgirl16]

Have you considered trying a therapy instead? I'm not sure not being able to fully relax in any other way is healthy.

 

i go to therapy once a month which i find is fine for me and i do have other stress relievers such as going on walks and reading. 

 

What i meant by "not being able to relax fully" was that i'm not able to fully relax into my little space, which is hard for me as it was one of the primary ways i used to escape the real world, so it's been difficult to not have that. Walking and reading help but they are still activities that I do as my adult self, therefore requiring me to participate in the adult real world. Little space takes me out of it and provides me a space to feel safe and comforted without needing to be present in the adult world.

 

Sorry if I'm not making sense btw, i just miss being little a lot. 

[littlegoodgirl16]

I can only speak from the other side, and from helping friends who are writers. When you feel disconnected I think it's best to put your energy into something else. You don't want to try and force yourself into little space. It shouldn't be a forced thing as with all things. 

 

If you put your energy into doing some thing else, Hobbies, mental, physical, health improvement, work, writing, just anything that is positive. You may find yourself craving the little space and fall back into it, more naturally. 

 

i have been putting my energy into university and journalling so far. I'm also thinking of getting into watercolour painting, maybe that'll help my little self come out again. But yes, i'm not gonna force it, it'll happen eventually i suppose but i hate waiting haha 

[feather-among-stones]

I get the struggle so much. I haven't been comfortably in little space for 3 years now (at least). I can tell you how I'm dealing with the problem and you might pick something from these tips:

• I try to focus on something else long-term (like someone here suggested above), while here and then trying again to go into little space.
• I'm finding that my inability to get into little space serves some higher purpose. All my life I fell back to little space when things got tough. It was my main coping mechanism for life. Now it's time to think who I am outside little space and how to cope outside it. Find new ways to cope (haven't figured out how yet). Also, it was the struggle to get into little space that made me truly realize how it has been a big part of my life and how I relied on it.
• Trying to find another little to put me into space or a caregiver who would wake up that sleeping little inside by their approval and loving nature, when it's time.
• Even if I can't be in a little mindset right now, I can still enjoy little activities that I like and let it be. If it feels awkward, I choose middle activites or activities that adults are "allowed" to do, as well (adult coloring books, gaming etc.)

Good luck and may your little side come back to you again!

Edited May 6, 2022 by feather-among-stones