WHEN DADDY IS MAD

[Littlebearprincess]

Hi, I need help with something. Two days ago I was a little disrespectful to my daddy, although it wasn't my real intentions. When I realized what I had said before I could apologize he grabbed my hair and pulled it back and spoke to me in a very ugly tone. It was like he was out of his mind, then he just left and refused to talk to me. After a few minutes I went to apologize to him and also told him that it didn't make me feel good when he treated me like that. He just ignored me and canceled the date we had for later. That night he just went to sleep and we didn't talk from there. I feel like he's getting angrier at me and I don't know what to do or say in the meantime. I don't know if it's important but it's only recently that he started yelling at me like that.Thank you for any advice. 

[PennyGoodfellow]

If I were you I would start thinking about breaking up/leaving. I know that's harsh, but it's NOT ok with how he's treated you. The dynamic should always be consensual and you communicated that you weren't happy and comfortable with how he treated you. 
The silent treatment isn't healthy, and he either needs to learn how to express himself and you two need to come up with better punishments that make everyone feel safe and comfortable, or it's time for you to leave him. 

 

I'm so sorry you were treated that way, you don't deserve that ugly treatment. 

[gentledaddydom1988]

I probably don't have much else different to add other than what's been said already. Your "daddy" was over-exaggerated in his response, and his treatment of you was way too harsh, regardless of whatever you did. You did not deserve the way he treated you. I am so sorry. Please be careful. This could be a beginning of worse behavior from him.

[CuriousRed89]

As somebody that is trying to get out of a verbally abusive marriage I'm begging you to turn around and run. Things won't get better. They will only get worse. How long have you guys been together? Do you live together?

[Guest]

Hello, 
I know you are confused and scared, especially when this person is supposed to be someone who is giving you care and love but this is not healthy behavior at all. Not only the nonconsensual hair pulling (physical punishment should always be discussed before hand and consented to) but the emotional/mental harm he is inflicting on you with his behavior is not right. 

I hate to give you this type of advice cuz i never like to step into someone else's relationship/dynamic but this seems to be the first step into a very toxic pattern and you should really evaluate on possibly leaving before it gets worse. 

Best of luck sweet bee, 
im here if you need to talk more

[lil_princess00]

Hey little bear princess, I added you as a friend, if you add me back then we can private message. I think you could really use a friend and some advice but might not want it to all be public, if you would prefer that, we are all here for you to give advice on this thread.

 

If you are seriously scared of your daddy, of what h might do, and he is doing things like hair pulling and grabbing that was not discussed t/and consented to before, hat is not okay at all and you need to get out and away from him as quickly and safely as possible.

 

Nothing absolutely NOTHING you ever do or say gives him permission to behave like that unless you gave him explicit permission to do those things.

 

Also a daddy should NEVER punish his little when he is angry. Those are several huge red flags if not straight up abusive behaviors. Please keep us posted on your wellbeing alright?

Violet

[lil_princess00]

My message went twice and now I can't delete this one. Whoops. Sorry everybody!

Edited March 7, 2022 by Guest

[Little kaiya]

What you're describing, as there was no consent, is abuse. If he is physically abusing you and verbally and emotionally abusing you and emotionally blackmailing you by canceling dates then the only advice I can offer is RUN!! RUN QUICK, FAST AND FAR.

[DaddyDom3238]

Hello, 

I am so sorry that you experienced this situation, I have been in the lifestyle for over twenty years as a Daddy/Dom and I have never treated a little/sub as you are describing. As others said above there is no excuse at all for this behavior and if he is doing this now and gets away with it, his behavior will only be amplified as he will become more bold as he feels he can do whatever he wants to you. It is abuse plain and simple, this lifestyle is not abusive. It is nurturing, loving, trusting, and most importantly consensual. Abuse is not and should not be tolerated. Please move on from this person so you are not hurt further. 

Tyler

[Guest DeadStarsStillBurn]

Hi, I need help with something. Two days ago I was a little disrespectful to my daddy, although it wasn't my real intentions. When I realized what I had said before I could apologize he grabbed my hair and pulled it back and spoke to me in a very ugly tone. It was like he was out of his mind, then he just left and refused to talk to me. After a few minutes I went to apologize to him and also told him that it didn't make me feel good when he treated me like that. He just ignored me and canceled the date we had for later. That night he just went to sleep and we didn't talk from there. I feel like he's getting angrier at me and I don't know what to do or say in the meantime. I don't know if it's important but it's only recently that he started yelling at me like that.Thank you for any advice. 

This is emotional stonewalling which is a classic behavior of manipulative, abusive people. If you're asking my two cents, your options are:

 

1. Leave him cold turkey and good luck finding a less abusive partner in the future

2. Go stay at a friend's place and tell him you want to go to counseling and don't feel comfortable living together again until he has agreed to and attended several counseling sessions

 

The latter isn't super likely to work though. Generally you want to go to counseling BEFORE things get so bad that abuse is happening actively. So my best advice is leave the guy. No amount of "but it's really good, some of the time" is worth being abused non-consensually.